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Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 18:35

Mum fainted at mass this morning and an ambulance was called. She was sitting down and felt everything going black and fainted.

she came to and seemed fairly coherent but pale. Ambulance assessed her as blood pressure fine but pulse tackicardic (not sure how to spell that).
she said she hadn’t slept well, hadn’t had anything to eat or drink before mass and had taken her tablets (that make her sleepy) in the middle of the night as she’d forgotten them earlier.

I met her at the hospital at about 11.30 and we’ve been here ever since. Her bloods were fine but then they wanted a CT scan of her head.

she’s insisting on going home now before seeing the doc about the results and to be honest I’m not sure how to argue that she shouldn’t. Shes 82 and has been sitting on a waiting room chair for 7 hours. I feel it’s healthier for her to be at home in front of her fire and having her dinner.

she’s had no episodes/symptoms since we’ve been here.

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CarobyBlobs · 29/12/2024 19:25

I read about a guy on twitter who got fed up of waiting to be seen, went home and died of an aneurism. It might be boring waiting but I would wait a bit longer for the all clear

mummysontheginalready · 29/12/2024 19:25

if she faints again which could be possible you will have to do it all again so please stay for results. they may well have the results but there are so many people they are dealing with so please be patient its frustrating but would be best

Bournetilly · 29/12/2024 19:22

Given her age and the fact she’s on blood thinners I’d do what I could to get her to stay.

PotatoFan · 29/12/2024 19:21

Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 19:07

thats how I’ve kept her here this long but she is fully capable of just walking off and letting me run after her!

If she’s capable of walking the full distance home and prefers to do that than to wait to see the doctor with you then get a lift home then that’s I guess that’s her choice and you may as well just go home and leave her to it.

DiscombobulatedmarkII · 29/12/2024 19:15

She’s tachycardic, on blood thinners, had an episode of syncope and ED have advised she needs a head CT. She needs to stay.

Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 19:07

PotatoFan · 29/12/2024 18:53

Well if she’s relying on you to drive her home just say no

thats how I’ve kept her here this long but she is fully capable of just walking off and letting me run after her!

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Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 19:02

CatsWhiskerz · 29/12/2024 18:59

I'd stay. They may well be giving her some time to assess her whilst the test results are being sought. At 82 it could be a multitude of things - plus it'll stop her from doing silly things like not eating or drinking and perhaps do mass another day if she's not really up to it. I hope all is ok

They’re not assessing her though. In between bloods and scans we’ve been in the main public waiting room, not even the ‘inner’ waiting room.

I asked the desk and her results are back so I’ve convinced her to wait a bit longer.

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CatsWhiskerz · 29/12/2024 18:59

I'd stay. They may well be giving her some time to assess her whilst the test results are being sought. At 82 it could be a multitude of things - plus it'll stop her from doing silly things like not eating or drinking and perhaps do mass another day if she's not really up to it. I hope all is ok

UpMyself · 29/12/2024 18:55

Stay. It's tachycardic. Correcting because I'm adding a link.Tachycardia - Wikipedia

EllieRosesMammy · 29/12/2024 18:54

I would also leave but stay with her to monitor her for a while. Anything too serious the doctor can give you a call. Hope she's okay! X

SparklyBrickViper · 29/12/2024 18:53

If you leave, and need to go back you start the whole process again. It’s tedious but sit it out.

I’ve done it three times this year with my mother, 14 hours, 10 hours and 7 hours - it’s a PITA but it is what it is.

PotatoFan · 29/12/2024 18:53

Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 18:52

My mother is not someone I can tell what to do! She’s very stubborn when she’s made up her mind.

Well if she’s relying on you to drive her home just say no

Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 18:52

PotatoFan · 29/12/2024 18:49

It will be much quicker to stay and wait for the results than to come back and restart the process if she starts getting symptoms again. I’d just tell her to wait it out.

My mother is not someone I can tell what to do! She’s very stubborn when she’s made up her mind.

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Helladelinquent · 29/12/2024 18:50

RoseInBloome7 · 29/12/2024 18:48

Did she hit her head when she fainted ?

The CT scan will be to exclude bleeding on her brain . Is she on blood thinners?

She didn’t hit her head. She just went sideways into the person next to her.
she is on blood thinners though.

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PotatoFan · 29/12/2024 18:49

It will be much quicker to stay and wait for the results than to come back and restart the process if she starts getting symptoms again. I’d just tell her to wait it out.

RoseInBloome7 · 29/12/2024 18:48

Did she hit her head when she fainted ?

The CT scan will be to exclude bleeding on her brain . Is she on blood thinners?

bradypuss · 29/12/2024 18:45

Yes I would leave.
The scan has been done if there's anything worrying they can contact you

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