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The oldest you've known someone to get pregnant naturally?

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ineedtowomanup · 29/12/2024 10:56

My Grandmother was 44 when she had my youngest uncle, a healthy pregnancy and my uncle is now 47.

What's the oldest you've known someone to conceive and give birth?

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PreferMyAnimals · 29/12/2024 23:47

BruFord · 29/12/2024 23:43

@PreferMyAnimals I’m also surprised that I’m still having regular periods at 50 (had one with a six-week gap, but then went back to 28 days). I presume that I couldn’t conceive, but who knows? Luckily DH has been sorted out so there’s no chance. 😂

Mine too. Not taking any chances. 😄

I was rounding down when I said 50. I'm actually 52 coming up in a few months and regular as clockwork, still ovulating. Everyone I meet seems to have stopped in their 40s, though I read of women continuing till their later 50s and find that a bit discouraging. I'm ready to be done.

AxolotlEars · 29/12/2024 23:46

52... naturally conceived, first baby

DefyingGravy · 29/12/2024 23:45
  1. The child has Downs Syndrome.
Lilifer · 29/12/2024 23:44

I knew a lady, mother of 6 who got pregnant at 52 and had her healthy son, 7th child at 53 years old

BruFord · 29/12/2024 23:43

@PreferMyAnimals I’m also surprised that I’m still having regular periods at 50 (had one with a six-week gap, but then went back to 28 days). I presume that I couldn’t conceive, but who knows? Luckily DH has been sorted out so there’s no chance. 😂

Almostwelsh · 29/12/2024 23:33

The midwife who delivered my son told me she had once delivered a baby to a woman of 50, which definitely wasn't IVF - the mother had assumed she was menopausal and the pregnancy diagnosed late.

The oldest I've known personally was 44, youngest of a large family, but definitely hers not a cover up for a daughter as she was visibly pregnant.

PreferMyAnimals · 29/12/2024 23:32

"Change of life" surprise babies used to be a regular occurrence. Women thought they were through menopause so stopped taking precautions. Then, oops.

Nat6999 · 29/12/2024 23:32

My grandma was 47 when she had my dad, his sister & brothers were 17, 15 & 11 years older than him.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 29/12/2024 23:28

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 23:10

47 is the oldest I have known a woman have a baby through natural conception...This was 2009. She and her 43 y.o. DH already had a son. So this was their second child. (She had her first son at 30, then got pregnant at 46, and had another son. Didn't know she was pregnant until she was 6 months in.) This is the ONLY woman I know who had a baby by natural conception as old as 47 though.

Apart from her, I have known (in my life) around half a dozen women have a baby at a similar age - 45 to 46 years old, (by natural conception,) and every last one (including the first woman) had a problem with the pregnancy, and the birth, and the child had some kind of health issues/problems. Some they didn't discover til the child was a bit older. But they all had some kind of health issue. (Not saying every child born to a 45-47 y.o. mother via natural conception will have some kind of health issues, but they are far more likely to than if the mother had been early 40s or less...)

As for the people saying their gran/great aunt etc had a baby at 51/52-or older. Highly unlikely. Chances are high that she took on a child of one of her daughters, or nieces...Or even a child of one of her sons... Happened quite a lot pre mid 1970s. (Still happens now occasionally...) The chance of conceiving naturally even in your early 50s is vanishingly small. Mid 50s, nigh on impossible.

@Rubyupbeat · Today 13:17

Twin boys, mum was 55 and Dad was 80, their 3 other children had grown up and left home and the twins were a complete shock, their youngest being 22.

I met them at the clinic I worked at.

100% certainty this was IVF.

@YouLookinSusBro · Today 20:05

56! A woman at work. Was a surprise natural conception too.

No it wasn't. No woman would ever conceive naturally at 56. It was either IVF, or this woman took on a grandchild and attempted to pass it off as her own.

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The oldest woman known to conceive naturally was 59 (verified and in the Guinness world records) so it’s absolutely not impossible a woman conceived naturally at 56. It may be rare but it’s not impossible.

quince2figs · 29/12/2024 23:26

I delivered a first baby to a 56yr old woman. Natural conception after many years of unsuccessfully trying. First she knew was when I found her to 5cm dilated in A&E, where she had been sent by GP with intermittent abdominal pain, suspected ovarian cyst! Baby was perfect, and I don’t think I ever met happier parents.

Nat6999 · 29/12/2024 23:23

Someone I worked with's wife got pregnant at 49, she was 50 when the baby was born. They had 2 older dc at university, she thought it was the menopause & went to the doctors to ask for HRT & the doctor did a pregnancy test. She sailed through the pregnancy & delivery, after a couple of years they both took redundancy from their jobs & became stay at home parents, got involved with school when their dd started, did everything they missed out of with their older dc due to work, their dd is 17 now.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 29/12/2024 23:22

My aunt at 44, was a completely unexpected accidental pregnancy. Healthy pregnancy and birth and my cousin is now in his twenties.

