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To worry for my son's welfare at his dads??

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questionqueeen2022 · 28/12/2024 17:34

Last week my baby (10m) came back with a razor cut finger tip hand poring with blood. His dad didn't take him to A&E even though he says he "didn't know how he did it" at the time (it only come out that he did it on a razor in the bath because I outright asked him as the cut seemed familiar as i have been razor blade cut lots in the past while doing my legs etc!? He swore blind he didn't know how he did it and he just "turned round and saw his hand pouring with blood". He brought him home immediately rather than taking him to A&E!
The next time he had my son I bought a baby pouch of food and told him it is in the bag and to please feed him. I picked him up 2 hours later and he had not fed him and my baby was starving (crying) hungry. He didn't tell me he hadn't ate but did say he'd not long woken up when I collected him. He also said he was going to pick my son up in a car he needed to "collect" the day after he'd been drinking all night so clearly over the limit!!

Please tell me if I'm over reacting? He's wanting to see him again tomorrow and I'm worried about his welfare!

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MatildaTheCat · 28/12/2024 17:47

He definitely needs supervision.

I cut the tip of my finger on a razor several days ago and it still really hurts.

Perhaps you could speak to your HV about your concerns? She should be obligated to report to children’s services and then you won’t be in the awkward position of reporting him. Don’t allow unsupervised contact until you have done this and know he can be safe.

Unfortunately you have a long road ahead in co parenting so keeping it as amicable as possible whilst safeguarding your child makes sense if you can.

toomuchfaff · 28/12/2024 17:42

Sounds like the parent needs supervision never mind being left unsupervised with a child themselves.

Lyra87 · 28/12/2024 17:38

Yanbu. I'd be very concerned too. A 10 month old should never have been able to grab a razor. I'd be reluctant to allow unsupervised contact in the near future.