Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

I disagree. I’m not saying that people are wearing hairy hot pants but being hairless is not the norm. It’s really only the much younger group that seem to do it.

most others seem to have a neatly trimmed area of hair.

I was just thinking the same thing!

I know mumsnet loves/hates class chat but... there's a class divide on this topic IME 😬

I think it has been much the norm since early 2000s unless I have lived in another universe. From glimpses more after my gym classes I would say that being bare or mostly bare is probably the majority but maybe because that encompasses very much the 20-50 group.

I would agree that 50s is more " to hell with it" 😂😂

I'd like to laser off the hair on my legs, armpits and bikini line. It's so tiresome dealing with it on a regular basis.

I felt an expectation to shave in my twenties but that was down to my own insecurities wanting to please at any cost. Now in my forties I would feel ridiculous shaving down there. I'm a woman, not a ten year old girl. I do shave what's spilling out on the thighs though but that's a personal preference. I would be disgusted if a man asked me to shave, suspecting him if having an attraction to preadolescent girls 🤢

I've Immac'd it of a few times but when it grew back it was rashy and itchy so I gave up. I now Immac the bits on show when wearing a swimsuit and trim to keep it tidy but that's it.

Not understanding the connections here at all?

100% Agree.
And why do adult women who remove hair get compared to a child, despite their otherwise very adult female body. Meanwhile bald men do not get compared to babies!?

I’ll tell you why. Because the amount of hair on your body does not define whether you are an adult or a child. And anyone who thinks it does is frankly quite odd.

I know!

20 years ago was 2004 ffs!

I swear some people think that the whole of the last century involved crinolines and top hats!

If any man wants a bare pussy from you, send them this photo or buy them a sphinx (hairless) cat toy like this one and say you can kiss this bare pussy as much as you like! 😂

Twenty or thirty years ago, I think it would be more unusual for women to receive oral.

What a complete nonsense.

Waxing for me. All off, front and back. I hate pubic hair. I’m almost 51 and have had a full wax job every 4 weeks since I was in my early 20s. I do it for me, no one else. Nothing to do with wanting to look like a child - just as shaving legs or arm pits has nothing to do with wanting to look like a child.

My husband is also hair-free. It’s just our preference.

I said yabu only because shaving down there is soooo uncomfortable. I will never do it again. Waxing or nothing. At the minute I get waxed regularly but Ive also had long periods where I don't. It's just what I fancy really. I don't do it (or not do it) for men

So does that mean in your mind you were trying to look like a little girl? - I see what you are trying to do here. No, I did not do it to look like a little girl but when a man says he only likes hairless look it does make you wonder.

This.

It all comes off, but for me.

I shave as much as possible for myself but sometimes I've left it unshaved for a month my long term partner of 8 years doesn't care he loves me for me if he didn't like it which he doesn't care id be single he doesn't shave his manhood for me so ....

Why are you all so keen to talk about your minge with a first time poster who has probably been wanking themselves into a frenzy for the past 5 hours?

You are totally correct. A persons reasons for shaving down there or not is entirely up to them.

If it is to look attractive for potential sexual partners, then that is entirely OK too. When meeting potential partners we will mostly present the best version of ourselves, hair done, make up, clothing.

I think part of the desire for trimmed or shaved pubes is partly down to how much more common oral sex is now. A very large proportion of us consider oral to be part of a sexual relationship. Twenty or thirty years ago, I think it would be more unusual for women to receive oral.

I do it because I feel cleaner and more comfortable. Did it even when I was single.

There's several posters on here explaining they do it for themselves, because they feel more clean this way.

Not everyone does things because they feel they have to, and its sad you feel so strongly about the ideas YOUVE been sold, that you seem oblivious to the fact that women can have their own preferences to their own bodies.

Because no one alters their appearance in a vacuum, we do it because we’ve been sold the idea it’s attractive, which is a social construct.

Some of these replies are vile.

It seems the world of mumsnet believes that you can absolutely have a massive bush and thats fine, but if a woman prefers to be shaven it must be down to porn or men and god forbid that they prefer and feel more clean with THEIR OWN bodies this way?

The reference to kids is disgusting and ur thoughts on this are actually disturbing.

I used to care about that.
in more recent years I've just shrugged and got on with it. it's just hair. it's not like I've got a flap hanging out.