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To want the car to move!

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honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:19

Looking for honest opinions here because I’m aware this may make me seem like an AH.

I live in a road where the majority of houses don’t have drives. We park on the road. I knew that when I bought the house, it’s not permit parking but there is usually space for two small cars in front of my house. It has never been a problem in the time I’ve lived here, occasionally if there’s a local event I’ve had to park up the road for a few hours if I’ve been out, or for an evening.

Four weeks ago I came home from work to find a big car taking up both spaces outside. So I parked elsewhere. The car is still there.

Nobody has been to it, or moved it in that time and frankly I’m getting annoyed. I have to now park a long way from my house (else I’m in someone else’s space), which has been annoying with heavy bags of food shopping, or if I’m going out with the dog/DC. It’s meant if my mum has visited she’s also had to park elsewhere, again not ideal.

But what can I do? No point leaving a note as nobody has been to the car in that time (it’s right outside my window so I would see). None of the neighbours know who it belongs to either. It seems a stupid thing to get stressed about but I just want to be able to park outside my house!

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Coco1379 · 13/04/2025 10:24

Looks as though it has been dumped. Contact your local council.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 02/03/2025 13:18

drgrat · 29/12/2024 16:39

I leave my car for weeks/months outside someone else’s house as we have only street parking. I have no right to the space outside my house and it’s an absolute luxury if I get to park outside my house.

YABU, so much so, I’d purposefully park outside your house just to prove the point. But I’m incredibly petty.

Me too. I'm fully expecting it to be featured in a "this car hasn't moved for weeks" post on our road's FB page at any moment.

rewilded · 08/01/2025 10:29

The person could have gone into hospital or has gone on holiday with people on your street. Yes it is annoying but unless it is stolen or abandoned not much that tou can do OP.

BlueMoanday · 08/01/2025 08:19

@honeyandbutterontoast has the car moved yet?

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2024 20:04

Thefsm · 31/12/2024 19:58

I live in a one way street with no drives and everyone just parks where we can. There’s no reserving your spot outside your house. Just park in whichever spot near your house is free. It’s ridiculous parking far off just to make sure your neighbours don’t have to. Nobody owns their spot and it’s just a bonus if there’s one nearby that is empty. It’s very rare for us to get to park closer than two blocks away so we’re always thrilled when any spot on our street is empty.

My son’s got your set up. Where I live everyone who lives here avoids parking outside someone else’s house - and has done since we moved in 25 years ago.

Thefsm · 31/12/2024 19:58

I live in a one way street with no drives and everyone just parks where we can. There’s no reserving your spot outside your house. Just park in whichever spot near your house is free. It’s ridiculous parking far off just to make sure your neighbours don’t have to. Nobody owns their spot and it’s just a bonus if there’s one nearby that is empty. It’s very rare for us to get to park closer than two blocks away so we’re always thrilled when any spot on our street is empty.

Khayker · 31/12/2024 18:44

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 30/12/2024 19:12

Indeed. I inferred from your post that this was your go-to solution and were advising the OP accordingly. Apologies if that's not the case, it is how it read.

It was the preferred option and I was suggesting the OP contact the council, that's why the service exists. Let the Council sort out whether it's a valid complaint or not, they have the experience in these matters.

FizzyBisto · 31/12/2024 17:54

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 09:19

There are other fora for discussion of existential crises.

The OP has been inconvenienced by an abandoned vehicle for more than a month. I don't blame her for seeking advice here.

No one is forced to read this thread.

Don't be silly: just because somebody has left their property in a legal, appropriate place and not needed/been able to use it for a few weeks, in no way does that equate to 'abandoned'.

It's not burned out, or missing a couple of wheels, or has a tree growing up through it; they just got to a public parking space that OP also wanted before she did.

Has my neighbour 'abandoned' the greenhouse in her garden that she hasn't been into all over the winter?!

Cherrysoup · 31/12/2024 17:33

My Dh says he frequently gets reports of criminal damage to cars parked on the road/non allocated spaces, usually repeatedly punctured tyres. On our neighbourhood app, a poor lady had her car keyed daily, put up a camera and has caught the guy. No idea if it’s because she’s parked where she is, although obviously pretty much outside her house as the camera is on her front door. People are crazy about parking. A neighbour who has 2 vehicles and no drive has whinged about a different neighbour parking in a non allocated space despite having a drive (has a temporary extra car as her ds passed his test and is trying to sell the one not parked on the drive). Bonkers.

nogginatemycat · 31/12/2024 17:27

SerendipityJane · 31/12/2024 17:25

I can't believe that people are suggesting reporting somebody to the police for parking safely in a legal, unrestricted space.

Conversely I can. (In fact on a thread this length I would have laid money on it). It wouldn't be MN otherwise.

In fact I am mildly surprised that no one has yet concocted a theory around criminal gangs, modern slavery, Keir Starmer and VAT on private schools. Although I admit it is the slow season.

Why would Starmer be intrested in parking, isnt he is still trying to free the sausages.

Loop Sausages GIF
SerendipityJane · 31/12/2024 17:25

I can't believe that people are suggesting reporting somebody to the police for parking safely in a legal, unrestricted space.

Conversely I can. (In fact on a thread this length I would have laid money on it). It wouldn't be MN otherwise.

In fact I am mildly surprised that no one has yet concocted a theory around criminal gangs, modern slavery, Keir Starmer and VAT on private schools. Although I admit it is the slow season.

