Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

I'm 33 and whenever this comes up with my same age friends, everyone completely removes all hair. Anyone over about 45 in the conversation recoils in horror at that thought.

Its your fluf and your choice!!! I tried a wax once it was bloody uncomfortable and horrible growing back! Your pubic fluff is there to protect your VJ and diffuse sweat away; and to show you are an adult human with secondary sexual characteristics..... I think it's ok to just trim the edges carefully to avoid the full mad 70s hippy clock spring look but the fluff stays. Any man who asked me to shave it has been politely told to shave his first and see how it feels!

I've never felt the slightest expectation to shave or do anything for a man body related.. I've always felt they were already extremely lucky to be in bed with me

I go and get a Brazilian wax every month. I do it because I want to and I prefer it, not for anyone else

To be honest I have sensitive skin and hair down there causes me so many issues like soreness and ingrown hairs so I remove it as a skincare preference. It’s better to prevent skin issues than treat them. I’d much rather have no hair growth there ever.

I haven’t felt pressure from anyone else but I think most of my friends (I’m in my 20s) remove it too. Only because we discuss things like laser hair removal etc.

I hate bald look that a lot of women go for, I actually think its gross like a plucked chicken or something. I neatly trim/shave but still look like a woman on not a child 🤢
I dont like hair sticking out of bathing suit etc but genuinely hate that completely bare look

See I’ve heard this but I used to get recurrent thrush when I had hair there and not had that problem since getting rid of it. Might be coincidence. 🤷‍♀️

The thought of wax being applied to a delicate area of my body in order for the hairs to be ripped out at their follicles is utterly horrific.

Been with my DH 20 years and he’s never pressured for anything. I don’t shave mine, just trim, I hate the feeling of it growing back when shaved so don’t.

I'm 44 and have never shaved. My husband has never suggested I should and if he did I'd tell him to fuck off.

I use hair removal cream and it doesn’t come back itchy. I also use a great brand called Oyo, lovely oil and cleanser which keeps my skin lovely and soft/razor bump free.

There’s a few of us (definitely the minority!) on this thread that have stated their preference for being totally hair free down there, and how we do it as it’s genuinely our own personal preference, not for men. Yet there’s still a few other commenters implying they don’t believe this and think we still do it for society (even though, no one from “society” sees my privates), and for men, and because it’s a “trend.” I didn’t realise it would be that hard to believe that everyone has different preferences!

Literally never felt the pressure to do that. Where are you feeling this pressure from?

I have a proper bush and I’m 40. I rarely shave my legs and armpits either. My DH doesn’t care at all and previous partners who told me what to do with my own body hair were dumped quickly.

Nope. I have a full bush down there. Would never shave it. I trim it once in a while and that’s it

Dd is starting to grow and I’ve told her it’s always her choice with what she does

Providing the patriarchy also shave their balls, I'm happy to scab.

my DD and most of her friends don’t shave anything, legs under arms. The next gen seem to a lot smarter and just laugh at the thought of removing hair because a man might prefer it. yeah ive noticed this. Teens don't seem bothered about hair on their legs.

Does it not come back itchy? You can't shave it every day - surely??? I find this very stressful that someone might expect this. Life is hard enough.

Also I'm at a gym where people change very openly in the ladies/wander round with not much on, ive never seen anyone with the lot off. I live in south east, naice commuter town.

Will no-one mention the regrowth?

Plus, I have regular colposcopies and chat to my gynaecologist and her nurse about pubic hair grooming practices of the 'yoof', I was told that a young woman once cancelled her hospital gynae appointment because she couldn't get to her beautician for a full pubic wax! Madness...

I've been single for so long it's a forest down there!

I'd expect to wax though when getting back into the dating scene

I used to trim in my 20s and shave the bikini line. It’s been a long time since I bothered though. Life’s too short. Unlike my pubes 😂

Oh I like the lot off - feel cleaner and yeah I just prefer it. But I don't do it weekly or anything and it grows and then when I feel uncomfortable I shave it all off again. DH prefers it - a coincidence and maybe just because he's used to me doing it. Do it for myself only lol

The skin around my pubic region is far too sensitive for shaving or waxing. Absolutely no chance it would leave anything but a raw red mess. Not attractive.

I don’t like to shave. My DH doesn’t care.
I think a lot of trends are changing, my DD and most of her friends don’t shave anything, legs under arms. The next gen seem to a lot smarter and just laugh at the thought of removing hair because a man might prefer it.

Have not experienced this (im 39). I don't bother shaving it except a tiny bit at the edges because i swim & don't like hair sticking out the sides of my swimsuit.