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To want the car to move!

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honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:19

Looking for honest opinions here because I’m aware this may make me seem like an AH.

I live in a road where the majority of houses don’t have drives. We park on the road. I knew that when I bought the house, it’s not permit parking but there is usually space for two small cars in front of my house. It has never been a problem in the time I’ve lived here, occasionally if there’s a local event I’ve had to park up the road for a few hours if I’ve been out, or for an evening.

Four weeks ago I came home from work to find a big car taking up both spaces outside. So I parked elsewhere. The car is still there.

Nobody has been to it, or moved it in that time and frankly I’m getting annoyed. I have to now park a long way from my house (else I’m in someone else’s space), which has been annoying with heavy bags of food shopping, or if I’m going out with the dog/DC. It’s meant if my mum has visited she’s also had to park elsewhere, again not ideal.

But what can I do? No point leaving a note as nobody has been to the car in that time (it’s right outside my window so I would see). None of the neighbours know who it belongs to either. It seems a stupid thing to get stressed about but I just want to be able to park outside my house!

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Margorett · 29/12/2024 17:47

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:28

Thanks for that. But when you buy a house with parking on the road you kind of expect to be able to do that.

And yes if I parked outside someone else’s house that would be inconveniencing them. We all try and be considerate when parking here. It’s a residential street with most people in the same boat.

Sounds like it may be your car? If so just move it along the road a bit? Just for a change

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Then don't expect - It is not your road !

itsgettingweird · 29/12/2024 17:46

Ablondiebutagoody · 29/12/2024 17:24

@Okonomoyaki
Where does it say 1 month? That's pure conjecture. I wouldn't expect to go on holiday or into hospital or a term at uni or whatever and find that my car had been towed in the meantime, nor would anyone else. It doesn't happen......unless it's a total untaxed wreck, which the one outside OP's house isn't.

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But why would you leave your car in a residential street you don't live in for weeks on end whilst you went into hospital or to uni or on holiday?

Why wouldn't you leave it in your usual parking place?

Some of the replies here are hilarious just to be able to say YABu.

Let's face it we all would be annoyed by this. It's annoying. Maybe not illegal and maybe it needs to be sucked up.

But it is annoying!

I live in a one way in and out road (estate) which have some little nooks in it like mini cul de sacs but is all the same named street iyswim?

Everyone has 1 space or a driveway.

Behind me in one cul de sac type arrangement is a guy who owns a tow truck company. He basically has a huge flat bed tow truck that takes up 4 spaces. Sometimes complete with a transit van on top.

He parks it anywhere he can find the space - sometimes that's opposite my corner space and although his wheels are legally off the dropped Kurb behind me the flat bad bit sticks out so far over I cannot get off my drive easily.

The management company keep threatening to make it permit parking due to the number of works vans that park here. I wish they would!

But until then as much as he's a dick (bought a house without parking outside it so doesn't inconvenience himself or block his view) I have to suck it up and continue parking on the corner on the road if he's not there when we get home so he can't park there

Magnastorm · 29/12/2024 17:45

You've no more right to park in that space than anyone else. It's the downside of having a house without a driveway. Nothing to be done at the moment unless you know who the owner is.

The police won't give a shit about a legally parked car and despite some nonsense being talked, the council will not instruct a car to be removed for no better reason than it's not been moved for a few weeks.

NutNutmum · 29/12/2024 17:44

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Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 17:43

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 17:36

But they do. I work for a council, we absolutely do.

And there is not a council in this land that has its own removal service. All towing is done by licenced companies. There is not a single one that would remove a legally parked vehicle without the instruction of police. They are now heavily regulated.

Moonshine5 · 29/12/2024 17:43

Livelovebehappy · 29/12/2024 17:40

You still get inconsiderate people parking across driveways. Try living near a school. Dropped kerb? Great for parents to mount the kerb without potentially damaging the tyres of their four by fours. Blocking someone from getting on and off their drives? Oh, they’ll only be five minutes whilst dropping little Albert off….

In that case which you're right, it is very unfair luckily you have recourse.
In OPs case it's not breaking the law.

toomuchfaff · 29/12/2024 17:42

Rosscameasdoody · 29/12/2024 17:32

What a good idea. Vandalise a car that’s parked directly outside your own home.

a hose 5 hours later and no one is none the wiser. But you find out of anyone is watching the car. What's your suggestion?

SerendipityJane · 29/12/2024 17:42

Incidentally the police can move cars parked legally with tax, MOT and insurance if they want. A family friend was a policeman with a traffic unit, and they were tasked with towing a whole street of cars once because the Queen Mum (gawd bless her) was visiting a local hospital and (for obvious reasons) the route had to be cleared. There had been a decision to not inform the houses in the street in advance.

This was in the days of mirrors on sticks.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 29/12/2024 17:41

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 17:24

Thank you. You said it much better than I did. Honestly I’m fine with it coming and going but it hasn’t moved at all in that time.

It doesn't matter what you're fine with, there is no exclusive right to park outside your own home or anywhere else that is public land.

