To be fed up with comments on the size of my baby at DH family party

Oh it’s not an insult OP and you’re being over sensitive. I was a whopping great monstrosity of a baby and turned out to be really small as an adult. Plus, a big baby is healthy and adorable! Laugh along.

My nieces rolls had rolls, then she started walking. Now she's tall and slim

Don't be annoyed, nod and smile. They mean well x

My 13 year old son was on the 98th centile too, he’s now 6’2” and has size 13 feet! Hes a gentle giant!

There is nothing wrong with your baby. I do think you’re a bit of a snob though and need to relax. You’re judgemental about size clearly.

@arabicaqueen i had the exact same comments and a similar situation with my child and my sister’s child who was much smaller. I have to say it didn’t bother me and I am usually quite sensitive about things.

it’s actually a compliment… chunky babies usually mean all is well (obviously within reason) and it can be hard feeding newborns etc so people can be very sensitive about a baby being low weight

I get it’s annoying, not quite the same but both my DCs were born with a full head of dark hair dc1 had 10 hair cuts by their 1st birthday! The amount of times I heard ooh look at their hair! You must have had horrific heartburn (I didn’t). It got to the point I would just smile and nod. It’s just something people focus on as something to say because it’s unusual.

They probably think they’re being complementary , I know people who’ve had “oh they’re so tiny” “oh he’s huge” “they’ve never looked like a newborn” “you’ve got all boys and no girls”.

ive heard replies like “yes I only produce boys” “yes only big strapping lads here” basically I’ve seen the mums turn it into a positive / smart Alec reply back. Just work on some positive replies.
I think it’s natural to be defensive over comments to your own baby.

I do not blame you for finding it bloody annoying. It's so annoying when people say the same thing over and over again. My second child did look like a big baby (although weight wise she actually wasn't) but boy did I get sick of comments about her 'big tummy' (funnily enough from friends who had been very upset about comments on their 'big' baby girls. I'm afraid I didn't rise above it and would make snappy comments like "she's absolutely beautiful isn't she?' or 'no she doesn't, she's just like any other baby.' The same when I was pregnant, women in the office would go on about how tiny a colleague's bump was compared to mine. I just made comments to make it clear they were pissing me off. Some people are so utterly thoughtless and inane when ig comes to their comments around pregnancy/babies. If I were you I'd just make it clear they're really annoying you and leg them get the message. Funnily enough though, my first baby was actually an extremely beautiful baby/toddler and it's all people went on about - we literally had friends who would rank whose baby was the prettiest/cutest. Still really annoyed me - just so shallow and inane

My son was 10lb born at 39 weeks (99th centile). My comments were "must have been all the cheese I ate during pregnancy" and then walked away. If you give people ammunition they'll keep going on about it. Politely comment and just walk away. DS is now nearly 4 and just above 75th centile but is generally taller than most of his pre school boy mates. I now get comments asking how old he is because of his size, he is healthy so whatever.

Chill out. It’s just usual family chat.
You have a huge baby, family member has a tiny one. Of course there’ll be comparisons.

One of mine was over 9lbs when he finally put in an appearance, one week overdue. He had the most delightful chubby cheeks, little wrists that looked like they had bands around as his hands and arms were so chubby and the most smoochiest chubby thighs and feet (almost getting broody just thinking about him as a baby 😂)
roll on 10 years, he’s now super lean, massively into sport etc Once he started moving around he lost all of his roundness and by 3-4 he was really dinky.
All of mine have been fairly big babies, people used to comment about it and I just used to laugh and say I just made them extra gorgeous. I think people were more inclined to comment as I’m pretty petite so they looked even more massive when I was holding them, and people just love to comment on babies.
One of mine at 6 weeks was the same size as a friends 6 month old, he’s as tall as me now at12 and has bigger feet then me, honestly I wouldn’t worry at all, if he wasn’t big people would comment on head shape, eye colour, if they sleep, smile etc. If you head to baby groups you’ll hear it all!

My baby was the same 9lb 13 . 98 on all the charts they even talked about steroids injections to stop her growth ( dad’s 6ft 10 I’m 6ft) she’s now 6ft 1 and we still get high comments I’m afraid it’s something you’ll have to put up with. She’s 27 now 😁😁

I wonder if your relatives hit a raw nerve because you are not as comfortable with his size as you are making out. Perhaps you secretly fear that you are overfeeding him and creating a 'fat' child? Have you had any real proper high quality support with feeding and what is appropriate?

Ds was very tall for his age when he was young and someone at the post office once, started commenting why he was still in nappies and in a pushchair! He had just turned 2!

Ds was always on the 99th centile for both weight and height certainly until he was about 12. He also had really big feet. He's now 21 and is a perfectly proportioned average height young man, 6 foot tall and only takes a 8 shoe!

Also, my 6ft5 16yr old has to constantly endure comments about his height. It's very tedious but it will never stop - he's very charming at diffusing it and moving on.

This is just what people do with babies. Sad to say most babies are fairly unremarkable and a bit boring so people latch on to any features that they can make small talk about. It's boring and annoying but we all have to endure it about something to do with our babies.

Oh I went through all these emotions and more. My 9lb first born (22 years ago!) was on the 98th percentile for everything, and was also born with 3ins of hair all over his head. Visitors and nurses kept popping in to see “the lovely big baby with all that hair”. I ended up dissolving into tears and shouting that they’d just “come to make fun of the comedy baby” and they looked genuinely shocked. DC wasn’t very well and ended up in NICU for one night and then I cried because I felt like a fraud as my gargantuan child filled up the incubator! I smiled as a PP said she cried “at Iggle Piggles boat going out to sea”. I did too, and don’t get me started on RSPCA adverts… It was an emotional time, and now my 9lb chunk is a strapping 6’2” man. And he still has amazing hair! You want to protect your brand new DC from the world and any comment is going to get your senses reeling. I now know nobody meant any harm (quite the opposite!) but for a vulnerable new mum it’s quite unbearable.

Bless you 💙 constant comments about your baby can be tiresome, that mixed in with lack of sleep and hormones all over the place can be grating, perhaps you were being over sensitive but like I say with a big change like a new baby etc of course your feeling a little sensitive. I would take it as a compliment that you carried and birthed such a strong baby, your obviously doing a fantastic job for your lo to maintain weight so well :) Healthy strong mum and healthy strong baby! Well done you xxx

My DS1 was tiny when he was born and I got all the other comments so it works both ways. It gets a little wearing but I used to smile and say “the most expensive perfume comes in small bottles” and leave it at that. I don’t think people mean any harm. I love chonky babies and neither of mine were 😂

My daughter was 9lb 15 too.
now at 4 she’s in age 6 clothing and very athletically built. She’s perfect.
she was also pretty perfect when she went through her Hulk phase. People love big babies, I very much doubt they’re being mean about it.
we constantly have people commenting on how big she is, as long as it’s phrased in a positive way we don’t mind. It’s factual.

My god, you lot can literally row about everything, its so funny!!

And people like you need to stop being deliberately goady and trying to hurt people's feelings for kicks, then doing the "oh everyone's so sensitive" bit. "Giant baby"? Just fuck off. That's someone's child.

My first born was 9lb 7, he seemed enormous to me! He still is. He's 6ft 4 and 19st

No.

Your problem is your own.

All I wished for was healthy, which my 'skinny' baby was.