To be fed up with comments on the size of my baby at DH family party

It was the constant comparison which made me feel like my baby was a giant in a freak show.

This is very much a YOU thing though.

No-one thinks your baby is a giant in a freak show lol.

There have been much bigger babies than yours, is that what you think of them?

Thought not.

You're being oversensitive - mine were similarly big at birth and their size was always remarked on positively. I'd say the other mum might've found it hard though as parents of smaller babies often have worries about weight gain etc. You weren't the one who was wronged in the conversation.

I had exactly the same! But, I was proud of my extra large baby! Mine was 9lb 10oz and 3 weeks early. The very first thing my SIL said to me when she saw him was 'good luck feeding him', I laughed because he was big, he remained big and he still is big. They're just taking about your lovely baby is all!

I think you're possibly being a little over sensitive about it.

My daughter was the opposite and was below the 0.4th centile when she was born for length and weight. I was assured she'd 'catch up' bit she never did and is still small at 18 (only takes a size 13.5 shoe for example).

People constantly commented on her size and weight and she was referred for a check up due to unnecessary concerns. She was fine. Just very small!

There's very little to say about other people's babies so size is a big one.

Like a pp said, it's just baby chatter and it's meaningless.

The only time it bothered me was when a complete stranger started shouting abuse at me in Asda about all the things I must have done during pregnancy to result in such a small baby and I wasn't fit to be a mother... but that was my own fault for going to Asda I suppose 😉

Just ignore it.

On more than one occasion my rugby player husband was asked was DS real as he was so tiny. Not.quite sure why they thought he was carrying a doll in a car seat 😂 We also had awe I prefer chunky babies.

You are being over sensitive, babies are pretty boring so other than size and who they look like there isn’t much else to say about them. I bet the mum of the small baby was more offended. Their comments were unnecessary but that doesn’t mean you aren’t being over sensitive.

I think you're being oversensitive. People like to comment when a baby is offered up and, unless he's also got a shock of blonde hair or bright turquoise eyes, this is the most obvious thing they're going to comment on. It sounds as though they were complimentary noises but we don't all respond in the same way so I'd try not to let it get me down.

@CatkinToadflax I can't stop laughing, your poor boy, I hope he's grown out of looking like Phil Mitchell 😂😂😂

I was listening to a podcast where Richard Osman said how many people tell him he's tall, as though he was completely unaware of it. Some people are just idiots, OP! If the whole family is bigger built, I'd just say your baby must take after them.

DS1 was 4 months premature and weighed 1.5lbs. Even after he came home from NICU he was tiny. Aged 6 months he was still wearing premmie clothes. I had him in a sling on my front in a shop one day and someone asked how old he was. I replied “six months” and before I could go into any more detail she pointed right at him and said “no, that baby!” as if I was referring to the wrong one!

DS2 was hardly large at 6lbs, but had a distinct look of a potato about him. I showed a friend his passport photo that we had taken when he was 4 months old, and she said “bloody hell, it’s Phil Mitchell!”

I sincerely doubt they were fat shaming your baby. Try not to take it the wrong way.

The thing is, when people are making small talk/idle chatter, they don't look very deeply. So they notice the most obvious thing and comment on that, and with a small baby there the temptation to compare them must have been overwhelming for the unthinking. They're not trying to hurt your feelings, or the mum of the small baby, they're just not putting that much thought into it. When your baby is relatively new and you're awash with hormones, every little thing is enormous to you. At this stage I was crying over Iggle Piggle's little boat going out to sea or whatever it did.

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There's only so much you can comment on about a baby. You may need to become a bit more resilient to this kind of chatter.

Meh!

People have commented on babies size, hair (or lack of it) and how much they apparently look like one of their parents since time began.

Don't let it get to you. There's not much else one can really say about a newborn baby 🤷‍♂️

I think you’re taking it the wrong way and it’s meant to be complimentary.

Talking about how big and chunky a baby is is referring to the fact he looks healthy and strong. My ds’s were all huge and had multiple rolls of fat as babies I loved it and received lots of admiration over how chubby they were!

I'd take it as a compliment, the mother of the older relatively smaller older baby probably felt quite inadequate being compared to you two. You've clearly done your baby well both in utero and since birth and that's what the comments are implying in a slightly roundabout way.

Just because a baby is smaller doesn't mean they are underweight. My daughter is 1 and between 9th and 25th percentile. You can have small babies and not be underweight

YANBU. I am also the mother of a large child and I am always annoyed by comments like this. I know most people don’t mean harm, but it is wearing to hear endless comments about how your baby is SOOO HUUUUGE, and you do feel self conscious about it. My child is now four but the height of a six year old and it hasn’t stopped, people mention his size all the time. I have to constantly remind people not to comment on his size because he has started mentioning himself how giant he is and I hate the thought that it would make him self conscious.

I had two 9lb+ babies, you get used to the comments. People don't mean any hurt by it but it does get annoying! People will small babies also get 'isnt he dinky' etc, which I think is worse because it can be a real worry if your child isn't gaining weight or growing as people think they should.

My eldest is 13 and 6ft 1" and we're still getting 'isn't he tall' 'will he ever stop growing' 'what do you feed him' etc.

My DD was a big baby and I had this - it was like people were implying I had a massive fanjo or that something was wrong with me or smtg wrong with my her - really hard to describe but it wasn’t pleasant or complimentary. So if I could go back today I would likely say yes I get the best squidgy cuddles from her - and I did they were phenomenal.

Your baby sounds lovely, I'd love a hold of him, who doesn't love a big baby, sorry I'm not much help, I'd be there probably saying the same thing 😊

They don't mean any harm but you're not unreasonable to find it too much. Just tell them.

I've had both - a small baby then a big baby! You get comments either way and both can make you question whether you're doing something wrong.
People rarely mean to be hurtful though, they just like commenting on babies.
If it wasn't their size it would be hair colour or something