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To want the car to move!

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honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:19

Looking for honest opinions here because I’m aware this may make me seem like an AH.

I live in a road where the majority of houses don’t have drives. We park on the road. I knew that when I bought the house, it’s not permit parking but there is usually space for two small cars in front of my house. It has never been a problem in the time I’ve lived here, occasionally if there’s a local event I’ve had to park up the road for a few hours if I’ve been out, or for an evening.

Four weeks ago I came home from work to find a big car taking up both spaces outside. So I parked elsewhere. The car is still there.

Nobody has been to it, or moved it in that time and frankly I’m getting annoyed. I have to now park a long way from my house (else I’m in someone else’s space), which has been annoying with heavy bags of food shopping, or if I’m going out with the dog/DC. It’s meant if my mum has visited she’s also had to park elsewhere, again not ideal.

But what can I do? No point leaving a note as nobody has been to the car in that time (it’s right outside my window so I would see). None of the neighbours know who it belongs to either. It seems a stupid thing to get stressed about but I just want to be able to park outside my house!

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 22:19

Sorry @MumblesParty I meant to say ludicrous post by @Tallerandtall ^

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 22:14

MumblesParty · 29/12/2024 20:06

@Tallerandtall what a strange link to make, between GP surgeries and parking!

The point is the time this car has been there. 4 weeks. Not moving at all, day and night. That’s a long time to leave a car in a spot that you know is likely to be needed by people who actually live there. So although the residents may not have a legal claim to the space, they surely have more of a moral right to the spot than a random person who wants to ditch their car for a month! That’s not entitlement, it’s common sense.

And as a GP, I would never complain about not getting antibiotics for a sore throat!

Well said too. And yes - what a ludicrous and nonsensical post by @MumblesParty Hmm

Got naff-all to do with the issue in question!

But yeah you're right, what kind of selfish arse parks their car directly outside someone house 24/7 for FOUR WEEKS FFS?! Hmm Breathtakingly selfish and thoughtless behaviour. Sadly, some of the posts on this thread illustrate that society is becoming more and more self-serving, mean-spirited, pig-headed, and downright bloody selfish!

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 22:07

MumblesParty · 29/12/2024 18:36

It’s so depressing reading posts from people saying “it’s perfectly legal, OP is being entitled, you can’t expect to have a space outside your house, anyone can park wherever they want as long as it’s legal”. Of course is this true, from a purely legal perspective. But do people genuinely care so little about others, that they’re prepared to wilfully inconvenience them, for their own selfish desires?

Of course, like everyone else, I've parked on residential streets for a few hours if I’m visiting somewhere locally, but I wouldn’t dream of leaving my car there for several weeks, and nor would I park there regularly, knowing it would make life harder for someone else. Why would anyone deliberately make somebody else’s life harder, just because they legally could?

100% this. Very well said. 👏

This is a case of 'just because you CAN do something, it doesn't necessarily mean you should!'

Soniastrumpet1984 · 29/12/2024 21:43

This thread is mental. People just deciding they know better than the actual law then encouraging criminal damage.

Londonrach1 · 29/12/2024 21:15

As not moved for a month report to the council that it's abandoned...some poor person might have had their car stolen.

Goldengirl123 · 29/12/2024 21:13

The highway is not your personal parking space

Mespher · 29/12/2024 20:10

It might be someone who live in a street nearby on a main road or bad parking that has gone away or can't drive for whatever reason and has left their car in a safe place. Somebody from the main road near us used to do that probably because of the likelihood of the car getting scratched or the mirrors damaged on a busy road

StormingNorman · 29/12/2024 20:09

BettyBardMacDonald · 29/12/2024 18:51

Yes, but one doesn't expect an abandoned car to sit in front of one's home for four week's, either.

OP isn't complaining because the neighbour's BIL parked in front of her house for a Christmas visit. The abandoned vehicle has been there for a month. Can one seriously not comprehend the difference, before finger-wagging at her?

It isn’t necessarily abandoned. We have four cars and it’s quite normal for one to sit without being driven for a month or so.

MumblesParty · 29/12/2024 20:06

Tallerandtall · 29/12/2024 18:54

@MumblesParty

sorry you are wrong
I am not saying it’s perfect to park there but moaning about someone being there is so self entitled it’s untrue

both need to get real
And stop playing the nice émotional card

dear me

next you will be complaining the GP didn’t give you antibiotics for a sore throat and how there are such long queues at the surgery

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@Tallerandtall what a strange link to make, between GP surgeries and parking!

