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To be fed up with comments on the size of my baby at DH family party

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arabicaqueen · 30/12/2024 12:42

My 9 week old was 9lb 15 when he was born and has been tracking the 98th centile since so he is a big baby. I think he’s perfect how he is, but I was at my husband’s family Christmas party yesterday and the constant comments about DS size really started to get to me. Especially because his cousin has a baby boy who is 9 months old and is tiny for his age, so the comparisons were endless with how big DS is compared to his cousin’s baby. If it were one or two comments then I get it but it felt like it was all night. Comments like “what must you be feeding him?!”, “you’ll be passing hand me downs to cousin’s baby, not the other way around!”, “how big was he when he was born again 😱”, “just look at them next to each other”. I was trying to move the conversation on and away from babies and their sizes but they kept going back to it and I ended up just hmming to all the comments and looking forward to going home. DH thinks I was over sensitive and that’s just his family (who are big, loud and opinionated), and baby is big so they’re not wrong. But it was really getting to me how they kept on gong on about it, like there was something wrong with my baby.

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Peacelily001 · 30/12/2024 12:54

My DS was 11lb OP, he was long and fairly chunky. I don’t remember any negative comments, just what a healthy baby he was!

KitsyWitsy · 30/12/2024 12:54

My middle son was 10lb 2oz. I had all the same comments. I think you’re being over-sensitive but I can understand why it gets on your nerves.

lightsandtunnels · 30/12/2024 12:53

I would say kindly that you are being over sensitive but you are allowed to be and it's expected if you've just had a baby 9 weeks ago!

It's hard if in a big room full of people - it only takes each person to say one thing each and it seems like a lot. They were probably well meaning and just cooing over your gorgeous baby.

climb12sides · 30/12/2024 12:52

It's annoying when anyone comments about anything excessively, and really boring too. Try and let it wash over you OP, they don't mean any harm

LucastaNoir · 30/12/2024 12:52

I get that it’s a bit annoying - but people are just trying to make conversation, there’s only so much you can say about a baby.

wombat15 · 30/12/2024 12:51

They thought it was a compliment. Having had small babies I can see why.

PickledElectricity · 30/12/2024 12:51

It's probably quite shocking to see such a large newborn? I thought my baby was tiny but then we met other babies and he dwarfed them! He was also in the 90,a centiles.

I also don't think you're being criticised for having big baby, though I can imagine the conversation grew tired for you very quickly.

We used to say "oh he's been on the protein shakes!" and other silly things.

Essited · 30/12/2024 12:49

You're being oversensitive

Comedycook · 30/12/2024 12:49

You are being oversensitive. It's just something people say. It's often a compliment to say someone has a big baby...

MrsWhites · 30/12/2024 12:48

I think you are being a bit oversensitive, I’m sure none of the comments were from the point of view that there is something wrong with your baby, and you’ve just commented yourself that your nephew is tiny for his age - I think it’s just natural to point out the difference in age and size.

LetsNCagain · 30/12/2024 12:48

They thought they were being complimentary. As in, you're doing a good job feeding him so well. I feel sorry for the mum of the other baby who must have been offended too. It's worse to have an underweight baby.

My baby ds is also 95th+ percentile and I also get the "what a bruiser" comments. But it's well meant. He is remarkably chonky to be fair

DappledThings · 30/12/2024 12:44

The comments are unnecessary but probably well-meaning. People love chunky babies. You can be annoyed if you choose to but it's not worth it.

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