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To want the car to move!

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honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:19

Looking for honest opinions here because I’m aware this may make me seem like an AH.

I live in a road where the majority of houses don’t have drives. We park on the road. I knew that when I bought the house, it’s not permit parking but there is usually space for two small cars in front of my house. It has never been a problem in the time I’ve lived here, occasionally if there’s a local event I’ve had to park up the road for a few hours if I’ve been out, or for an evening.

Four weeks ago I came home from work to find a big car taking up both spaces outside. So I parked elsewhere. The car is still there.

Nobody has been to it, or moved it in that time and frankly I’m getting annoyed. I have to now park a long way from my house (else I’m in someone else’s space), which has been annoying with heavy bags of food shopping, or if I’m going out with the dog/DC. It’s meant if my mum has visited she’s also had to park elsewhere, again not ideal.

But what can I do? No point leaving a note as nobody has been to the car in that time (it’s right outside my window so I would see). None of the neighbours know who it belongs to either. It seems a stupid thing to get stressed about but I just want to be able to park outside my house!

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Livelovebehappy · 29/12/2024 17:20

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 16:26

The car is not parked in YOUR space.
Parking further down the road won't be in ANYONE ELSES space.
Both your car and the car outside your house will be parked in the public highway.

Just because it’s not illegal, doesn’t mean people can’t just show consideration for others, especially taking up two spaces. If it was for a day or a couple of hours, I’d agree with you, but to leave your car outside someone’s home for four weeks is twatty behaviour. My bet is it’s a male driver.

ACynicalDad · 29/12/2024 17:20

We have one left for months, reported to police it went the next day, they never responded but I presumed it had been stolen and abandoned. No harm in reporting it.

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 17:19

Ablondiebutagoody · 29/12/2024 17:13

It is wrong though. The council don't tow decent cars that haven't moved for a few weeks. They have to be obviously derelict, flat tyres, smashed windows, no tax etc.

The govt advice to councils includes if it has been there for a significant period of time (usually considered as a month). Again I've posted the links, not conjecture.

confusednana · 29/12/2024 17:18

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 17:11

The council can write. But the car owner will probably just bin the letter. Why would they do anything different?

When I visit my daughter I have to park on the PUBLIC ROAD as she only has a small drive.
Some sad twat always comes out and stares or takes a video/photo of me and my car. Funnily enough he doesn't when my rather large husband is with me....

the council will do nothing about it unless its causing an obstruction. if the car has a registered keeper, it is deemed to have an owner, if its tax'd and has an MOT then its legally parked. insurance is a grey area, because nothing can really be done about a car not having insurance until its being driven on a highway.. which in this case it is not

Canonlythinkofthisone · 29/12/2024 17:18

This post is wild.
It's a public road. I could park outside your house for a year and you'd have to suck it up buttercup (providing I was taxed MOTd and insured obvs).
Park where you like, because, well you know, it's a public road....

As an aside, I'm getting fond flashbacks to my last house without a driveway as a mid 20s night worker. Getting home at 6am and nowhere to park within 3 streets other than half at the end of the parking and half on double yellows. Not once but twice I woke to find my car gone(after roaming the streets trying to remember where I'd parked it)😭🤣🤣 towed not stolen on both occasions. Sigh. It's why I'll only ever live somewhere with a driveway now, non negotiable.

privatenonamegiven · 29/12/2024 17:18

Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 16:52

Stop whining. It is not your parking space. All those suggesting calling the council are out of their minds. The car is taxed and MOTd. It can sit there until otherwise and it’s none of anybodies business.

Buy a house with a drive then you won’t have this problem.

This 100%.

I have sympathy op, but there is nothing you can do. And if the vehicle belongs to a neighbour writing a snotty note will just annoy them and might make matters worse.

ManchesterLu · 29/12/2024 17:17

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:28

Thanks for that. But when you buy a house with parking on the road you kind of expect to be able to do that.

And yes if I parked outside someone else’s house that would be inconveniencing them. We all try and be considerate when parking here. It’s a residential street with most people in the same boat.

Sounds like it may be your car? If so just move it along the road a bit? Just for a change

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Is it just road space, or are they marked out spaces? Unless you have designated parking, it's not YOUR parking. You bought the house, not the road. It's annoying as heck, I understand. But ultimately it's tough luck, and if it winds you up THAT much, you really should work towards buying a house with a driveway.

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 17:15

Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 17:06

All the council will do is contact the owner. Once ownership has been confirmed the council will not legally be able to do a thing.

