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AbbeyDown · 28/12/2024 21:48

I don't know what to do. I have a really uneasy feeling recently at work.

Small team, large organisation. I have been there a long time.

One particular colleague keeps starting WhatsApp groups, excluding one person and then leaving the group, I assume to create another. A conversation happened in the department and a colleague started oh I put it in the group but stopped herself from carrying on as I was present.

I then got added to a work WhatsApp group. (I have a sneaky suspicion I wasn't added to the group previously) Everyone was included. Said person who started the WhatsApp group then left without stating why.

Said person then started another WhatsApp group.
Not every single member of the team was included in this WhatsApp group, just a few of us. This excluded one member in particular because she couldn't trust the 'snake' in the other group.

Said person who started this group has now left this group that she started.......again! No explanation. On Christmas Day!!! (I only went into the group today so noticed)

I don't understand she keeps creating groups and leaving them, starting others but excluding people.

I'm sure I will have now been left out of another she has created!

I have been off work recently due to a personal reason and she was messaging me asking how I was but then I feel, fishing when I was coming back to work. She isn't my
Manager although likes to boss people so I didn't tell her.

She tends to try and micromanage everyone at work also and everyone is fed up of it.
Sucks up to the manager, she does the most work etc etc which isn't true.

I'm just feeling uneasy about it all.

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LittleRedYarny · 28/12/2024 22:03

AbbeyDown · 28/12/2024 21:57

Nothing important. Well the second group created, which excluded a colleague started off by saying "new group, don't trust the snake"

I don't understand why she creates them, then leaves them and creates new ones leaving someone out. It's really bitchy and awful to be honest.

Oof! just seen your update - would perhaps have a chat with a union rep if you have one or ACAS as this could be construed as bullying.

LittleRedYarny · 28/12/2024 22:01

I feel your pain OP, I I was purposely excluded from a whatsapp group because I was the only female in the team and they wanted to have “Lad Banz” and as it turns out slag me off.

I now don’t use WhatsApp and claim that I am not comfortable with some of the T&Cs of using WhatsApp so I don’t get constantly nagged. (It genuinely works better as an excuse that saying I previously had issues with groups, as the usual response is just “oh that won’t happen with us!”) It does mean I occasionally miss out on bits and pieces but honestly it really isn’t the end of the world.

AbbeyDown · 28/12/2024 21:57

BrownBoot · 28/12/2024 21:56

Just don’t engage with any of it. in fact, if these are groups that you aren’t required to be in by your employer, leave them as soon as you’re added. What do they actually discuss?

Nothing important. Well the second group created, which excluded a colleague started off by saying "new group, don't trust the snake"

I don't understand why she creates them, then leaves them and creates new ones leaving someone out. It's really bitchy and awful to be honest.

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BrownBoot · 28/12/2024 21:56

Just don’t engage with any of it. in fact, if these are groups that you aren’t required to be in by your employer, leave them as soon as you’re added. What do they actually discuss?

AdviceAdvice123 · 28/12/2024 21:55

Sounds like someone I work with. I recently discovered I’m no longer included in the what’s app groups. I breathed a sigh of relief, I don’t want to be anywhere near that toxicity!

AbbeyDown · 28/12/2024 21:54

GRex · 28/12/2024 21:50

It all seems very childish. Ask HR if they have a policy; many large organisations don't allow WhatsApp.

It's not a work WhatApp as such, it's a colleague has started it for other colleagues.

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GRex · 28/12/2024 21:50

It all seems very childish. Ask HR if they have a policy; many large organisations don't allow WhatsApp.

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