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To want the car to move!

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honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:19

Looking for honest opinions here because I’m aware this may make me seem like an AH.

I live in a road where the majority of houses don’t have drives. We park on the road. I knew that when I bought the house, it’s not permit parking but there is usually space for two small cars in front of my house. It has never been a problem in the time I’ve lived here, occasionally if there’s a local event I’ve had to park up the road for a few hours if I’ve been out, or for an evening.

Four weeks ago I came home from work to find a big car taking up both spaces outside. So I parked elsewhere. The car is still there.

Nobody has been to it, or moved it in that time and frankly I’m getting annoyed. I have to now park a long way from my house (else I’m in someone else’s space), which has been annoying with heavy bags of food shopping, or if I’m going out with the dog/DC. It’s meant if my mum has visited she’s also had to park elsewhere, again not ideal.

But what can I do? No point leaving a note as nobody has been to the car in that time (it’s right outside my window so I would see). None of the neighbours know who it belongs to either. It seems a stupid thing to get stressed about but I just want to be able to park outside my house!

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AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:30

BettyBardMacDonald · 29/12/2024 18:51

Yes, but one doesn't expect an abandoned car to sit in front of one's home for four week's, either.

OP isn't complaining because the neighbour's BIL parked in front of her house for a Christmas visit. The abandoned vehicle has been there for a month. Can one seriously not comprehend the difference, before finger-wagging at her?

Where is the evidence it's been "abandoned"? According to OP, it's a 7-8yr old car in good condition with valid MOT and VED. OP has only just reported it to her local authority who will conduct enquiries to establish if it has been abandoned (or maybe stolen?). Only when this question has been answered can any of us guess at the owner's motive for parking outside OP's house, but if it's not stolen and the owner hasn't abandoned it, they've done nothing illegal and OP will have to wait until they are ready to move it.

MaryEarpsSenseofSelfImportance · 29/12/2024 19:28

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Greengagesnfennel · 29/12/2024 19:28

NutNutmum · 29/12/2024 16:44

Funny that I had someone as incredibly petty as you on my street once, that was until they got sick of repairing their tyres and paying to get the scratches out of there car ect.

Not as clever as you think you are, 🙄.

Wow very apt name there given you are a nutnut vandal (vandal apologiser eve if you are not THE vandal. You don’t specify your level of involvement in the crime…)

KiraNerys1 · 29/12/2024 19:27

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 16:57

You purchased a house. The road is outside your house. It's not yours.
It's also not inconsiderate at all. It's a public road

I agree, every time you park on a public street with houses, you are parking outside someone's house!?!

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 19:22

CatamaranViper · 29/12/2024 19:17

I work for a children's charity in a building right in the middle of a residential area. We have zero parking and no where nearby that allows all day parking. I tend to bus in and out but sometimes I do need the car and have to park outside someone's house.
We all get verbally abused for parking there by the residents, we've even had them egg the building and damage cars. We've had to involve the police but the residents seem to believe they have a right to park outside their houses. I'm sorry but they don't.
It's rubbish OP that it's causing you issues but you don't have a right to park there I'm afraid.

But do you park there for several weeks not moving the car?
as I’ve said no problem when there’s been a car there, it happens with visitors, local events etc. But this is 4 weeks without moving.

And I’m fairly sure if you could park a 2 min walk from where you do, in a clearly not used area you would? I’m sorry you’ve had vandalism issues, once again I will say I would not do that.

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MaryEarpsSenseofSelfImportance · 29/12/2024 19:19

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AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:18

Newgreensofa · 29/12/2024 18:50

This has worried me! I have moved and hardly use my car now, yet I want to keep it to see if I need it. It is taxed (£0 but registered as such), MoT'd and insured; plus I pay for a parking permit. I do start it and drive it a little but to most people (unless they're looking out of their windows all the time!) it would look like it didn't move since I usually get the same spot when I return. I would be so upset to find it gone!

