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Lies, am I just a bit odd or does everyone feel like this?

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Huuuu · 29/12/2024 19:57

I have major anxiety around lying. With DP, friends and family, ie people I’m close to. It makes me feel physically sick. If I think I here’s a chance of a lie, however small, I then obsess, feel all trust is broken. It’s horrendous. Dp lied about meeting a male friend who has just left his wife. When I asked why on earth he’d lie he said he wasn’t sure how to talk about it as he hasn’t processed it himself yet and he knew I’d ask questions but he was taken aback by it all. When I pressed him a little (something just seemed off) he admitted it immediately and apologised. I feel terrible, very anxious and can’t stop thinking about it. Is this normal?

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Jennyathemall · 29/12/2024 20:01

Huuuu · 29/12/2024 19:58

For context I have met his friend a couple of times but I’m not friends with him or his now ex wife.

I don’t think this context is relevant
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Jennyathemall · 29/12/2024 20:00

Huuuu · 29/12/2024 19:57

I have major anxiety around lying. With DP, friends and family, ie people I’m close to. It makes me feel physically sick. If I think I here’s a chance of a lie, however small, I then obsess, feel all trust is broken. It’s horrendous. Dp lied about meeting a male friend who has just left his wife. When I asked why on earth he’d lie he said he wasn’t sure how to talk about it as he hasn’t processed it himself yet and he knew I’d ask questions but he was taken aback by it all. When I pressed him a little (something just seemed off) he admitted it immediately and apologised. I feel terrible, very anxious and can’t stop thinking about it. Is this normal?

Well no, it not normal. Sounds like you need therapy

Huuuu · 29/12/2024 19:58

For context I have met his friend a couple of times but I’m not friends with him or his now ex wife.

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