I also know somebody who had a baby at 47 with a big age gap between her other children (by same father) which makes me think it may not have been planned/ was a natural pregnancy but I don’t know her well enough to know for sure.

barbiegirl881 · 29/12/2024 23:17

52, a friend of a friend. Definitely natural as she was gobsmacked and distraught - her other kids were late 20s! She had a miscarriage around 8/9 weeks.

PreferMyAnimals · 29/12/2024 23:13

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 23:10

I suspect you would...

I really don't think I would. I have a large family, all conceived within a month of trying. I still ovulate every month. Cycles are regular. The family member in question is my grandmother and my whole family seems to be as fertile as her. So I don't expect I'd have a lot of trouble having a baby at this stage. Of course, I don't know and I don't plan to find out.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 23:10

47 is the oldest I have known a woman have a baby through natural conception...This was 2009. She and her 43 y.o. DH already had a son. So this was their second child. (She had her first son at 30, then got pregnant at 46, and had another son. Didn't know she was pregnant until she was 6 months in.) This is the ONLY woman I know who had a baby by natural conception as old as 47 though.

Apart from her, I have known (in my life) around half a dozen women have a baby at a similar age - 45 to 46 years old, (by natural conception,) and every last one (including the first woman) had a problem with the pregnancy, and the birth, and the child had some kind of health issues/problems. Some they didn't discover til the child was a bit older. But they all had some kind of health issue. (Not saying every child born to a 45-47 y.o. mother via natural conception will have some kind of health issues, but they are far more likely to than if the mother had been early 40s or less...)

As for the people saying their gran/great aunt etc had a baby at 51/52-or older. Highly unlikely. Chances are high that she took on a child of one of her daughters, or nieces...Or even a child of one of her sons... Happened quite a lot pre mid 1970s. (Still happens now occasionally...) The chance of conceiving naturally even in your early 50s is vanishingly small. Mid 50s, nigh on impossible.

@Rubyupbeat · Today 13:17

Twin boys, mum was 55 and Dad was 80, their 3 other children had grown up and left home and the twins were a complete shock, their youngest being 22.

I met them at the clinic I worked at.

100% certainty this was IVF.

@YouLookinSusBro · Today 20:05

56! A woman at work. Was a surprise natural conception too.

No it wasn't. No woman would ever conceive naturally at 56. It was either IVF, or this woman took on a grandchild and attempted to pass it off as her own.

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 23:10

PreferMyAnimals · 29/12/2024 22:48

Family member was 50. I'm 50 and don't think I'd have trouble conceiving if I tried.

I suspect you would...

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 23:09

TwinkleLights24 · 29/12/2024 16:27

A mum from school had a baby at 46. Her toddler is significantly delayed at reaching milestones but whether that’s down to her age I don’t know.

Probably is something to do with the age her mother had her, yes...

Boutonnière · 29/12/2024 22:57

My grandmother at 48 ( my father was her last child) A friend at 46, in second marriage, with two adult children from her first.

PreferMyAnimals · 29/12/2024 22:48

Family member was 50. I'm 50 and don't think I'd have trouble conceiving if I tried.

SaltAirDoorRust · 29/12/2024 22:46

Family member at 47. Twins. Completely natural conception and healthy children. It was her third set of twins (they run in the family).

Dontlletmedownbruce · 29/12/2024 22:46

Rubyupbeat · 29/12/2024 13:17

Twin boys, mum was 55 and Dad was 80, their 3 other children had grown up and left home and the twins were a complete shock, their youngest being 22.
I met them at the clinic I worked at.

That's a terrifying story 😱

ClicketyClickPlusOne · 29/12/2024 22:41

unmemorableusername · 29/12/2024 15:10

For most of these you just won't know if it was natural or not. Most people lie and say it was when it wasn't.

Most people lie?

Where is your evidence for that?

The very detailed study linked above shows that 50% of women remain naturally fertile at 41 and 10% at 45.

That means it isn’t the best plan to leave TTC until your 40s , but those % still result in plenty of women having babies at that age. (Including me, conceived first month of trying, healthy pg etc).

Allmarbleslost · 29/12/2024 22:41

My cousin at 44

pinkstripeycat · 29/12/2024 22:40

My friend had her son at 47, her daughter at 44 and her eldest at 33. All 3 were planned. They didn’t expect such a big gap though. She’s now 57. Friends mum had her at 42.

Greengagesnfennel · 29/12/2024 22:38

54 family member. Naturally (not first child). To say they were surprised is an understatement!