There's no need to worry. Please read the information at the link. The LA or Police would conduct investigations to establish if the car is stolen or abandoned. They wouldn't simply tow it away on the say-so of a disgruntled neighbour.

CatamaranViper · 29/12/2024 19:17

I work for a children's charity in a building right in the middle of a residential area. We have zero parking and no where nearby that allows all day parking. I tend to bus in and out but sometimes I do need the car and have to park outside someone's house.
We all get verbally abused for parking there by the residents, we've even had them egg the building and damage cars. We've had to involve the police but the residents seem to believe they have a right to park outside their houses. I'm sorry but they don't.
It's rubbish OP that it's causing you issues but you don't have a right to park there I'm afraid.

fivebyfivebuffy · 29/12/2024 19:06

I've had a rusty, broken shed of a car parked outside my bedroom (ground floor flat) window for 4 years
Nothing I can do as it's the neighbours and their space is outside my flat. It's annoying and I'm sick of seeing the moss growing but..

Tallerandtall · 29/12/2024 19:01

@honeyandbutterontoast

you are not thinking of the person who parked it there!

why do you assume they are not nice or considerate

they parked a car legally on the road

the end

rhe fact that you can’t park near is also probably due to others

bellocchild · 29/12/2024 19:00

Soniastrumpet1984 · 29/12/2024 16:52

So criminal damage then to someone who hasn't done anything wrong. Riiiighhht what a lovely person you are!

A lot of us are 'lovely people'...a tyre let down would indicate your displeasure, but obviously not when some posters are on the case.

CatsWhiskerz · 29/12/2024 18:55

As others have said, it's a road where anyone can park for a set time before you can report. My mum bought a cheaper house after her
Divorce when we were kids which didn't have a driveway so she paid to get the kerb dropped before saving to have a driveway built, that's always 2 solutions you could consider. Unfortunately some houses have neither a drive or a space due to yellow lines etc so they have to park in surrounding areas so it's a bit of a bum fight without proper parking

ClareBaldingsBaldBeaver · 29/12/2024 18:55

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BIossomtoes · 29/12/2024 18:54

Newgreensofa · 29/12/2024 18:50

This has worried me! I have moved and hardly use my car now, yet I want to keep it to see if I need it. It is taxed (£0 but registered as such), MoT'd and insured; plus I pay for a parking permit. I do start it and drive it a little but to most people (unless they're looking out of their windows all the time!) it would look like it didn't move since I usually get the same spot when I return. I would be so upset to find it gone!

You wouldn’t find it gone if you’ve got a parking permit.

Tallerandtall · 29/12/2024 18:54

@MumblesParty

sorry you are wrong
I am not saying it’s perfect to park there but moaning about someone being there is so self entitled it’s untrue

both need to get real
And stop playing the nice émotional card

dear me

next you will be complaining the GP didn’t give you antibiotics for a sore throat and how there are such long queues at the surgery

BettyBardMacDonald · 29/12/2024 18:51

StormingNorman · 29/12/2024 16:39

When you buy a house without parking, you don’t expect to be able to park directly outside your house. You hope you’ll be able to park on your street but you know nothing is guaranteed.

Yes, but one doesn't expect an abandoned car to sit in front of one's home for four week's, either.

OP isn't complaining because the neighbour's BIL parked in front of her house for a Christmas visit. The abandoned vehicle has been there for a month. Can one seriously not comprehend the difference, before finger-wagging at her?

Zingy123 · 29/12/2024 18:50

You can check if it's stolen on isitnicked.com

Newgreensofa · 29/12/2024 18:50

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 16:38

If it has been there a month, you can report to your local council as abandoned, and they have a duty to remove

https://www.barnet.gov.uk/roads-and-pavements/abandoned-vehicles

This has worried me! I have moved and hardly use my car now, yet I want to keep it to see if I need it. It is taxed (£0 but registered as such), MoT'd and insured; plus I pay for a parking permit. I do start it and drive it a little but to most people (unless they're looking out of their windows all the time!) it would look like it didn't move since I usually get the same spot when I return. I would be so upset to find it gone!

