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To be suspicious of this receipt

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MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 16:25

DH is out at a hobby. While he is out I decided to put on a wash. I routinely empty DH trouser pockets before washing as they always have train tickets, receipts etc. In amongst everything was one for a £300 gift card for a large shopping complex. We don’t ever shop in this place as it is a distance away. I didn’t receive this gift card. Neither did his DS or DM as we spent Christmas together. This is a sizeable amount of money for us. I don’t know what to think.

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Jimmyneutronsforehead · 28/12/2024 19:49

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

My local shopping centre is meadowhall and you can definitely get gift cards for meadowhall where most of the shops accept it as payment.

Hwi · 28/12/2024 19:33

FloofyPaws · 28/12/2024 16:30

Ask him?

Don't ask him, it will spook him and make him better at covering tracks. Just say very casually, preferably doing something at the same time (folding t-shirts, putting mascara on, brushing your hair) - this was in the pocket, I did not bin it as I usually would, because I thought it might be important if you kept it for a refund, etc. and leave it at that - his behaviour immediately after these words from you will tell you all.

lleeggoo · 28/12/2024 19:33

heroinechic · 28/12/2024 17:35

£300? I thought the contactless limit was £100

For cards, not digital payments.

Mrswhatsit40 · 28/12/2024 19:27

This thread reminds me of the time a colleague (in his 40’s and married) bought 20yo me a £200 gift card for my birthday 😳 It was for the local large shopping centre and I’m ashamed to say I spent it - I was too embarrassed to give it back!

Glad you solved the mystery op.

ErickBroch · 28/12/2024 19:20

lol I lost my card to our joint account two years ago and I still just use it on Apple Pay!! And to other posters there isn’t a contactless limit of £100 on Apple/Google Pay. So all makes sense.

Flopsy145 · 28/12/2024 18:59

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 16:29

Paid from his own account. He told me he lost his card so I’m not even sure how he managed to pay. The receipt says pin verified

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I have to enter pin after using Google pay on my phone sometimes, does he have that or apple pay?

GravyBoatWars · 28/12/2024 18:43

Glad you didn’t let people here send you to a tailspin, OP.

But wow it’s rather depressing how many people here can’t imagine setting their phone aside or turning it off for a while on a weekend to enjoy a hobby. Maybe everyone should give it a try - mine went on DND for two hours today just so I could browse a used book store and then sat and read/chatted in a coffee shop with one of my siblings today, and it’s always off at the gym. This recent expectation that everyone be constantly available is not a good societal development.

Thursdaygirl · 28/12/2024 18:32

Good news that it’s all sorted OP

Wonderi · 28/12/2024 18:28

It’s so refreshing to read that you actually communicated with your partner and the issue was resolved.

MN is a great place to get advice and talk it through anonymously but there’s nothing more frustrating than when an OP asks for advice and their only option is to ask the friend/DP etc but they won’t.

I too would have been confused over this and so I’m glad it has a happy ending 😁

DowntonCrabbie · 28/12/2024 18:26

If you were suspicious at all though, you have an issue. It's not like you've just tidied this away neatly.

TimeForATerf · 28/12/2024 18:21

Glad it’s a happy end op, tbf, he would be a pretty shit affair partner to give a gift voucher to a new lover, no thought in that.

happy New Year.🥳

ChristmasKelpie · 28/12/2024 18:13

Glad it was nothing untowards

BIossomtoes · 28/12/2024 18:07

Beekeepingmum · 28/12/2024 18:04

Cycling...... It is always cycling.....

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Not this time.

Beekeepingmum · 28/12/2024 18:04

CluelessAsFuck · 28/12/2024 16:47

What's his DND hobby? Brain surgery?

Cycling...... It is always cycling.....

TallNeckedGiraffe · 28/12/2024 18:01

@toomuchfaff
Have you read the op’s updates?
Just see that you have.

Spirallingdownwards · 28/12/2024 18:00

Richard1985 · 28/12/2024 17:05

I haven’t been this disappointed since Christmas Day 1998

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We need to know what was so disappointing in 1998

toomuchfaff · 28/12/2024 17:59

How often is he "uncontactable" for the hobby? What's the hobby? Is it real?

just seen the update!

ThisGreyPanda · 28/12/2024 17:55

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

We even have them for our whole town and the independent shops, cafes and other businesses have all signed up to it (plus some chains), it's a great idea to increase footfall and really woks.

Jennyathemall · 28/12/2024 17:49

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 17:02

Mystery solved. It was a gift card for a friend who recently helped us with some renovation work. He apologised and said he thought he had told me. I am good enough friend with the friend for him not to lie about this. The complex is close to this friend and they’ve just bought a house so all makes sense. Thank goodness

Noooo! The MN resident armchair detectives/man haters will be sorely disappointed. How could you!

Hayley1256 · 28/12/2024 17:40

Glad it was something innocent!

OkayLetMeKnowHowItGoes · 28/12/2024 17:37

heroinechic · 28/12/2024 17:35

£300? I thought the contactless limit was £100

Not through Apple/Google pay it isn’t.

heroinechic · 28/12/2024 17:35

£300? I thought the contactless limit was £100

Anewyearanewday · 28/12/2024 17:33

JanglingJack · 28/12/2024 16:59

How can you have a gift card for an entire shopping centre?

Seperate stores within, okay, but just an all round, spend in anything anywhere under this roof? I've not seen one before.

Pretty common where I live

However its an odd gift really. I prefer vouchers personally and DH buys them for me because he's tired of me exchanging his gifts. But when we were dating, I'd have been a bit miffed to receive a voucher. Unless he knows that someone had seen an item that cost that amount eg coat and the voucher was so they could buy the coat they wanted?

ETA I have just seen your update OP. That is great. Mystery solved.

PandoraSox · 28/12/2024 17:31

MagnoliaTree142 · 28/12/2024 17:02

Mystery solved. It was a gift card for a friend who recently helped us with some renovation work. He apologised and said he thought he had told me. I am good enough friend with the friend for him not to lie about this. The complex is close to this friend and they’ve just bought a house so all makes sense. Thank goodness

All solved within 40 minutes! Glad it was a swift resolution for you, OP.

GoodVibesHere · 28/12/2024 17:30

Reddog1 · 28/12/2024 17:22

“your renovation guy requested a gift card payment in order to evade tax” was actually going to be my suggestion.

Ah yes I see now!