To feel like people assume if you're wealthy, successful etc people assume you can't have problems?

Being a football supporter, I often read reports of racist abuse towards the players on social media. These reports invariably attract comments like 'Well why is he bothered, he's got millions'. As if it's ok to be racist if the subject of your bigotry has a few quid. Or that a healthy bank balance stops it from being hurtful.

OP give me your money and I’ll give you my sympathy! The Queen understood when she said “don’t complain, don’t explain”. People don’t give a shit about wealthy people. Buy a handbag and just get on with it, and if it really bothers you, give your money away. Problem solved.

I can see your point and I agree that wealth shouldn't negate suffering you have experienced.

However, wealth would quite often be an answer to a lot of ppls problems. It would immediately fix the horrific medical situation I'm in and I say that as the wife of a consultant. The NHS is broken and whilst I'm supporting someone trying to hold it together at the seams, I am suffering due to lack of adult competent care. Anyway, rant over! I think what I'm trying to say is that when wealth is what is needed to solve a lot of problems, then people can only be so sympathetic to those who have it. But, like I said, I agree that's not fair on you. Just like it's not fair on me (or others) that we don't have the means to fix our problems.

The point is that you are in a much better position than most people. If you look at the hierarchy of needs, people are struggling right now with the basics of human need i.e. heating, food, shelter, clothing... so you are already in a fortunate position of not having to worry about those very basics.
Also you've spoken about your childhood trauma. Thats the same for thousands of people who don't have the luxury of being able to give up work, pay for therapy, move where they want. People don't have much sympathy for multi millionaires because generally speaking, their lives are easier.
I wonder if there is a slight amount of naval gazing going on here, simply because you don't have the worries of thr majority of the population.
I have said from the off that you can have problems, but its slightly off putting to start a thread asking why you don't get sympathy when this site is so full of people struggling with the absolute basics of getting by.

All problems are relative and money is only one factor. There will always be someone richer than you, and always someone poorer, always someone happier and always someone more mentally unwell.

Of course you, like everyone, deserve to be treated with empathy OP, I wonder about the humanity of some of the (jealous) people on this thread.

I understand what you mean. I worked with a lovely person who on the surface, had it all. Happy marriage, lovely children, great job with an excellent salary. He also suffered from severe clinical depression, for which he had to take periods of sick leave. Many times I heard "What's he got to be fed up about?"

I had a shitty childhood and do have some problems now BUT what I don't have are problems easily fixed by money.
You could have had a shit childhood and be broke and having a shit life now, thats the reality for a lot of people
Maybe work on your self awareness rather than your self pity

You seem focussed a lot on “people” and what “people” assume about you, and what “the public” thinks about famous people’s mental health. It doesn’t matter who you are, the reality is that anyone beyond your inner circle of immediate family and close friends won’t really be motivated in any significant way to look more deeply into you or care at all about your problems. That people more widely don’t is the case for pretty much everyone - nobody is of much interest or concern to those but their nearest and dearest. What does it matter if an acquaintance doesn’t realise you have inner struggles which money can’t fix, or strangers don’t have sympathy for you about your childhood? Why do you need them to? Whatever anyone’s level of wealth and type of struggle, the broader world isn’t invested in it, and very wealthy people aren’t an exception to that.

This is probably true.
I get the OP.
Everyone has a different life with different problems, of course they would be tone deaf to worrying about feeding kids or keeping house warm, not necessarily on purpose.
My husband, who came to this world very well off, still doesn't think these things are a real problem in real life.
He's 75.

Plenty of people have minds that are completely fucked but also live in a shitty high rise with mould up the walls.

I had a significant breakdown in 2017. Was suicidal with a plan and a back up. At the time we were fortunate to have private health insurance through dh’s job and I was able to access excellent psychiatric care and a psychotherapy at The Priory.

nobody is saying you’re not deserving of sympathy but that none of your problems are unique to having money and that poor people have the same problems but not the options you have.

I'm sure you are right that some people are dismissive of the very idea that rich people can have problems (despite the regular reporting of mental health problems, addiction and even suicide attempts amongst celebs) but not everyone thinks that. There's always someone somewhere having a go at someone else! I don't think that at all.

That's unbelievably tone deaf and not true. You can't completely buy yourself out of poor MH. What is the worst outcome - suicide? That doesn't affect rich people?

I hear you, OP. No amount of money can buy the things you already missed out on and can never have. I really hear you.

The rich version of you now is easier than being the poor version of you now.

There is a grotesqueness about your posts and I am not sure why I have had this reaction to your posts. Sometimes people react in a way that is beyond your and their own control. Don’t let it affect your life.

The passive-aggressive jealous comments get old really quick. People love to be martyrs and use their poor finances to excuse being shit to people in better positions

My great aunt was pregnant at the same time as my grandma. My grandma had my mum and my great aunt had a stillborn son. She was never able to have another child.
Her wealth never made that any less painful.

I'd imagine people do think that attractive multimillionaires generally have less to moan about than physically repellent benefits claimants. But the truth is people are envious of others and simply think their own problems are more important than other people's. As a lot of people's issues probably stem from money then you can see why they might think that you wouldn't be suffering in that regard.
A decent friend would make sure to try and be supportive no matter what though.

Anyone can have problems. Money makes them much easier to deal with.

Well the bible does say, it's easier for a camel 🐪 to pass through the eye of a needle 💉 than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven ...

No matter how much money you have there is no escape from the vicissitudes of the human condition.

Ie - that we depend on and love others, and then have to bear the loss of the loved and needed person. And face the loss of our own life and that we will not live to see our children's children's children etc.

I think youare right that a lot of people can't see beyond someone's bank balance.
I'm sorry things are hard for you.