Hellskitchen24 · 31/12/2024 17:17

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 14:25

Parking is one thing. Using the public road for long term vehicle storage is quite another.

Perfectly legal is they are taxed and MOTd sadly 😭

snoopyfanaccountant · 31/12/2024 16:51

For 7 years I lived in a tenement flat a mile east of Glasgow city centre. Each close (entrance hall) had 8 flats in it and the street outside had space for 3 or 4 cars. Our street was used for parking for the shops and offices on the main road one block over and it was also used by people going into the city centre rather than them paying to park all day. If Celtic was playing at home we couldn't move the car unless we were willing to stay away long after the match finished. Getting parked anywhere near our flat was a massive achievement. It was just part of life.
No one owns the piece of public road outside their home and I would park in the nearest space to my home making sure that I wasn't taking up any more space than necessary, i.e. not parking in the middle of a space that would fit 2 cars.
Yesterday I was at my mum's. She lives in a 1920s terrace just off a main road (so again people parking for the local shops and offices, plus for trains and buses). I have regularly ended up parking in the next street over, away from the main road but I was pleasantly surprised to get a space almost at her door, which was particularly helpful since I had bags of presents plus prepared food for the extended family get together to carry from the car.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2024 15:38

Ablondiebutagoody · 31/12/2024 15:32

Not according to the law

The law’s still as much of an ass as it was when Dickens denounced it.

Ablondiebutagoody · 31/12/2024 15:32

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 14:25

Parking is one thing. Using the public road for long term vehicle storage is quite another.

Not according to the law

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2024 15:05

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 14:25

Parking is one thing. Using the public road for long term vehicle storage is quite another.

Absolutely.

tessiegirl · 31/12/2024 14:41

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 14:25

Parking is one thing. Using the public road for long term vehicle storage is quite another.

Absolutely agree

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 14:25

Parking is one thing. Using the public road for long term vehicle storage is quite another.

Hellskitchen24 · 31/12/2024 14:19

Some of these posts are hilarious. It’s not “your” space because it’s outside your house. You have zero right to any space on a public road.

I live near a town centre and next to a school. It’s all on street parking with a million terraces. It’s a free for all. Sometimes I can park near my house, other times it’s several streets away, all up hill. There’s a bloke with about 6 different cars and vans he uses for storage. They one by one run out of their MOTs, sit there rotting for months, people report them, then they rot for more months until the council scraps them, then he buys another to take its place. That’s ONE bloke taking up probably 9 spaces with his vans. That’s the joy of on street parking.

I live in a very working class town. You are probably considered well off if you have a house with a driveway here.

drgrat · 31/12/2024 14:04

NutNutmum · 29/12/2024 16:44

Funny that I had someone as incredibly petty as you on my street once, that was until they got sick of repairing their tyres and paying to get the scratches out of there car ect.

Not as clever as you think you are, 🙄.

Criminal damage… nice.

drgrat · 31/12/2024 14:04

Okonomoyaki · 29/12/2024 16:41

And the council could legitimately tow it... If it got reported by an equally petty person.

No they couldn’t. Are you ok??

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 31/12/2024 13:07

We have the same situation on our street.
Neighbours used to park considerately so that everyone could find a space to park ............. until we had neighbours move in who just thought about themselves and where they and their visitors could park without inconveniencing themselves

People seem to have become so much more selfish these days and don't seem to consider anybody else's needs

Same here. All the neighbours parked considerately and it worked perfectly.
New neighbours moved in and parked so selfishly. He would park his massive van in a way that took up at least two spaces just so he could see it from his window. He'd leave it there for weeks too even though it massively inconvenienced everyone including the neighbours with a new born baby.

We all knew he was parking legally but it still meant he was an absolute dick. We ended up moving and on our moving day we text all the neighbours asking if they could keep the space outside our house free for our removal van ...... the second we moved our car to free up the space he moved his van into it!
His wife was mortified when she saw us carrying things up the road to our van but he refused to move.

honeyandbutterontoast · 31/12/2024 10:15

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2024 09:58

We could buy two, possibly three, properties with parking if we sold our house. Living in a house that was built before cars were invented isn’t a financial decision.

Thank you. Yes I could do the same.

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SpanThatWorld · 31/12/2024 10:04

honeyandbutterontoast · 29/12/2024 16:28

Thanks for that. But when you buy a house with parking on the road you kind of expect to be able to do that.

And yes if I parked outside someone else’s house that would be inconveniencing them. We all try and be considerate when parking here. It’s a residential street with most people in the same boat.

Sounds like it may be your car? If so just move it along the road a bit? Just for a change

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When you buy a house with parking on the road, you know that you have no claim on that particular bit of public road and could be parking anywhere.

I have always lived in places where you park on the road. You park where there's a space.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2024 09:58

AllThePotatoesAreSingingJingleBells · 31/12/2024 09:40

Exactly. No one owns the street. If you want guaranteed parking then you need to buy a property that comes with parking. If you can’t afford a property that has parking, tough as it sounds, but well that’s just life.

I will move cones (and have done - just the other day in fact!) quite happily so I can legally park my car in a place with no parking restrictions. It’s illegal to leave cones out to save a parking space - it’s classed as unlawfully blocking the public highway. If someone kicked off because I moved their cones I would call 101 and report them.

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We could buy two, possibly three, properties with parking if we sold our house. Living in a house that was built before cars were invented isn’t a financial decision.

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