My husband is acting is strangely

He's having a medical emergency and her last update LITERALLY said that she is not calling 111 tonight - even though he was wandering around outside as she said it. And she should not have been posting on here in place of getting him medical help.

it will be much worse for him if something bad happens to his Daddy due to lack of intervention. I'm not being overdramatic. yes, waking him up is a pain in the backside, but if you can't get someone to come over and be in the house with him,it honestly sounds necessary.

You don’t know that. She was worried enough to post on here.

It is not a reasonable, practical approach. The man is literally wandering around outside at midnight with symptoms of psychosis and OP will not even ring 111 for advice. He is having a medical emergency.

You clearly haven't read the thread. The last we heard from OP is that we can squeal as much as we like but she's not calling 111 tonight - and she said this with her DH wandering around outside. Check her last post.

"[News about DH "wandering about outside to no end] And yes, you can all exclaim that I should intervene now, but our son is asleep and I can’t drag him to an and e."

She's not taking it seriously AT ALL.

for my husband it was, without doubt, the most traumatic few months of his life.
HOWEVER. I have no idea if he'd still be with us if he hadn't been sectioned. it was horrible for him, traumatic for everyone, and a lot of things about what happened are not great (eg. they put him on Seroxat, even after the family told them he'd had that before, and had serious mood swings and aggression on it. when that's what happened, they insisted it wasn't side effects of the meds)

BUT. he got a diagnosis, and started on the path to finding the meds that would bring him back to his happy, kind, loving self. his psychosis is now well controlled by meds. his main symptoms now are extreme anxiety, and he can't work, or leave the house on his own, but he can enjoy life if me or a family member is there with him. and he's back to his mostly cheerful self, and is as kind, compassionate and loving as ever.

Omg people need to calm down with the abuse directed at OP!! First of all, do you have any appreciation of the state of mental health services in this country? I’ve called 111 and 999 before for help with a friend in an acute psychotic state and they were beyond useless- basically said there was nothing they could do unless he started harming people.

OP also has a child at home. I’m sure she will keep and eye/ ensure her DP’s safety tonight and she’s said she will seek medical help in the morning. This is a totally reasonable/ practical approach.

I imagine the reason the OP hasn’t come back to the thread is that she is getting her DH help.
Her DH is clearly very unwell.
A&E/111/police take psychosis very seriously as I am sure the OP also is.

OP doesn't care. Her husband is wandering around outside in the dark and cold and she won't even ring 111.

it can be very varied how aware you are. one year my S.A.D. was so severe I was hallucinating weird creatures. and it was weird, because I was sitting there watching this creepy looking thing in the corner of the room and thinking "well, that's not really there. how weird. I'm hallucinating." did check with my husband with a "that thing in the corner isn't ACTUALLY there, is it? it's just my brain playing up."

Refusing to call an ambulance for someone who clearly needs emergency medical treatment surely must be a criminal offence?

I’m so sorry this sounds like psychosis

yeah, that's very common. my husband had that too. fortunately, his actual psychosis symptoms are very well managed by his meds, but he does sometimes disassociate, and his anxiety can get very bad. those are the things we mostly have to live with day to day now his meds are keeping him fairly stable. he's not improved beyond the point he is at, but the point he is at, he is still mostly able to have a decent enough life, unless the anxiety is particularly bad

She already basically said that we can squeal as much as we like but she's not helping him:

"And yes, you can all exclaim that I should intervene now, but our son is asleep and I can’t drag him to an and e."

She's withholding emergency medical treatment from her DH because she doesn't want to wake their son. 🙄 Seems to escape her that he could go in an ambulance alone. I don't know why she's refusing to let him have medical treatment, but I think she's an abuser.

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❤️ Take care of yourself@BobbyBiscuits. I remember you from some of your other posts and you are always so kind and knowledgeable on MH issues.

Has anyone considered the OP may not be responding as she has/is taking steps regarding her dh?
Let’s not jump to conclusions.

Oh, this is grounds for divorce, 100 percent. That poor, ill man. The one person who's meant to have his back won't even ring 111 or 999 when he's so sick he's wandering around outside. She's withholding medical treatment from him. Absolute witch.

@YesIdolovehim totally. I'm glad you're getting the help you need. I'm not really in a position right now to go private and the NHS have pretty much turned their backs on me. But I'm still grateful as I'm able to survive. So many others really aren't able to cope.

I hope the OP hasn’t gone to bed and left her DH outside.

My thoughts too. It's quite shocking, especially letting him wander off in his condition. Whatever the reason for the symptoms, he's vulnerable and clearly needs medical attention.

Ask a friend to come sit with your son and take your DH to A&E

Yes, the state of NHS MH services is an absolute scandal. I’m so grateful to have the support of a private psychiatrist and therapist and it’s not fair that this level of help isn’t available to everyone who needs it.

It depends where you are in the UK and what part of the NHS you're being cared for. Gloucestershire is pretty good, the GRIP and CRISIS team are really very good. It can be tough to get a bed, but at least the CRISIS team will assess him rather than the GP or 111.

It's more thank likely medication can be prescribed sooner rather than later in that instance.

Everyone's experience is different

If I was ill like this and I was wandering around outside at night and my spouse did not get me the medical help I had asked for, I would NEVER forgive him. OP, you are being incredibly negligent. He is in danger. He could get run over, freeze to death, all sorts. How can you not get him medical help? He must be so frightened. He asked for help and it's not coming. How could you do this to him? He's ILL. And the excuse about not waking your son is a cop-out. Why can't you call 111 and if am ambulance comes, he can go to hospital alone. Which would be horrible too, but at least he would be getting help.

You are denying him medical treatment, OP. This 100 percent counts as abuse.

I can only hope that a neighbour sees him and calls an ambulance, because OP sure isn't going to. 🤬