The point is the time this car has been there. 4 weeks. Not moving at all, day and night. That’s a long time to leave a car in a spot that you know is likely to be needed by people who actually live there. So although the residents may not have a legal claim to the space, they surely have more of a moral right to the spot than a random person who wants to ditch their car for a month! That’s not entitlement, it’s common sense.

And as a GP, I would never complain about not getting antibiotics for a sore throat!

TheLizardQueen · 29/12/2024 20:03

AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:57

@TheLizardQueen Ah, so now you're learning that it's not your space.

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I am lol but it’s still bloody annoying!!

MumblesParty · 29/12/2024 19:58

KiraNerys1 · 29/12/2024 19:27

I agree, every time you park on a public street with houses, you are parking outside someone's house!?!

Do you do that for several weeks?

MumblesParty · 29/12/2024 19:57

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It doesn’t take a genius to realise that if you leave your car outside someone’s house for several weeks, where there is no driveway parking, it is likely to inconvenience them. So, the options are:-

  1. the car owner doesn’t realise this is inconvenient, which suggests they’re so stupid they probably shouldn’t be driving.
  2. something unexpected has happened eg hospital admission.
  3. they just don’t give a shit.

Judging from most of the replies on here, sadly I think option 3 is the most likely.

AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:57

@TheLizardQueen Ah, so now you're learning that it's not your space.

Seymour5 · 29/12/2024 19:57

I live on a street with some houses having drives and some with no parking. The residents are all pretty considerate of one another, and most of the time we can park our one car near our house.

Every year there is a music festival nearby, the organisers put stewards on the local streets to ensure residents can park. It works well. There is also a football ground quite close. I never take my car out on match days, it’s mayhem.

Strangers do park, I suppose when their streets are full, but to leave a car somewhere for several weeks just feels a bit off.

TheLizardQueen · 29/12/2024 19:52

@AngelicKaty nope but it’s right outside my house and I’ve parked in the same spot for 17 years. I’m aware I don’t own the space but still, it’s very frustrating when I can’t get parked near my house

SophWin · 29/12/2024 19:50

Name( car reg/photo) and shame here worked for me.

https://www.mysociety.org/wehelpyou/report-illegal-parking/

In fact, someone might have already photographed and put it on, check your postcode @honeyandbutterontoast. One for my postcode shown in here, isn't even illegally parked, just an ongoing nuisance.

Report Illegal Parking

mySociety provides technology, research and data to help people be active citizens, in more than 40 countries around the world.

https://www.mysociety.org/wehelpyou/report-illegal-parking

AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:50

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No thanks, I have a moral compass and respect the law.

AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:50

@TheLizardQueen But what do you mean by "my space"? If you mean a designated parking space that you bought or rented with your property then yes, that would be infuriating. If, however, you have the same situation as OP, with no off-street parking and no restrictions on the public highway (such as resident permit parking), then that's what you have to accept can/will happen.

changecandles · 29/12/2024 19:49

@Okonomoyaki

And yet weirdly the OP has found similar info to me...
Sure you can report a car after 2 weeks. If the checks are made and it's MOT'd and not stolen and is parked legally etc then they won't move it.

MaryEarpsSenseofSelfImportance · 29/12/2024 19:47

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TheLizardQueen · 29/12/2024 19:45

I’ve had a car parked in my space for the last 6 weeks. Very frustrating, there’s nothing I can do since it’s taxed and MOTd. Ive no idea who it belongs to either 🤬

changecandles · 29/12/2024 19:44

drgrat · 29/12/2024 16:39

I leave my car for weeks/months outside someone else’s house as we have only street parking. I have no right to the space outside my house and it’s an absolute luxury if I get to park outside my house.

YABU, so much so, I’d purposefully park outside your house just to prove the point. But I’m incredibly petty.

Why do you have a car if you don't drive it for months at a time?

AngelicKaty · 29/12/2024 19:43

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Really? So you're seriously suggesting that OP should disregard what is clearly written on askMID when doing such a check:

You are only entitled to the insurance information about the vehicle for one or more of the following reasons:

  • you are within the United Kingdom; AND
  • it is either registered/owned/insured by you or your employer;
  • you are permitted to drive it;
  • you are an Insurance Broker or Agent and acting on behalf of your client.

It is an offence to wrongfully obtain information of this nature without any of the above reasonable causes. The information provided must not be used for any purposes unrelated to this enquiry.
🙄

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 19:39

KiraNerys1 · 29/12/2024 19:36

When you park 'a long way away' are you parking on a non residential road?

It’s a two min walk. The houses there have large drives and wide road frontages (and are set far back from the road). There are rarely cars there.

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KiraNerys1 · 29/12/2024 19:36

When you park 'a long way away' are you parking on a non residential road?

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