Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

Sorry that happened to you but I am obviously fine with it. My partner and I are not paedophiles because we remove body hair. Pretty sure there is zero correlation in the wider population too. You shouldn't be accusing people of it.

The person I was replying clearly seems to see a connection between shaving and paedophilia. That is what is in the quoted text.

I thought this was a 00s trend. I didn’t realise anyone still did this. For me it’s a tidy bikini line for swimming half the year only.

That isn't what anybody said, is it? It's the persistent reference to 'childlike' that is getting people's backs up. Having a preference isn't a problem for anyone.

Well said. Some people really need to have a look at how their minds work.

Sorry you experienced that traumatic experience. But I do think to jump to the conclusion a person has sinister motives, just because they have a preference for removing pubes is a bit of an over-reaction.

Can I ask about the Crystal? Never heard of this but just googled it and first one that came up is by a brand called Lux Skin, is this what you have? Would you recommend?

It's really not. He has his opinion that's up to him. No where did I say he forces or dictates that opinion on to me

I'm very calm, what are you on about?? Did I say you were having a go at me?

It doesn't serve any purpose for me at all. For someone who cleans, wipes and showers daily hair just gets in a way and makes it harder to stay clean. It serves purpose for you then great. Not for me personally.

Not had any pressure from my husband

Never felt any pressure at all, married 25 years. Only have a standard bikini wax if I’m going on a beach holiday for a fortnight, otherwise I’m au naturel all the time. Full on 70s beaver 😂

No, never consider doing this, nor has my partner. I tidy the edges for wearing a bikini, but that's it.

Think they will.
But you have the right compromise.

Ok but this is what you said:

Hankunamatata · Today 15:55
Only thing dh hates is it all took off. He says it just looks wrong.

Which is very different to your update.

As we keep saying it is very odd that people keep bringing children into this discussion.

Adult trimmed/shaven genital areas bear no resemblance to children and people should stop making this connection.

Sorry, my bad for not being clear then.

Wait until you discover grey pubes!!! (Which ok if you shave you won’t see!!) but it seemed an over night thing… so did get a drastic trim 🤣

Just a trim down the sides for me (not sure my husband is fussed either way) I personally don't like pubes poking out of the side of my knickers or my swimsuit hence the side trim

I have a full bush - but the only time I've removed it in the past when young was because of pressure from men.

There's a lot of pressure from men for women to be shaven - not sure why, but there is. I've seen it firsthand, and seen my female friends be subject to it. I think it stems from men using porn, where everyone is shaved so you can "see more"

I disagree with you, I don't think most women care whether other women shave their pubic hair or not - why would they? But men seem to

I'm really sorry to read that, ThinWomansBrain, I feel very angry when I see presumably female posters blithely regurgitating the ugly viewpoints of the very questionable men in their lives.

I completely agree with you that those excuses for men have something going on in the paedophile area, as much as these women posture otherwise.

I wish you well.

I’m with pictoosh all the way. My bush is going nowhere 👏🏻👏🏻 Thankfully my husband appreciates the natural look so never had any issues! I’m an adult woman, not a child, and pubic hair is there for a reason. It helps
maintain hygiene and prevent infections..

He doesn't dictate. We had an adult conversation about what we prefer about body hair on each other. He likes some hair and prefers not completely removed. I prefer it when he keeps his pits and genitals trimmed. Same way as I don't like a beard.
We have 3 kids together. He has seen full bush, no bush, neatly trimmed. He isn't going to walk out the door or comment if I have a full wax.

Not at all! I’ve been shaving down there since I was 20 and absolutely hate pubic hair. It’s just so…messy during that time of the month 🤢.

And yes, I’m not putting my face anywhere near my DH’s bits unless he’s trimmed it right down either.

and @ShortyShorts

I was raped regularly from the age of about 8 - so tend to have an adverse reaction to paedophilia.

But let it go if you're fine with it.

He 'hates' this? And you have no problem with his dictating to you?

It's one thing to have a preference but any man who stipulates a woman's appearance isn't worth having and any woman who accepts that behaviour isn't very particular.

I'm thinking of the 'hairless mouse' comment way up the thread specifically, Hankunamantata where the poster was all but preening that her husband thought her vulva would look like a hairless mouse' if it were hairless. That is a disgusting comment for him to make and for her to repeat it here makes me think that anything he says is fine. Ugh.

It is long overdue that women are left alone to have their appearance exactly as they want it - without interference from men, and definitely without spiteful or needling comment from other women. I would never comment disparagingly about any woman's appearance. As far as pubic hair goes - that is nobody else's business and I applaud women to be comfortable with their own choices as I am.

I didn't mean to write a long post and it's not aimed at you specifically, Hakunamatata, I just feel really strongly about this subject and every time it pops up I think that it's possibly in bad faith.