To tell ‘D’H I can see him watching women bounce their tits about!!

Happened to me. Your guys a see your next Tuesday (like mine)

You’ll now be blamed for it, he’ll minimise it and act like you’re crazy for your anger, watch and see.

Throw the creature out. These things don’t deserve women or family.

Christ, I'd be creeped out if I thought my DH was upstairs watching me and my phone on camera.

No matter what I was looking at! 🙈

There's nowt so strange as some of the families on this forum.

ETA: And then starting an internet thread to discuss me with strangers!

Just get off your bum and speak to the man.

Is it like a military camera that can focus like a laser?

Then he should make a conscious effort to look at it when he's alone, not when he's meant to be minding his 5 year old.

At the first sight of half naked woman, he should have put the phone down. Better yet, put the phone away altogether from the start.

Is he specifically “looking at women bouncing their tits up and down” or just mindlessly scrolling through Instagram and that’s what his feed brings up? (Obviously that’s how his algorithms are set, but once you’re in an algorithm loop on IG you have to make a conscious effort to change it.)

It's a bit rank to be seeking sexual titillation while looking after a young child.

We have a living room camera. It was up for the baby in her moses etc and then we just couldn't be bothered to take it down. It's useful if I go upstairs and the older two start wrestling 😂

That said it's not good enough to see what someone is doing on their phone. But if he was doing that with her in the room 🤯

I'd find it disgusting that he's doing that with a 5yo in the room, especially as he's ignoring her to focus on the phone. Subtly letting him know you've seen by speaking through the camera and reminding him to pay attention to DD sounds good, but I wouldn't mention boobs or tits. Poor DD, having to overhear that!

No issue with the camera as long as all adults know about it and know how to access it. We had cat-cam.

If you can speak through it, then just do that. Say something like "stop scrolling boobs and pay attention to your daughter"

Then go back to sleep.

Haha the usual, right?! Always a handful that are just so super cool…

Well that's you. I was under the impression we're all different are we not?

Obviously it's far ideal to do it with dd in the room but it doesn't mention in the post she was sat there watching it with him unless I missed that bit? If that's the case then I'd have a different reaction.

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@Bequickplease how about announcing through it “can you stop doom-scrolling bouncing tits and see what DS is up to please?”

I'd just send him a message, something like "can you scroll back up again, I liked the one in the pink bikini more..."

Well that's you. I was under the impression we're all different are we not?

Obviously it's far ideal to do it with dd in the room but it doesn't mention in the post she was sat there watching it with him unless I missed that bit? If that's the case then I'd have a different reaction.

Do you think he installed it where he did so he can see what you do in your phone?

You cant stop a man from looking at women he sees them when hes out and about.
Same as women looking at men.
Tbh you sound like your picking for an argument over nothing.
I once Had an ex that would blame me for looking at men when we would be out and about i wasn't i was looking at women instead lol.😆

OP it’s a rule on MN that men do not look at women nor just watch them.
Men leer at women, often lasciviously.
Remember this.

@Clarasmum444

You're fine with a father scrolling videos of half naked women while his 5 year old daughter is playing at his feet?

Is it fine for a woman to do the same and sit on the couch scrolling videos of men in their underwear while their child is playing nearby? Which women would do this?

Not something I'm cool with.

Sounds like a good way to start an argument. You’ve obviously made the effort to watch what he’s watching on his phone to invade his privacy. He obviously shouldn’t be looking at other women. So Christmas row, why not. Maybe wait until your DD is in bed though.

Why? We have a camera in the living room, originally installed to watch pets who were on cage rest but left up once they had recovered and now used as a security camera.

I dunno there’s a lot of ‘gym girls’ on insta who are in effectively underwear working out….it’s not like he’s actively looking porn or something DD could hear.
I wouldn’t be thrilled but it wouldn’t a dealbreaker I would probably make a joke through the speaker!

Why are people so baffled by having a camera in front room? Quite common if you have dogs

🤣🤣 hardly