The threats on this thread of scratches, windows put in, butter/flour to stick notices on the windscreen are pathetic. That happened once on our street (similar to other narrow streets mentioned) - car was parked, a resident didn't like it, went out to do something to the car the owner turned up and punched him. I saw it happen, refused to be a witness for the resident because he asked for it.

If you decide to go down the lawless route yourself (general, not aimed at you), take the consequences in good grace.

GeraldineMoore · 29/12/2024 17:41

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ErniesGhostlyGoldTops · 29/12/2024 17:41

We had this.

Once some little tinker had let the tyres down, it looked more abandoned and so it got lifted away by the council contractor.

WalterdelaMare · 29/12/2024 17:40

You might like to park outside your own house, who wouldn’t? However, this you will just have to tolerate. Much easier to not let something so trivial annoy you.

Livelovebehappy · 29/12/2024 17:40

Moonshine5 · 29/12/2024 17:35

You clearly do have a need for a driveway lol
Pay for a drop kerb then you have space for your car.

You still get inconsiderate people parking across driveways. Try living near a school. Dropped kerb? Great for parents to mount the kerb without potentially damaging the tyres of their four by fours. Blocking someone from getting on and off their drives? Oh, they’ll only be five minutes whilst dropping little Albert off….

Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 17:39

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 17:36

But they do. I work for a council, we absolutely do.

Have you been sniffing glue.

People are showing you you are incorrect based on the links YOU have provided yet you are adamant you are still right.

hideawayforever · 29/12/2024 17:39

call the police it could have been stolen and dumped

Overthebow · 29/12/2024 17:39

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 17:31

And that would be absolutely fine, because I’d probably be thinking to myself “that’s the car from number 22 or wherever” which would be super helpful on the occasions where an ambulance/fire truck/delivery can’t get down the road and needs people to move. Because that happens every couple of months here.

Is the car badly parked so that an ambulance or fire truck can’t get down the road? If so then contact the police so they can move it, cats absolute shouldn’t be blocking the road so that they can’t get down that’s so dangerous.

privatenonamegiven · 29/12/2024 17:38

Livelovebehappy · 29/12/2024 17:34

Using butter to stick a note on the car is not vandalising. The butter will come off, but might take an hour or so. Not permanent, which is why I suggested this rather than popping the tyres……

This kind of thing is not a good idea, the op does not know if the vehicle belongs to a neighbour or relative of a neighbour etc.

Yes this is annoying for her, but op has no idea of the circumstances of why the vehicle is there and could upset her neighbours - not smart at all.

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 17:36

Ablondiebutagoody · 29/12/2024 17:32

From the 1st link, second paragraph:

"We won't intervene in residential disputes about vehicles outside your property, or if you simply do not like a particular vehicle in the street where you live"

They simply don't tow vehicles after 4 weeks of not moving. They might check it out but will conclude that it's not abandoned. Just a busybody wasting everyone's time.

But they do. I work for a council, we absolutely do.

Moonshine5 · 29/12/2024 17:35

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:33

Thank you
like I said, it’s a residential street with everyone in the same position. I happen to like where I live, and have no need of a driveway generally. Maybe the person whose car it is could put it on their driveway?

You clearly do have a need for a driveway lol
Pay for a drop kerb then you have space for your car.

Winterskyfall · 29/12/2024 17:35

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 29/12/2024 16:25

A better note would be

I'm so sorry. It was a total accident. Good news is you can hardly see it.

Love this!!!!

scotstars · 29/12/2024 17:35

Nothing you can do anyone has the right to park there and if its taxed mot'd doing nothing wrong. I regularly have to park about 6 houses along from my own most homes on our street don't have drives and there are several properties with 2/3 cars. Everyone just parks where they can park!

Livelovebehappy · 29/12/2024 17:34

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 17:31

Yes, vandalise a perfectly legally parked car. It won't be too difficult for the owner to work out who did it, then retaliate. Remember they know where you live and not you them, if you chose this game to play.

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Using butter to stick a note on the car is not vandalising. The butter will come off, but might take an hour or so. Not permanent, which is why I suggested this rather than popping the tyres……

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 17:34

Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 17:32

From your own link:

  • It’s stationary for a significant amount of time (over 4 weeks). If the vehicle is legally parked and roadworthy we will take no further action

And the other links?

But you believe what you like. I'm not the one who'll get towed, I know several who have.

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 17:34

Is there a park in your town OP? Perhaps you could claim that as your own personal green space and ask other residents not to use it!

Patienceinshortsupply · 29/12/2024 17:33

We had this at work OP, we have access to a shared lane up to our workshop premises doors off a road and someone had parked a huge car slightly over the lane which meant we couldn't get our large delivery van in and out. For weeks. We reported to Police, Highways, Council... no one was interested as it was taxed/Mot'ed. In the end, I put it on a local FB page and said that it was going to get damaged if left there any longer as it was in a blind spot for our driver who was still learning to drive a LWB vehicle.

Was gone by the next morning.