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to think DS's girlfriend is taking the piss and he needs legal advice

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redwingparty · 30/12/2024 10:54

Keeping this short as I don't want DS to be outed, though I could write a very long post about this woman, but the main thing is:

DS2 has just bought a flat, his girlfriend has moved in and she is not paying him rent. She is lazy by nature (stayed with us at Christmas but refused to help prep food, lay the table or clear up afterwards because she 'didn't want to'; she spent most of her time in bed) She has just started a MW job and I overheard her say to DS that since he was not charging her anything to live with him, she will only do three days a week.

DS has a long commute, long hours and two second casual jobs at weekends.

I am worried that he will get fed up of her sponging off him but be unable to get her to leave the flat legally if it is her main home. What rights does she have?

Also she mentioned setting up a sideline business of her own from the spare bedroom of the flat which would involve strangers coming into the house. DS1 told me this is probably illegal and against the lease, and could invalidate the contents insurance. But I think DS would find it hard to say no to her (which in itself is a bit of a problem - he idolises her and she puts him down very subtly but frequently).

AIBU to think we should get some legal advice about her housing rights and rights to operate a small business (similar to hairdressing) from the flat?

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Hoppinggreen · 30/12/2024 11:16

I would agree with you but its not up to you to get legal advice.
You can suggest to your son he might want to look into it but unfortunately thats all

Octavia64 · 30/12/2024 11:14

If your DS owns the property and she is not either paying rent or married to him she has very few rights.

MyPithyPoster · 30/12/2024 11:09

It’s normally a question that the mortgage company asked before handing over the money who exactly will be living in the property. I had a 16 year-old daughter living with me when I completed and they made her sign something to say that they could boot her out if they needed to repossess.
Maybe frame it along those lines to suggest that it might not be the best idea that she lives there

DarkDarkNight · 30/12/2024 11:03

It might be an idea to post this in legal to get some proper advice, but I think her not paying anything will be better for your son in terms of getting her out if he ever wants to. She’s neither a co-habiting partner contributing to the mortgage or a tenant paying rent. As an aside was the solicitor aware when he was buying the flat that there would be someone living with him?

mycatsanutter · 30/12/2024 10:57

She sounds a nightmare , all you can do is advise him without pushing him further away from you , tread carefully or he might stop confiding in you .

EdgeofSeventy · 30/12/2024 10:57

What does your son want to do?
Are you going to do this behind his back?

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