I have 3 children 2 daughters and a son. The eldest has mostly for the last 15 years played a victim and has a sense of entitlement. Has every mental health and neurodivergent going and none diagnosed.
Two of her 4 children are in foster care and I see them regular. They are settled in a family fc home with 2 other children. Been with this placement 3 years.
I've always faught her corner and social services but recently it's clicked they are really lucky and settled . So i lick nack andnjust be grandma instead of 15 years of advocate, protector and privider and ive paid thousands in debts and got my self in debts.
Cried an ocean of tears.
Took her manipulation and abuse for 15 years. In-between the abuse she can be nice but no way able to parent 😔 sadly. She talks to her fiance like poo and did her ex too and the 1 before that.
She never hurts her toe, all 5 toes will be broken, she won't have a headache she'll want a sitter for a mograine, she's not tired she's got undiagnosed chronic fatigue.
The list is endless and recently a fire of abuse again after I've constantly been there. This time it's all my fault and no accountability at all. Shes 39 ! Always chooses lads in their 20s as someone her age would tell her to do one when she screams at them.
I'm 62 and had enough aibu. She's been saying all the things the courts ordered her to do I need todo because I need it more than her and I'm living in denial.
For me I said sorry if you feel hurt but it's not enough. She's call me narcissistic. I don't want to go into a new year listening to her crap to be honest. One day she will need to pull up her big knickers take responsibility and grow up. Live within her means and stop blaming the world.
I've allowed this I know. I take accountability for some but need it to stop. She has supervised access but wants me to help her get unsupervised. Her sons are 14 and 11. Dear souls who play footy with their foster family and love books.
I feel guilty feeling this way but totally had enough. I'm to the point of simply be a nanny amd encourage the home placement and take a complete step back.