Or are my two best friends being awful to me?

Why are you friends with two such awful women? Let them go now, remember the past with affection and don't mix with them anymore.

Even though I'm married with a child, these are not the sort of people I'd be interested in pursuing a friendship with. From what you say, you have little in common other than a shared history.
I do have friends from school but we have never been the sort of people who saw getting a man/getting married as a necessary achievement, and feel that we are all capable women.
I think you need new friends, OP.

I could easily have friends with the same values as Kayla and Sophia even though they are not my values, what I couldn’t be dealing with is direct criticism/comparisons and intentional put downs. To me they are a sign of deep insecurities and I have no time for people who behave that way instead of working on themselves.

If someone makes you feel consistently bad, why have them in your life? You're punishing yourself. I'm a one chance and it's done kind of woman, so I would explain that you don't like it when they speak that way. If they do it again cut them off. It may be they don't realise how it's making you feel right? They'll be mortified. But I doubt it. Tell them....then say goodbye if they don't again.

You used to like these women but nowadays you don’t enjoy their company. Let them go and find some friends you get on with better.

They both sound very narcissistic. Not real mates

Some friends are for a reason and some are for a season. These were seasonal. You have grown up and apart, the frontal lobe is developing till you’re around 28.

It sounds like you don't have anything in common with them any more. Different values and different lives. I'd probably just let the friendships fade out. No need to fall out, just don't make the effort to keep up the friendships and get on with your life. You don't need their approval for your lifestyle and they don't need yours.

They both sound like tedious arseholes.

Your lives have all moved in different directions, you don’t have common ground anymore, and they’re too rude and short sighted to see that your way of living is just as valid and meaningful as theirs. It’s sad but it does happen with old friends sometimes.

Sounds like you've drifted. The only thing I can say in Sophias defence is that it seems odd to me that you're "focusing on your career" but not chasing promotion or other opportunities. I'd be too polite to say it to your face but perhaps she/they are just wondering if you're really happy or a lottle adrift.

Being objective because you've posted this, it does seem like you're a little rudderless... not moving forward to marriage or kids even though you say you want that stuff (just not "anytime soon") and you aren't actually focused on achieving more in your career even though you say that career and travelling are your focus.

Its completely fine to plan to not have a plan or to just want to travel amd wing it, but I wonder if they just think you're being strung along as you don't come across in your post as a driving force who is committed to your choices as actual choices - perhaps it comes across like you're settling for what your boyfriend wants and, while time is on your side, it really isn't if you aren't making plans and a timeline.

Just because you've known them a long time doesn't mean you need to maintain the relationship forever. You were good friends at a point in your lives, that was special at the time. All of your lives have moved on now, and moved in different directions, and with different values. Set yourself free from the stress and burden. You don't need to impose a dramatic break up with these women, just don't prioritise them, turn down invitations (you don't need an excuse), and you'll find the friendship very quickly fizzles into a "birthday/Christmas greeting" sort of thing.
Work towards finding friends that you share values with.

It sounds like you all have different priorities now. Time to let them go. You’ll waste time contacting them and waste brain space evaluated your meet ups with them that could instead be focused on other existing friends and meeting new people. There’s no rule book for living that says people have to stay in your life forever.

No, they don’t sound like they’re being awful to you. Kayla sounds shallow and Sophia a bit insensitive but I bet if they reviewed every conversation you’d had with them over the last couple of decades they could pick out a few less than lovely ones from you too.

Ps I also question why you'd even call them best friends, to be honest.

I'd check first your perception of the things they've said - did they both really say the things you've quoted?

If yes, then they are pretty awful whether you've stuff in common or not, because everything they say is literally judgemental and criticises you directly for no reason other than a difference of opinion.

But like a few others have said here, some of the things sound a bit unlikely. Maybe you've embellished their words in your head as you stew over it all?

I think you're overthinking, I'd just laugh at Kayla's comments, I'd she wants to live like that let her crack on
And for Sophia, when she says those things surely the answer is, mate, I've told you countless times I don't care about that, why do you keep trying to put me down?

Friends should enhance you, not make you feel bad OP. If they constantly make you feel upset or annoyed then they're not your friends

Tbh I like the sound of your life than the other 2. It sounds awesome. maybe there's a tinge of jealousy going on with them.

You could make comments back. Your rich friend is only rich because of her husband. She's putting herself at risk of being replaced and having to sort herself out. That's not an enviable place to be.

You could also tell them they've turned into toxic specimens and you don't want to see them anymore.

Or do a slow fade. These people aren't your friends, you've all moved on.

The examples you cited both indicate they are out to justify their own choices - self confirming biases. They sound like they lack maturity and lack self awareness which makes them not nice friends

In answer to your question,,OP, you don’t need to ‘handle’ it at all. You don’t like them, they don’t appear to think much of you. You’re only hanging on to two dead friendships because you don’t have many others. Make new friends you actually like.

You were friends many years ago. They are different now and so are you. Neither sound worth the effort tbh.
Nobody who cares about others would act in those ways. Leave them to it and focus on people who share your values and aren't bitches or status obsessed.

Yes, this is one of those threads where an OP reproduces semi-fictionalised conversations between her and former friends she clearly now dislikes intensely, so that the internet can reassure her they’re awful.

It sounds as though you have nothing in common.

They aren't friends. Friends don't behave like that.
Kayla sounds horrible, so bothered about material things and wealth. Sophia sounds too pushy. Neither of them is likeable to me.

Do they really talk like that? They sound like stereotypes of gold diggers and career women.

They sound like hard work @lonelyfriend . Not one of my friends has ever treated me like that. Both seem unable to accept someone else could have a different opinion - which explains why they fell out with each other (almost opposite views). I’d probably just let things fade out with them to be honest. They also seem like, despite their beliefs and views, they are jealous of you. Real friends would be pleased and happy as long as you are happy, not critical.