Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

The fact the whole idea (no pun intended) repulses me means I've voted YANBU.
I like the idea of being short & smart but absolutely not totally shaven😳

I will say though that I hate when my male partners have pubic hair and prefer them to trim. And will vocalise that too.

I don’t shave but I do wax it off but the only expectation for me to do so is one I set for myself. I have never met a man who was that bothered (except one ex who preferred me to have some pubic hair. I ignored him.)

If you don’t want to do it just don’t? I find a lot of women don’t. I’m a rarity among my friends for having zero pubic hair.

I also don’t really get how it’s “childlike” for a grown adult woman to have pubic hair. Unless you think the only difference between grown adult women / men and children is pubic hair?

The difference is the pubic area is a sexual characteristic, mens chins are generally not.Nor are their heads.
I find it odd that all of the ."I just do it for myself because I like it crowd " arrived at the exact time as internet porn. We'd all been carrying on happily for years with our floofy bushes, with maybe a bit of a trim and a shave at the sides so they didn't poke out from your bikini; and then suddenly " no I hate it all. It's unbearable". But it's definitely for me not the guy I'm dating who watches a bit too much PornHub. Weird coincidence.
Oh and it does make you look like a plucked chicken and pre-pubescent. Try and tell yourself it doen't but your wrong.

I'd only read your first post OP and I'm reading backwards through the thread now. I applaud the other posters who've pulled you up on 'childlike'.

You're being unreasonable to refer to a grown woman's body as 'childlike' because of hair removal. Stop it.

Otherwise, it's your body, your choice and I'm totally on your side.

It seems like it's completely taboo to have an ample bush. I wish it was a bit more fashionable to have hair down there, like in the 70s.

It's true to say that I'd rather perform oral on someone of either sex without hair, or at least not much.

If I was single and not looking I'd have it down to my fucking knees! 🤣
As it is awkward and annoying to keep shaving.

I'm way too embarrassed to go to a beauty shop and have it waxed. I only want medical people or sexual partners to get that close to my nethers! Also I'm scared it will hurt too much.

Personally for me the reason I find it childlike is because I remember being a child and having a hairless vagina.

Presumably you remember all the boys with hairless faces too?

So do you equate men without beards with pre pubescent boys?

Hear hear 👏👏

And I say that as a woman who isn't into shaving.

I just get fed up of women shaming other women by making up stupid claims about looking like children.

It says far more about what goes on in their minds than I care to think about.

Personally for me the reason I find it childlike is because I remember being a child and having a hairless vagina. I remember WANTING hair to look like a woman.

When men asked me to shave it off, it just looked exactly like when I was a child (in my personal opinion) and I find that sense that it looks the same as I remember it being as a child kinda creepy.

Each to their own, but that's why I don't shave mine.

The leg comparison doesn't really work as even as an adult woman I don't have particularly hairy legs.

Beaver maintenance is totally up to you.

Nobody should be pressured. I’ve got pubic hair, it’s fine.

I find the stuff about hair removal being childlike ludicrous though. I’m 45 years old there’s nothing I can do to my body that would make me look like a child. It’s just a lazy means of shaming women who remove more public hair than I do.

I shave the bikini line area but the rest I just trim.. I would never attempt to shave underneath its just too close for my liking I'd be too scared to cut myself
My publc hair is neat though once trimmed but these days it’s gone a bit wirey 🤪

Yes ,this.

None for me thanks, but whatever floats your boat.

I trim the hair really short for a swimsuit or bikini. Never shave the rest of the year

I love my bush - so does DH.

I had boyfriends before him who wanted it completely shaven. Tbh I thought it was childlike and it put me off them.

Luckily my DH likes the hair and I never shave down there :)

Bald head and a shaved face.

Going by some MNetters warped way of thinking, they must feel like they're married to pre pubescent boys??

Or shave their faces?

I prefer DH’s face shaved, he prefers me shaved. I could leave it as nature intended and so could he, but we don’t.

I would probably call mine my bush but don't really discuss it very often irl

I'm childish like that. Was giggling earlier when a PP called her vagina growler 🤷🏻‍♂️

For those with a full bush, what do you do when wearing a swimsuit?

I think less is more...

Why do you call pubic hair ‘wizards cloak’? Do you call your own public hair that too? I’ve never heard it referred to that and it seems like something my teenage would say!

Teens seem to think shaving is normal.. hoping that passes!

what you do is normal for you even though there is no such thing as normal and normal is a myth

As a latecomer to this debate, I understand the preference for keeping things tidy but what happens when full bush is soft but when trimmed it's like a Brillo pad? (To quote a lovely ex.)

I put YANBU because every woman should decide what to do down there and men can piss off if they don’t like that.

Having said that, I personally HATE having it and remove it. Its never been something I’ve done for men (some men I’ve dated have hated that I do this and I told them tough). Women should just do what they want there without men feeling like they get a say.