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To get married when I earn more/own property?

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ellbigggb · 30/12/2024 08:36

just that really. Have always wanted to get married to my partner of 10 years, we have 2 children together so I’d like the same last name. However, I own the house we live in solely and he is not in a good position financially- debt, won’t be able to buy a house together for a very long time etc…

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Thepeopleversuswork · 30/12/2024 08:46

No you would be very foolish to do this.

Marriage is insurance for people with poor earnings prospects or for people who may have to take a long time off work (particularly mums). That’s all it is.

If you own property you stand to lose all of that if you get married. That’s much more important than whether you share a surname.

Guavafish1 · 30/12/2024 08:46

I wouldn’t … marriage is a financial contract please get financial advice first.

HermioneWeasley · 30/12/2024 08:46

You would be very foolish to do this. You can change your name to anything you want without being married.

FloordrobeIsGoingToGetME · 30/12/2024 08:45

What's caused his debt if you are in a good position and he's your long term partner?

Bad management, bad decisions, bad luck?

Are your financial values uneven?