Ick of Christmas present from Dp

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OP, you have received a special gift and I am unsure what the problem is with his daughter getting the same?
I would perceive that as a compliment

Yes, Men aren't renowned for their gift choices.

@DivaORJustified My husband's worst ever present to me was a broken chocolate Father Christmas {in plain} he knows I dislike novelty Christmas chocolate , {especially plain!}

Turned out it was a gift for his affair's children, but he dropped it.

That was really insulting.

I truly was expecting a sex toy from the OP's post, not earrings.

Earrings are very inoffensive, and so what if his daughter has the same pair?
Rose gold {I think} is just a colour added to the gold to make the warmer tone.

I really despair at the romantic standards that some people have on mumsnet that posters are not seeing the problem with this. I can’t believe some posters think it would be nice to be given the same earrings as a 9 year old lol.

Of course earrings for your wife should be a special gift, chosen specifically for her and not just a bulk buy.

If it is a matching gift on purpose then he should have given you both yours to open at the same time and explained the reason to match you both. Rather than give you yours on your own and make you feel like they were specially selected for you, and then you have to notice afterwards that it’s the same as he got his daughter.

He should’ve made the effort to make an individual choice for both of you.

I think a nice gift is a nice gift. It was his daughter, presuming you are both the most important women in his life then I would take it as a nice thing that he found a lovely gift for both of you. Personally, I don't need to feel all special and intimate with gifts, its just stuff. But then I also think jewelry is just metal and rocks from the ground and shaped into something with a brand and a huge margin slapped on it. So I guess it depends on your personal perspective on gifts, stuff and jewelry and the need to feel special by being given gifts. Maybe he has a different persepctive than you on these things. If he is a good husband otherwise then this shouldnt be an issue.

Man goes into a jewellers and tells the assistant he's looking for a gift for his wife. She shows him necklaces and bracelets and then some earrings and mentions that they are a popular item.

Bloke thinks he's onto a winner and says he'll have a pair. He chooses the rose gold colour and then says, I'll take a pair in gold for my daughter.

Job done.

Wife and daughter will both be happy at receiving a lovely gift.

I wouldn't have any problem with that.

I agree. I think it's lazy to buy you both the same thing, it's not hard to choose two different pairs. and I'd feel wierd wearing the same earrings as a child. Kids don't typically wear nice expensive earrings so I'd feel like I was wearing kids jewellery.

I think that you’re going to make both of you miserable if you spend the relationship getting hung up on stuff like this. He bought the two most important women in his life a piece of jewellery in the material of their personal taste: that’s thoughtful. He has a daughter and she’s just as

I doubt there’s a man out there getting upset because his partner bought both him and a male relative aftershave but different ones, or both sweaters but different ones, or different types of whisky etc.

A gift of jewellery usually comes with the assumption that it was chosen by the giver specifically for the recipient, you wear it next to your skin, it's very personal. I would be a bit disappointed if DH bought someone else the same piece of jewellery as he bought me, it would indicate that it was chosen with the attitude of "That'll do" rather than "This is perfect for Tunnocks".

I wouldn't like it either. I'm trying to put my finger on why. It's sort of "oh those are nice, I needn't carry on looking/thinking, just rinse and repeat".

What is an 'intimate gift'?

And YABU - he bought you stuff from your list and something he chose. You're being a brat.

But this is entirely a "you" problem and it may actually be worth thinking deeper about what you think the real issue is.
As an outsider, it seems as though you want to be more special than his own child which is quite problematic. Would you have been similarly upset if she got different earrings which were more expensive than yours? Or if she got something entirely different that you would have perceived to be more thoughtful than your gift?

It was a special gift!

He loves his daughter as much as he loves you you know!

Yanbu

So he got you other gifts and flowers as well. Yes, you are a diva.

I do think best way to approach is to give him a gentle ribbing about it and make it clear you keen for a bit more romance in future. I think it’s also strange to get same earrings for an under 10 year old - makes it seem like they must have been quite cheap and you probably assumed maybe they were pricier than they were before you saw it was also given to a child? Would almost be nicer if he gave same earrings to his mum or an adult daughter as at least then it would be like a serious adult gift ya know.

I don't see the issue either. Nice earrings are nice earrings! Quite sweet he bought the same thing for two people he loves.

It's an odd way for you to think.
It's not like he bought them for your ndn and he bought you other things you'd asked for plus flowers. Seems like a nice bloke.

Yes that’s weird and YANBU! You’re well within your rights to expect a nice romantic present from your DH and also your own pair of earrings not just the same as he got someone else! Would be different if it was novelty socks for the family but earrings for your wife should be special.

To me it feels a bit gross like he’s making you a set but it’s probably just laziness mixed with that he thought they were nice and not creepy in anyway.

It’s the same gift with the same amount of thought and romance attached to it as it had before you saw he’d bought them for his dd.

You are attaching meaning that was never there. Blokes don’t tend to overthink gifts, he just saw some earrings he liked and thought that his wife and daughter would like them too. So it wasn’t very imaginative but so what? Being imaginative with gifts isn’t an indication of how much he loves you.