Unflattering social media posts regarding those who can't answer back!

There is a lady on my FB who wishes her nan a happy heavenly birthday. It has got a bit weird if I am honest.... "you would have been 142 today".

Some people have this uncontrollable urge for attention, likes and validation on Facebook. It's hideous

Honestly I don't understand why people do this at all!

I also don't understand the people who put a quote picture up wishing their deceased loved one a "happy heavenly birthday/Christmas" sure remember them and wish them at home or where they are buried or scattered but it just feels attention seeking posting it online, who are you posting it for? Your nan who died 15 years ago and never had Instagram?!

I have 270 people on my FB, and I only ever see the posts of a tenth of that. My feed is mostly ads, sponsored ads, and pages of people I do not know.
Sometimes, I think of someone and look them up.... and they have been very active on FB. It just does not show up on my feed.

So, in the case of the person you know... I bet no one reacted/commented because they never actually saw the post to start with.

I will never understand those who put their whole selves and others on Facebook, I myself am quite a private person.

That’s awful for her daughter. That’s some really inconsiderate and bad parenting. There should seriously be some kind of laws around that. Every one has a right to privacy, including children. But social media has brainwashed us to believe we have to publicly document everything single moment of our lives. Do it as an adult, but don’t do it to your children.

I agree. It's a massive problem (I think anyway). Somebody I went to school with posts her DD entire life on social media from her school bullying issues, medical diagnosis, when she's been ill and incontinent, unflattering photos of her asleep or in hospital...she's now 13 and it's still going on. I deleted her last year as I don't want to be an audience to it anymore.

I believe no one should be posting images of people that are in kind of distress, pain or discomfort. The hospital ones are the worst, and it’s done for sympathy points, posting it open social media. But I also feel exactly the same way about people posting images of their children’s entire lives, from the very first scan, for the world to see. Why? What about the child’s privacy? Have they consented to this? This is the really bad thing about social media.

It’s horrible attention seeking behaviour.

Agree with every poster here. Sometimes I can’t get my head around the difference in people’s sensibilities!

I completely agree. It's a completely disgusting grab from attention at the expense of their loved ones dignity.

Oh I can't stand it. A local young lad died recently and a family friend posted a photo of her and him on a community page and he looked so so unwell. I know that he wasn't seeing friends towards the end as he was so self conscious and it was just a total disregard for his feelings - and his families because they hadn't posted recent pictures either.

100% agree with you - would you want your child posting on the internet about how you've soiled yourself, and if not, why on earth would you do it to your own parent? It's truly awful. Well done you for protecting your mum.

I agree, can't stand this

I follow some sen mums and dads on tiktok, for tips and advice for dd.

There's some who you have to avoid because they so clearly don't respect their kids 😐

It’s horrible and like most posts on Facebook it’s all about attention. It’s not allowing her mum any dignity whatsoever and I would be furious if someone was to post pictures of my mum like that.

It really pisses me off too.
In one of the local FB groups, someone posted a picture of a lady who was very scantily clad (def not weather appropriate) and splashing about in puddles like a kid. They posted it with the intention of people to take the piss out of her.
Someone recognised the lady as her mum. She had bipolar and was going through a manic episode. She gave the person who took the pics, and posted them, absolute hell, and rightly so.

My own DP has been filmed when having an autistic meltdown in public. People think it is funny. I don't.
I have also had people film me too when in MH crisis.

I would have to say something. Just a text asking if her mother would like that. It’s horrendous and maybe she would be shocked if she realised what a mistake she’s made doing it. You’d be doing her a favour in my view.

I got one in my feed on Instagram recently. A dying tot if around two singing to her mum with the camera fixed on her. Apparently she died minutes after. People have gone mad. Where has dignity and respect gone?

She’s putting her need for attention above her mother’s dignity. It’s vile.

This absolutely infuriates me.
I see so many videos of vulnerable people (be it ill, disabled, young) who can't consent with fucking cameras shoved in their faces so they can "perform" to make a viral post. It's disgusting. My grandmother would have been devastated if she realised I had filmed her confused and upset. All so people can say 'ahhhh how sad' in the comments and push up the views.

Awful, thoughtless behaviour from your friend. Crass posts at the expense of someone else for likes and attention.

Death was the outcome and dw certainly didn't want anyone having pics of her dying son.