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Ick of Christmas present from Dp

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DivaORJustified · 28/12/2024 12:21

Usually Dp give each other a wish list of specific items or vague items like earrings so the other can choose.
Was really happy with the earrings he brought be, they were under stated but very elegant, exactly what I would chose. On Boxing Day when we had his dc under 10, one of his daughters presents was exact same pair of earrings in gold instead of rose gold. Am I right to feel upset about it as it doesn’t feel like a romantic or thoughtful gift anymore. Happy for opinions no matter how harsh. Thank you

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Incenseda · 15/02/2025 19:48

Honestly OP, not one bit surprised.
You have remained housing this tight loser, as his skivvy aupair.

Why do you continue to do this?
He thinks you are desperate.

Do not book and pay for anything.
Help this mean fxxker pack and get the hell out of your home.

YOU are wasting YOUR time being USED.

Dolambslikemintsauce · 15/02/2025 19:46

Bonding over a pair of earrings? Really? How exactly?

DiscoBeat · 15/02/2025 19:44

I wouldn't mind at all, I'd think it was nice to bond with SD over them

Dolambslikemintsauce · 15/02/2025 19:32

So no Christmas gift and pay your own v day treat? Hell op get rid!!

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DivaORJustified · 15/02/2025 19:29

WickedlyCharmed · 15/02/2025 19:12

“Thanks for the link, I’ll have the full body massage and the facial please”.

@WickedlyCharmed I wish I consulted this thread at the time. Time has lapsed now and I stupidly called hotel and they’ve sent me link to pay ( and he knows this). I feel pretty shit. I thought this was to make up for the earrings. He re brought be a pair that were horrible and not to my taste so he said he’d tried and I could go without.

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WickedlyCharmed · 15/02/2025 19:12

“Thanks for the link, I’ll have the full body massage and the facial please”.

Dolambslikemintsauce · 15/02/2025 19:08

Pick some, send him your choices and absolutely assume he is paying.. Or your gift is also a gift to himself... Don't use the link at all.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 15/02/2025 19:06

Just replying saying "thanks for the link - what's my budget?"

BigCandle · 15/02/2025 19:02

Why not just ask who’s paying?

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DivaORJustified · 15/02/2025 19:00

Typo - he’s sent me link to book my own treatment.

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DivaORJustified · 15/02/2025 19:00

How would you all feel about this ad I need a sense check. Not sure of I said in my last post but he’s booked a spa weekend for us and we go tomorrow. He sent me a link today with the treatments so I can ooo my own. All treatments are over £100 so think he wants me to pay for my own as he hasn’t said to treat myself. Do feel really upset about this. I’ve done so much life admin for him that I can’t talk about on here but I saved him prob a thousand pounds or more. I would think he’d like to treat me. Takes away the romantic gesture of it but again am seeing there aren’t really any with him :(

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DivaORJustified · 01/01/2025 10:04

@malificent7 yes the poll is out, seems I have an unusual way of thinking. Probably too sensitive.

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malificent7 · 01/01/2025 09:31

I think you are massively overthinking it. They are romantic for you and a lovely gift for his dd.

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DivaORJustified · 01/01/2025 09:25

@Monty27 is it ok to pm
you?

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elfshenanigans · 31/12/2024 22:15

DivaORJustified · 31/12/2024 21:40

It’s funny I think I’ve seen you on another thread conforming someone whose husband has left yet you keep wishing my dp to leave me.
Put it in perspective: I didn’t like the earrings being gifted to us both, communicated that and he’s putting it right.

Not sure how that’s controlling? And that I’m not nice?
If I was shagging his best friend or being abusive then yes I would deserve the pile on!

Would you not tell your partner if he was doing something you didn’t like? Your attitude towards me tells people alot more about you than me. Sorry but I’m not a door mat. I’m kind but I’m not a walk over.