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 18:49

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But they could park up the road? Particularly if they knew the car would be there for an extended period and it was clear the road was parked on by the residents? If they knew they would not be driving that car for a month yet would be in a space that was in daily use?

yes I think that’s selfish. I think people should be more considerate.

The poster who said they couldn’t park outside their house after a night shift? That wouldn’t happen here. They could park because their neighbours would be considerate.

I may be entitled but I think we should think of others a bit more. I don’t own the road of course, but neither does the driver of the car that’s there.

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stuckinthemiddlewithyou1 · 29/12/2024 18:46

If I bought a house with no driveway I would expect that some days I may not be able to park outside my home and some days I’d be lucky to be able to do so.

4 weeks and the car hasn’t moved and I’d also be a bit annoyed and would contact the police to double check it is not stolen or abandoned.

AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 18:45

itsgettingweird · 29/12/2024 17:57

Getting annoyed is human nature!

We are designed to be annoyed by others being inconsiderate in a way to make sure we are socialised into being considerate of others.

Clearly some people aren't as evolutionalised as the main population and this nice bit of human nature bypassed their dna!

Luckily most human beings don't go out of their way to explain why they'd be an inconsiderate twat just because they can. 🙄

Wow, "getting annoyed is human nature"? Well, who would have thought it? Yes, we understand the irritation factor, but that's not the point. Most of us have evolved sufficiently to know that even when other people behave inconsiderately, if they aren't behaving illegally, there's little we can do about it (and we have more important things to expend that emotional energy on).
In the early days of our marriage, DH and I lived in a terraced house in a large city a mile from the football stadium. If we timed our Saturday shopping outing badly when there was a home match, we couldn't park 10 roads away from our house, let alone outside. Did we get annoyed? No, because the house was all we could afford at the time and we knew parking would be an issue. It just meant that occasionally my sister, who lived that bit further away (and had a drive), would get us pitching up for a cup of tea until the match had finished and the roads had cleared.

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 18:45

Occasionally yes. If I’m just popping home at lunchtime. Or I’ve done it before and then moved my car as soon as the person outside my house moved. I’ve never left my car for a long time outside someone else’s house. If I’ve had building work etc I’ve moved my car right up the road so their van can park outside.

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lateatwork · 29/12/2024 18:42

MumblesParty · 29/12/2024 18:36

It’s so depressing reading posts from people saying “it’s perfectly legal, OP is being entitled, you can’t expect to have a space outside your house, anyone can park wherever they want as long as it’s legal”. Of course is this true, from a purely legal perspective. But do people genuinely care so little about others, that they’re prepared to wilfully inconvenience them, for their own selfish desires?

Of course, like everyone else, I've parked on residential streets for a few hours if I’m visiting somewhere locally, but I wouldn’t dream of leaving my car there for several weeks, and nor would I park there regularly, knowing it would make life harder for someone else. Why would anyone deliberately make somebody else’s life harder, just because they legally could?

I don't own a car.

There is always someone parked outside my house. Those 'couple if hours' generally add up to a 24 hr period where I live.

Just because I don't have a car, doesn't mean I want yours parked outside my house....

I'd rather not have pollution in my street.. or cars idling waiting for others to join them. Or sitting in their idling cars eating lunch. Or just hanging out.

ClareBaldingsBaldBeaver · 29/12/2024 18:41

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honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 18:40

BIossomtoes · 29/12/2024 18:39

We live on a street with virtually no off street parking. Everyone who lives here is incredibly respectful of each other’s spaces. If there’s ever another car outside our house I can guarantee it’s someone who doesn’t live here. Four weeks would absolutely do my head in.

Thank you.

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