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To think my husband needs to find another vocation?

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readyfor2025 · 29/12/2024 14:19

Hi, my husband is ex military, now a photographer. I run a b2b marketing consultantcy. We’ve been married 10 years together 11. The world of photography has changed since Covid and as a freelancer he’s been struggling to get work post Covid. He doesn’t do any self promotion to put himself out there and expects jobs to just land based on his website and his portfolio. I have tried to help him many times over the years building a plan for him to execute. But he doesn’t stick to it, like the channels or says it takes too long (ie not instant). He gets upset with me saying I don’t help him. Outside of doing it for him, which I don’t have time to do as I have my own business to run. I’m not sure what to do. It’s becoming a point of frustration as I’m the only earner and have been for the last few years (I’ve always been the main earner). Something has to give, but I’m not sure what, is it time to tell him to find another vocation, go in house, or stop being a blooming baby and start behaving like an entrepreneur (which most self employed people have to do) to get work.

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BobbyBiscuits · 29/12/2024 14:24

Maybe he thinks he doesn't have to or need to with you as the breadwinner. Tell him you've had a pay cut. Lol. White lie to kick him up the arse.
But seriously, he needs motivation and lack of money might be the strongest one.

Biroclicker · 29/12/2024 14:23

You can't be self employed in photography without constant self promotion. He needs to treat promotion as importantly as learning how to use the latest camera.

I would encourage him to set an alarm twice a day for him to add content to whatever channels he is on.