Authorities must decide if a vehicle is abandoned. This is likely if at least one of the following applies:

it has no keeper on DVLA’s database and is untaxed - check vehicle tax online
it’s stationary for a significant amount of time
it’s significantly damaged, run down or unroadworthy, for example has flat tyres, missing wheels or broken windows
it’s burned out
a number plate is missing

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/abandoned-vehicles-council-responsibilities

Our council have removed three from just one road on this basis

Abandoned vehicles: local authority responsibilities

How councils and national park authorities should deal with the removal of abandoned vehicles from land in the open air and roads.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/abandoned-vehicles-council-responsibilities

Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 17:14

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 17:11

The council can write. But the car owner will probably just bin the letter. Why would they do anything different?

When I visit my daughter I have to park on the PUBLIC ROAD as she only has a small drive.
Some sad twat always comes out and stares or takes a video/photo of me and my car. Funnily enough he doesn't when my rather large husband is with me....

People are truly pathetic. I love a good cone when I visit friends who live in town.

BlackeyedSusan · 29/12/2024 17:13

Ex's car is currently outside someone else's house. He was towed home and he would have parked in front of his house but someone else was there at the time. Sometimes you have to park on the next street. He's saving up to g et it mended.

You don't own the road outside your own house. Anyone can park there if they are legally on the road.

Shoemadlady · 29/12/2024 17:13

We had one like this on our road and it was a reload car. Report it to police asap

GymBuffMum · 29/12/2024 17:13

There could be multiple reasons the car has not moved - Driver has had surgery and can’t drive until recovered, been banned from driving, car needs repairs which they can’t afford, or can’t get insurance renewed/can’t afford it.

Pretty sure a car also has to insured, as well as have tax and MOT, while parked on a public road though so you could report it to police who can check that and can seize it if not insured?

If police find the owner and it is insured, they can’t make them move it though.

Ablondiebutagoody · 29/12/2024 17:13

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 16:58

Well I posted a link to a council site detailing their approach, but the overwhelming elegance of you writing "wrong" has won me over.

It is wrong though. The council don't tow decent cars that haven't moved for a few weeks. They have to be obviously derelict, flat tyres, smashed windows, no tax etc.

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its a big one 😂

StMarie4me · 29/12/2024 17:11

@honeyandbutterontoast you're still not getting that although you're irked, there's nothing you can do about it. YABVU to continue to moan and be rude to people.

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 17:11

Thepurplepig · 29/12/2024 17:06

All the council will do is contact the owner. Once ownership has been confirmed the council will not legally be able to do a thing.

The council can write. But the car owner will probably just bin the letter. Why would they do anything different?

When I visit my daughter I have to park on the PUBLIC ROAD as she only has a small drive.
Some sad twat always comes out and stares or takes a video/photo of me and my car. Funnily enough he doesn't when my rather large husband is with me....

SerendipityJane · 29/12/2024 17:10

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:23

It’s a fair walk to the train station from here and nowhere near an airport.

There are some cowboy airport parking companies who will take the £1,000* for a 2 week parking service and earn it by using public roads miles from the airport with low crime rates.

*I imagine.

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DoNotBringLulu · 29/12/2024 17:10

Just read that back - the car was left in our turning bay for weeks to make it clear!

Spirallingdownwards · 29/12/2024 17:09

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 17:04

And I won’t be parking in front of someone else’s house. Whether it’s a public highway or not! There are elderly people along this road who have carers in, families with young children. Everyone is nice and polite about the parking and keeping to their space/s. I’ve lived in places with street parking before as well and it was never an issue there either.

But if you all just park one space away from where you all normally park noone is that inconvenienced.

DoNotBringLulu · 29/12/2024 17:08

This happened not outside our house but we live in a cul-de-sac with a turning bay. The car was owned by the son of an older couple in our road who was in the navy. He had gone to sea and left his car there.

Ask on the local Facebook group and knock on neighbours doors to find out if something like this could be the explanation?

Often neighbours have 'rules' about parking in situations like these. We used to have problems with a neighbour who wouldn't park in her drive; our road was narrow and because she insisted on doing this we struggled to get out of our drive. I know what you mean OP you have no legal rights here but there is such a thing as being considerate.

confusednana · 29/12/2024 17:08

yeah sadly if the car is taxed and mot'd, and i would have to assume insured, its not YOUR parking space, you did not buy the road outside your house, so that space is fair game to anyone who wishes to use it.

those suggesting a note on the car, you're being ridiculouse.. its a public highway and as ive said anyone can park there.

if there are no parking restrictions theres very little you can do. but i would just have a quick call to the police, so they can check and make sure its not stolen or that the keepers are not 'missing' or of concern.

but alas it looks like you will have to just put up with it

StMarie4me · 29/12/2024 17:08

Whammyammy · 29/12/2024 16:26

The car is not parked in YOUR space.
Parking further down the road won't be in ANYONE ELSES space.
Both your car and the car outside your house will be parked in the public highway.

This is spot on. None of us have spaces on public roads.