iPad at bedtime

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Passmeaplacard · 29/12/2024 18:48

I know I’m not being unfair to have this view but am I being unfair to be so cross over it?
My husband doesn’t read at all, doesn’t enjoy it and doesn’t see the point of it.

Before our daughter was born we discussed the importance of reading and he promised he would make an effort with her. He never has, I can count on one hand how many times he’s read a book with her.

His tactic for bedtime is to give her the iPad and sit with her until she falls asleep. I hate it so much but there are many other problems with him as a husband and a parent so I’ve had to let it go. We alternate bedtimes and she adores reading books with me.

Tonight she’s expressed so much joy that it’s bedtime with Daddy and she gets the iPad instead of books with me. I’ve lost it and hidden the iPad. please reassure me it’s not normal to put a 3.5 year old to bed with an iPad and never read to her. He thinks I’m out of order and she is learning just as much from a screen as a book.

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DarkAndTwisties · 29/12/2024 19:18

His tactic for bedtime is to give her the iPad and sit with her until she falls asleep.

She's 3.5yrs? This is just terrible parenting tbh. No excuse for such laziness. Reading a book to a three year old takes minutes. And even if he doesn't want to read, an iPad until she falls asleep?

A lot of the time I'm all for each parent doing their own thing and the other not criticising and controlling it. But I'd put my foot down over the iPad.

babasaclover · 29/12/2024 18:50

He's lazy and doesn't deserve a child. You get out what you put in and she deserves his effort not ignoring her.

I say this as someone who hates reading out loud, I feel so uncomfortable doing it and often stumble over words - 5 mins feels like 50 but I do it for my child

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