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Unflattering social media posts regarding those who can't answer back!

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Jobs4kids · 29/12/2024 19:13

Such as children or people with dementia?

This is prompted by a friend posting yet another set of photos and video footage of their mother who has alzheimers looking a far cry from the vibrant woman she once was and clearly not having a clue what is going on. I cringe everytime, not least as my own mother also had alzheimers and I wouldn't have dreamt of posting photos of her looking like that. I rarely posted photos of her at all and, if I did, it would be a nice photo of her on her birthday or of when she was younger (which I did when she passed away). I know my mum wouldn't have been happy if I had posted unflattering photos of her in latter years and certainly not of her being spoon fed her dinner or making reference to her soiling herself, like this friend has done.

It's quite a close friend but I won't be saying anything as, although I know a few mutual friends feel the same way, we're clearly in the minority judging by the large number of likes and "awww bless her" type comments they receive. All we can do is continue not like or comment and scroll past.

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XenoBitch · 29/12/2024 19:30

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 29/12/2024 19:19

Something's should remain private.
I remember when Dw son was on life support one of his friends wanted to take a photo..an ICU nurse put him right.

It probably depends on the prognosis. I know someone who took photos of her son who was on life support. She was allowed to take photos as the support was going to be removed (resulting in his death).
But, she still put them on FB... which was a bit wrong tbh, but it was probably her way of processing and dealing with it all.

onwardsup4 · 29/12/2024 19:28

You are definitely not unreasonable. No idea why anyone would do that :(

MidnightPatrol · 29/12/2024 19:27

I agree.

Surely no one wants to be seen in public at their absolute worst and most vulnerable?

hattie43 · 29/12/2024 19:25

Yes it's a real invasion of privacy if she isn't aware of them . I'd have to ask the friend what she thought her mother might think of her postings .

XenoBitch · 29/12/2024 19:23

Someone on my FB took and posted photos of his mum in ICU. She had sepsis, was unconscious, and hooked up to machines.
She recovered and made him remove the photos. Was furious that her dignity had been violated like that.

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 29/12/2024 19:19

scorpiogirly · 29/12/2024 19:14

I don't know why they do it. And ones ones of loved ones in hospital days from death from terminal cancer. Very bad taste.

Something's should remain private.
I remember when Dw son was on life support one of his friends wanted to take a photo..an ICU nurse put him right.

scorpiogirly · 29/12/2024 19:14

I don't know why they do it. And ones ones of loved ones in hospital days from death from terminal cancer. Very bad taste.