Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

So are legs, armpits and men's faces. I would reflect on why shaved genitals instantly make you think of children if I was you. Maybe keep those thoughts to yourself

being naturally very dark haired was a recipe for disaster down there!

I am very dark haired and have never felt any sense of pubic disaster. What do you mean by this?

Very well said.

Genitals are bald prepuberty. I would be wary of any man who tried to pressure me to make myself look like a prepubertal child for his sexual pleasure.

Women choosing to shave their genitals as a free preference of their own - that is different.

Yes, I hate it.
I'm 45, married for 20 years and no fucking man would dictate where or how often I should or shouldn't shave.
Obviously, my husband doesn't. 😊

I just don't do it. But I guess that's easy for me to say as I've been with the same man for decades.

I use a trimmer to keep tidy but I remember a university boyfriend asking me to shave and it made me feel really insecure! We didn’t last long.

It was very uncommon to remove all pubic hair before the Internet porn era though. I was a teen/early 20s in the 90s and my friends and I used to do a "bikini wax" of just the edges. Never heard of anyone removing it all. "Brazilians" became popular during the early 2000s, just when Internet port was really taking off. I remember hearing about it first on an episode of Sex and the City. Decided it wasn't for me as just waxing the edges was painful enough!

If you want to fine, but doing it for anyone else, nope! This discussion just reminds me of John Ruskin and his expectations. Me, I am not hairy anywhere, so little if anything to bother with, other than care with a bikini line, but like so much in a woman's life, it is your body, your choice in my book.

Never felt pressured by partner or society. I've done it maybe twice.

In my case Ive been trimming my 'bush' long before the internet crowd or I was sexually active and as woman knocking on the door of 50, long before internet porn was a thing. I hate hair down there, always have. I've had it permenantly removed as I hated the shaving rashes and getting it waxed was a faff. My DH definitely prefers it this way and I also prefer him groomed. Oral while gagging on pubes isn't my vibe.

No plucked chicken skin here, having been lasered the skin is silky smooth. And if you imagine my foof looks prepubesent after 3 kids and thats where your mind goes I think thats a you issue.

This outrage than women dare remove their pubic hair and its only to please men is astounding. FulI bush, half bush, no bush, I applaud any woman who has their body how 'THEY' want it and cant understand anyone whos offended by someones elses pubic hair choices

I’ve never shaved mine off, and never will. If a man is expecting it, that gives me paedo vibes.

So is anyone who shaves anything a paedo?

The reason people are saying that there are paedophile vibes to shaving is simply because it replicates pre puberty.

I shave my armpits ONLY when I’m going for a spa day/swimming/beach as I don’t generally wear short sleeve stuff. This is only due to social expectations.

My partner (male) doesn’t expect me to shave down there and neither should he. I used to do it in my teens and twenties and spent the entire time itchy and miserable when it grew back - who wants to be having to sneakily scratch when out and about?!

I've shaved mine off a couple of times and hated it as I thought it looked childish.

Also the insane itching when it starts to grow back was worth never doing it again.

I trim it and shave a bit at the top and sides but probably only once every 2-3 weeks unless it's summer and I'm in swimwear.

Yep, same here.

But I do see what you mean, OP: it's p0rnographic bs, very paedo if you ask me. I hate to think there's preassure to do it.

Which epilator? And is it horribly painful?

I am all off, front to back. I have always struggled with my hormones and being naturally very dark haired was a recipe for disaster down there!
I bought an epillator almost 10 years ago and have done legs, muff and armpits with it ever since. No itchy regrowth, no shaving rash and no dark roots under my skin.
I would never go back to being hairy down below, it feels so much nicer and the skin issue I suffered with for a very long time has completely gone.

I’ve always said no way are my pubes getting shaved, or worse waxed 😖, and I’m sticking to that!

I have never felt pressure - and if I did it would indicate this was not the relationship for me. I am not a porn star, I am a natural adult woman and insist on total respect. I wouldn’t shave or even consider anything beyond a very tidy neat trim.

We are not blow up dolls.
Men do not get to call the shots on our intimate areas. We need to set some standards for the younger generation as well as making choices in our best interests. Whatever they are.

Sounds like you had a crap waxer! Mine is very thorough and very professional. It costs £30 every 5-6 weeks. I take paracetamol just before although it’s habit more than anything as it doesn’t hurt.

I don't give a monkeys but DH prefers it trimmed, not shaved. So now he has the lovely job of doing it for me! 😂

I have a full bush and much eye rolling when I go on swimsuit type holidays where I do my annual tidy.

I did it once, didn’t bother after that. Men can expect what they want, they can like it or not, I don’t care.