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Our comfort chat turned into an ear slitting screaming session

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Bridget05 · 29/12/2024 14:29

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Ok admittedly I'm possibly much older than you lot out there, so I might need to call a taxi but here goes.
It's just after Christmas and I live in a tiny village with one coffee shop. We attract loads of families walking on weekends which is fine. But of course the shop is heaving. Again it's OK.
My friend had an awful Christmas day with an adult autistic son, a missing pet cat = son meltdown and she just needed a shoulder. Could not go to either home as hers contains adult son, mine contains old husband watching Wheeler Dealers on full volume.
So we luckily find our usual table and get a coffee ....okaaayyy I had cake as well.
A group of grandparents, parents and a toddler arrive and sit next to us..still OK.

Now I fully understand toddlers are noisy, I get it. But to keep the already overexcited child entertained they then began an interminable game of peek a boo, who's got your nose, piggy toes etc, which then turns a chatty chirping child into a screaming harpy , creating such a noise that no one can speak. My poor friend was almost in tears from the stress.
Eventually I nicely said (yes I can do nice) that while everyone understands children's noise, could they please not add to it by encouraging her.
Seems walkers from the big city find it difficult to take polite requests. Enough said.
So AIBU to just expect a parent not to encouraging loud noise in an already packed out Cafe or us it open season on quiet breaks now.

OP posts:
fuckingidiotseverywhere · 29/12/2024 15:09

Eventually I nicely said (yes I can do nice) that while everyone understands children's noise, could they please not add to it by encouraging her.

Sorry, you asked a stranger not to interact with her child in a public cafe? Confused

ObieJoyful · 29/12/2024 15:08

parakeet · 29/12/2024 14:36

If your friend is reduced almost to tears just by a noisy toddler, I suggest you don't go to cafes together in future.

Wow

loropianalover · 29/12/2024 15:08

Is this real? What’s with the ‘okayyyy I had cake as well’, the weird gif, and ‘yes I can do nice’. I’m surprised there was no ‘Dear Reader..’ 😅

Yes people are noisy in cafes, especially children. This has little to do with them being ‘from the big city’. Maybe just crack on instead of convoluting every interaction you have into cheesy diary entry style posts to put online.

solopanda · 29/12/2024 15:06

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 29/12/2024 15:05

You didn't read the bit about the poor woman having a dreadful Christmas with a missing pet and a stressed autistic son. Sounds like the noisy cafe was the straw that broke the camel's back.

That's fine but if she's had a dreadful noisy christmas and wants quiet then a public cafe isn't the place. Try a library.

Hatty65 · 29/12/2024 15:05

No, I'm with you OP.

If a toddler is shrieking indoors in a public space you take them OUT of there. You don't inflict that high pitched noise on others.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 29/12/2024 15:05

parakeet · 29/12/2024 14:36

If your friend is reduced almost to tears just by a noisy toddler, I suggest you don't go to cafes together in future.

You didn't read the bit about the poor woman having a dreadful Christmas with a missing pet and a stressed autistic son. Sounds like the noisy cafe was the straw that broke the camel's back.

solopanda · 29/12/2024 15:04

BettyBardMacDonald · 29/12/2024 15:01

Gosh, they sound obnoxious. Why can't they get their coffee and sit outdoors with the noisy kid.

Because it's cold. This could be the only chance they've seen the kid since christmas. Chill out it's CHRISTMAS

solopanda · 29/12/2024 15:03

It's not their fault she had a noisy Christmas day and they're just as entitled as you to go to the cafe. Sounds like you're sneering at "outsiders". I also hate that gif it's really triggering.

BettyBardMacDonald · 29/12/2024 15:01

Gosh, they sound obnoxious. Why can't they get their coffee and sit outdoors with the noisy kid.

parakeet · 29/12/2024 14:36

If your friend is reduced almost to tears just by a noisy toddler, I suggest you don't go to cafes together in future.

Lottapianos · 29/12/2024 14:32

I'm with you OP. As you say, babies and toddlers can be noisy, but the adults with them should be trying to entertain them in a calm way, not winding them up into a frenzy. Some people have no concept of being out in public and considering others. I would have been fuming too