Ick of Christmas present from Dp

He didn't. He got his DD the same as OP. He put some thought into choosing earrings for OP that she would love (she did) and then made the lazy decision to buy the same for his DD.

No it really doesn’t. How could there have been excitement and shine when you told him what to buy you?

Your perspective and expectations aren’t realistic and your need to feel this way over him doing something nice for his daughter isn’t right.

He bought you something you really liked, understated and elegant. He also bought you other things you wanted. And the event and the dress you wanted for birthday. He's listened and thought.

See how many women here have had naff all from their supposedly loving husband's /boyfriends.

You sound rather hard work.

He bought you something you like. Presumably he liked them too so chose a different version for his dd. That's quite sweet in a way. Christmas is stressful enough without having to look high and low for something different just for the sake of it. I think most men would be happy they got something you wanted and not agonise over whether it spoke to you in a particular way. Is it your usual style / colour? That's about as far as one can go in choosing a piece of jewellery for someone else.

Copper is added to turn yellow gold into rose gold. 😊

I've read this post before?

With respect, you're not the standard bearer of romantic ideals. Indeed there is no standard. People show love in many different ways.

OP sounds a tad ungrateful

Totally agree and a lovely step daughter/step mother bonding gift.

It isn’t Valentines Day. You are being unreasonable.

You made him a list (yuck to that!) and he bought you the items on your list (no romanticism there as it was expected and prescribed) and now because he bought his daughter the earrings in a different colour it wasn’t perfect for you.

This guy can’t win.

I sometimes wonder how what I read is SO different from some posters.

That isnt at all what OP at all - she is saying she wanted some unique, whatever the cost

@honeylulu
I wouldn't like it either. I'm trying to put my finger on why. It's sort of "oh those are nice, I needn't carry on looking/thinking, just rinse and repeat".

@TunnocksOrDeath
A gift of jewellery usually comes with the assumption that it was chosen by the giver specifically for the recipient, you wear it next to your skin, it's very personal. I would be a bit disappointed if DH bought someone else the same piece of jewellery as he bought me, it would indicate that it was chosen with the attitude of "That'll do" rather than "This is perfect for Tunnocks".

I agree the duplicate was likely to do with laziness or lack of imagination, but if true, this was directed at his daughter, not OP. He bought a pair of earrings - as OP had requested - successfully finding a pair he knew OP would love (she did). Then he thought they'd do for his daughter too. If anyone should feel offended it should be his daughter, but I bet she's as thrilled with her earrings as OP was originally.

Maybe she asked for jewellery too and he didn't want one of you to prefer the other's present, so just go the same thing. Maybe she saw the present beforehand and liked them and he then decided to also buy her some. Maybe he thought they were lovely and wanted to get the same special present for two people he loves. Or maybe it was a bit lazy, but you've still both got a present that you really like. It really doesn't sound that bad OP, and I think you are being a bit precious.

The issue is with how you feel about his daughter not the gift. Can you not see you and her are very special to him? Poor man, poor daughter.

Or "mate" find yourself a woman who is happy to wear the same earrings as a 9 year old. Because of course, out of the literally MILLIONS of choices there are, you could only choose one.

Basically, a woman whose bar is very, very low.

You're making it even worse, OP. You're saying he shouldn't have spent as much money on his daughter as he did on you. This isn't a good look. Stop yourself now.

I really don’t see what the problem is - particularly as you liked the earrings and he bought you other gifts. To be honest it sounds like you are a bit of a diva and a little bit jealous of his relationship with his daughter.
That being said it doesn’t sound like an age appropriate gift for his DD, I feel a little sad that he didn’t put more effort into her gift.

An Ex bought the same perfume for me and his Mum one year.
Dumped him

I would have had the same reaction here OP. Maybe it feels like he's putting you in the same category in his head as his daughter, and in a blended family situation I think this can feel really difficult.

Have you told him how you feel @DivaORJustified ?

Completely agree with @Marmiteontoastgirlie , surprise of answers that say it's a non issue. I don't think it is even acceptable to do that to two friends in the same friendship group. The only time is OK if they were for mother and daughter, or two daughters, two granddaughters and presented as a matching gift.

Was Cinderella upset too?

For Christmas one year my ex bought me and his mother the same perfume! Kind of creepy when you think about it. And yes, one of the reasons he's now an ex was because he was a massive mummy's boy and she was the MIL from hell.

This. I sometimes hear men grumbling among themselves that their partners are impossible to please and I wonder just how difficult any woman could be. Then I read this and I think poor bloke, he's expected to be a mind-reader as well as to follow your detailed requirements in order not to upset you.

Mate, if you're reading this, it doesn't have to be this difficult. Go and find yourself a confident, secure woman who doesn't need gifts to feel loved and wanted and isn't in competition with your kids for attention. The latter issue is the biggie. Your kids need to come first.

Gold doesn't come in 100% pure form, so all gold has different metal additives. Rose gold is alloyed with copper I believe (personally rose gold is my favourite).
Either way, I think OP is massively overthinking this, almost like looking for an issue in a relationship.

I do think it's weird. Out of all the millions of options, why did he get you the same as a child?

This is exactly what I thought; pure laziness. He was probably pleased he found earrings he knew OP would love and then thought, Hey, I could get them for DD too - easy present buying! 😂Honestly OP, I wouldn't overthink this. You said the earrings are precisely your taste so just enjoy wearing them.