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How is that not controlling? I couldn't contemplate treating my OH like that. You just come across an massively entitled and hugely ungrateful. You didn't come across well at all in this thread. hopefully, the poor bloke has a light bulb moment.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 31/12/2024 22:04

Candy24 · 31/12/2024 21:51

Sorry but your ungrateful entitled behavior reminds me of my narc mother and the way you have berated your partner is just horrid. Yes i do hope he wakes up but probably not.

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Exactly

You can support one person who's partner had suddenly left them and also acknowledge when another person is being rather controlling and their partner would be better off without them (especially when their controlling partner has a whole escape plan anyway!)

Poor bloke is going to spend the year grovelling and I bet OP will still throw it in his face

Candy24 · 31/12/2024 21:51

DivaORJustified · 31/12/2024 21:40

It’s funny I think I’ve seen you on another thread conforming someone whose husband has left yet you keep wishing my dp to leave me.
Put it in perspective: I didn’t like the earrings being gifted to us both, communicated that and he’s putting it right.

Not sure how that’s controlling? And that I’m not nice?
If I was shagging his best friend or being abusive then yes I would deserve the pile on!

Would you not tell your partner if he was doing something you didn’t like? Your attitude towards me tells people alot more about you than me. Sorry but I’m not a door mat. I’m kind but I’m not a walk over.

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Sorry but your ungrateful entitled behavior reminds me of my narc mother and the way you have berated your partner is just horrid. Yes i do hope he wakes up but probably not.

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DivaORJustified · 31/12/2024 21:43

Prforone · 31/12/2024 19:38

My DP bought the same earrings for both me and his 13yo DD for Christmas last year. I never gave it a second thought and certainly wasn't offended. He bought something he liked and thought would look good on us both. Where's the issue?

Yes well we are all different I suppose. It looks like I’m in the minority here but I have always thought jewellery from a partner to be romantic and personal, especially when it’s expensive and exactly to my taste.
My partner wanted to return his daughter’s earrings but there was no way that would happen as I didn’t want her upset, not her fault her dad couldn’t think things out.

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DivaORJustified · 31/12/2024 21:40

Candy24 · 31/12/2024 21:18

OP thinks she is right. Her partner had agreed as well he has no backbone anymore. Op is beyond selfish and controlling i hope her guy wakes up.

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It’s funny I think I’ve seen you on another thread conforming someone whose husband has left yet you keep wishing my dp to leave me.
Put it in perspective: I didn’t like the earrings being gifted to us both, communicated that and he’s putting it right.

Not sure how that’s controlling? And that I’m not nice?
If I was shagging his best friend or being abusive then yes I would deserve the pile on!

Would you not tell your partner if he was doing something you didn’t like? Your attitude towards me tells people alot more about you than me. Sorry but I’m not a door mat. I’m kind but I’m not a walk over.

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Candy24 · 31/12/2024 21:18

Prforone · 31/12/2024 19:38

My DP bought the same earrings for both me and his 13yo DD for Christmas last year. I never gave it a second thought and certainly wasn't offended. He bought something he liked and thought would look good on us both. Where's the issue?

OP thinks she is right. Her partner had agreed as well he has no backbone anymore. Op is beyond selfish and controlling i hope her guy wakes up.

Candy24 · 31/12/2024 21:16

MartinCrieffsLemon · 31/12/2024 18:03

Oh so close
And now you're back to making him grovel

This. Hope the guy wakes up. OP is not a nice person at all.

KarlaKK · 31/12/2024 19:45

Prforone · 31/12/2024 19:38

My DP bought the same earrings for both me and his 13yo DD for Christmas last year. I never gave it a second thought and certainly wasn't offended. He bought something he liked and thought would look good on us both. Where's the issue?

It's not about you though.

Prforone · 31/12/2024 19:38

My DP bought the same earrings for both me and his 13yo DD for Christmas last year. I never gave it a second thought and certainly wasn't offended. He bought something he liked and thought would look good on us both. Where's the issue?

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DivaORJustified · 31/12/2024 18:35

@MartinCrieffsLemon and a Happy New Year to you too!!!

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MartinCrieffsLemon · 31/12/2024 18:03

Oh so close
And now you're back to making him grovel