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To be suspicious of this receipt

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MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 16:25

DH is out at a hobby. While he is out I decided to put on a wash. I routinely empty DH trouser pockets before washing as they always have train tickets, receipts etc. In amongst everything was one for a £300 gift card for a large shopping complex. We don’t ever shop in this place as it is a distance away. I didn’t receive this gift card. Neither did his DS or DM as we spent Christmas together. This is a sizeable amount of money for us. I don’t know what to think.

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amoreoamicizia · 28/12/2024 17:04

A gift card isn’t really a romantic gift though, if you’re concerned it’s for another woman

Thankfully it's resolved now so I'll point out that I believe some cam/OF type girls etc. would take this kind of gift.

WoolySnail · 28/12/2024 17:04

Pleased for you op. Have a great 2025 🥳

Frazzledmummy123 · 28/12/2024 17:04

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 17:02

Mystery solved. It was a gift card for a friend who recently helped us with some renovation work. He apologised and said he thought he had told me. I am good enough friend with the friend for him not to lie about this. The complex is close to this friend and they’ve just bought a house so all makes sense. Thank goodness

Just saw your update. Glad it worked out and was resolved!

B1anche · 28/12/2024 17:04

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 17:02

Mystery solved. It was a gift card for a friend who recently helped us with some renovation work. He apologised and said he thought he had told me. I am good enough friend with the friend for him not to lie about this. The complex is close to this friend and they’ve just bought a house so all makes sense. Thank goodness

What a relief! That's good news.

Wordau · 28/12/2024 17:04

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 17:02

Mystery solved. It was a gift card for a friend who recently helped us with some renovation work. He apologised and said he thought he had told me. I am good enough friend with the friend for him not to lie about this. The complex is close to this friend and they’ve just bought a house so all makes sense. Thank goodness

Ah I'm glad it all worked out. Well done for not being whipped up into a frenzy.

Paradoes · 28/12/2024 17:03

That’s a relief op ! Thank god

Frazzledmummy123 · 28/12/2024 17:03

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

My local shopping centres offer gift cards that you can use in any shop in them.

B1anche · 28/12/2024 17:02

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

Bluewater does them. So does my local shopping centre.

Littletreefrog · 28/12/2024 17:02

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

They exist in quite a few shopping centers.

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MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 17:02

Mystery solved. It was a gift card for a friend who recently helped us with some renovation work. He apologised and said he thought he had told me. I am good enough friend with the friend for him not to lie about this. The complex is close to this friend and they’ve just bought a house so all makes sense. Thank goodness

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scotstars · 28/12/2024 17:02

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

This is really common I live in a large city all 3 shopping centres near us do cards for the centre that you can use in most shops in them

ChaosHol1 · 28/12/2024 17:02

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

You absolutely can. Our local shopping centre Silverburn in Glasgow does this as does Braehead I'm sure. Buying a general gift card would ensure there's no online debit showing for a jewellery store for instance if you then go buy a gift from it.

icelollycraving · 28/12/2024 17:02

Sounds dodgy, given the info about his card being lost. Are you sure he’s at his hobby?
A gift card isn’t really a romantic gift though, if you’re concerned it’s for another woman.

Frazzledmummy123 · 28/12/2024 17:00

Ask him and watch his reaction closely. If he struggled to answer or looks taken aback then I'd say there is cause for suspicion, however if he can answer immediately and gives a believable explanation (e.g. as pp have suggested, bought vouchers to save money, etc).

Do you have a special birthday coming up (or even just a birthday)? Could it be an extravagant gift or planning a surprise?

I'm not going to lie, the hobby where he is uncontactable, and telling you he lost his card which he used for this purchase makes this receipt look potentially dodgy. However, you need to talk to him to gauge his reaction, etc before anyone can really say if there is cause.for suspicion.

Good luck, I hope it does turn out to be nothing.

scotstars · 28/12/2024 16:59

The only thing I would find off here is him saying he lost the card - possibly covering tracks in case u saw the purchase on statement?

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

VarneytheVamp · 28/12/2024 16:58

Wordau · 28/12/2024 16:51

I wonder if you had any suspicions already

I wouldn't usually bother to look at receipts etc pulled from DH's pockets

Something possibly made you look?

Any other changes recently?

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I always check anything that comes out of pockets just in case it’s something important that needs to be kept, to be fair.

blubberyboo · 28/12/2024 16:56

All you can do is ask him but I would take a photo first because he’ll take it off you and bin it if he has anything to hide and you might need to refer to date and time later on receipt in case something else comes to light down the line.

looking at the time on the receipt where did you think he was then?

IkeaJesusChrist · 28/12/2024 16:55

I'd be suspicious particularly as he claims to have lost his card.

PoodleFaceAche · 28/12/2024 16:54

NewNameNoelle · 28/12/2024 16:50

It does sound suspicious:

  • the lost card was not lost at all
  • no one you know received the gift card
  • its a lots of money for him, not a mindless purchase
  • he hasn't mentioned it to you
  • there isn’t an obvious reason he bought this

Do you have other reasons to make you suspicious, or is this a complete shock?

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Plus he's uncontactable when at his 'hobby'. I wouldn't let him know you are onto him until you've done a bit of digging and also made sure your finances are in order.

AhBiscuits · 28/12/2024 16:53

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 28/12/2024 16:45

What hobby does he have that you can't contact him the whole time hes out?

It does seem odd that he said he'd lost the card

Banging his secretary?

Wordau · 28/12/2024 16:51

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 16:33

It’s definitely not work. All staff received a gift card from management which we talked about and he bought some Christmas supplies with.

It is highly unusual for him to spend such a large amount of money and not mention it.

I wonder if you had any suspicions already

I wouldn't usually bother to look at receipts etc pulled from DH's pockets

Something possibly made you look?

Any other changes recently?

NewNameNoelle · 28/12/2024 16:50

It does sound suspicious:

  • the lost card was not lost at all
  • no one you know received the gift card
  • its a lots of money for him, not a mindless purchase
  • he hasn't mentioned it to you
  • there isn’t an obvious reason he bought this

Do you have other reasons to make you suspicious, or is this a complete shock?

Thetraitor · 28/12/2024 16:49

Sounds dodgy

Dweetfidilove · 28/12/2024 16:49

Hopefully there's a reasonable and honest explanation for this. YANBU at all dor being suspicious of something unusual.