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Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

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BearDownThere · 29/12/2024 21:40

Is anyone else fed up of the expectation/strong preference for going completely shave pubic hair? I’m female and have only had male partners, but prepared to believe women have this expectation too if others have experienced it. I mean each to their own, but personally I find it feels child-like. Has anyone managed to find a compromise with their partner on this?

YABU- It’s nice to do things for your partner

YANBU-my hair my choice

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GreenWasper · 29/12/2024 21:49

When I was younger and single I did feel pressure, although whether that was in my own head I dunno.
My DH said early on he didn't give a monkeys and why was I bothering if I hated doing it?
If I was ever single again i would definitely have the 'my hair, my choice mindset'. I kinda feel like if a bit of natural body hair is gonna put them off, are they actually that attracted to you?

StormingNorman · 29/12/2024 21:47

I dislike pubic hair. Never had a partner express a preference.

Ablondiebutagoody · 29/12/2024 21:47

I don't think that you are either reasonable or unreasonable. You like what you like and so does your partner. I like my partner to heavily trim at the very least. Actually prefer a complete bic job. The compromise is that oral sex is much nicer. Everyone's a winner. I did once mention that his armpit hair looked like Gandalf's beard but never have to mention the pubes. We both just deal with our own, like an unspoken rule.

pictoosh · 29/12/2024 21:47

No because I don't do it. Love me love my bush.

Jennyathemall · 29/12/2024 21:46

No the opposite. Only this very evening my DH asked me not to shave for once and grow it out a bit to “mix it up” I said no way!

FknOmniShambles · 29/12/2024 21:45

Definitely not U. I've had sexual partners who bordered on disgust at seeing I had hair down there - madness!
Luckily, DH and I literally have no preference how each other maintains their public hair.

Cherrypickled · 29/12/2024 21:45

Have never felt any pressure, My body, my choice.

Mumof1andacat · 29/12/2024 21:42

Never felt any pressure. I'm 40 and have had the same partner since 18