To be mad my folks gatecrashed xmas?

That wasn't rude

How is it rude?

Then why is she telling them what hotel she’s at? She’s clearly in good contact with them to tell them all her plans for Christmas ???

Because the vast, vast majority of people aren’t deranged enough to turn up at a hotel to take part in a trip they weren’t invited to join. I don’t actively tell my parents (or indeed any other family members, friends or colleagues) the name of the hotel I’m staying in on holiday, but if one of them asked me casually “stating anywhere nice?” or similar, I wouldn’t keep it a secret or Immediately be suspicious. I’d think they were just making conversation - not that they were planning to jump out from behind a curtain shouting “Yoooo-hooooo!!! Sur-priiiiise!!!”

How rude.

Correct, you can have as many stupid and unfounded opinions as you like. And others can comment on that

well she wanted answers and opinions I given mine and I’m entitled to it! N as for u get a grip !

And other people are entitled to their opinion to your opinion.

'Its so fucking easy to sit on the internet and say "Well what I would do is...." sitting there safe in the knowledge that you will never have to.
How DARE you sit there all superior that you know best when you know nothing at all? What the hell do you think gives you that right?!
I do know what its like, and sadly judging by this thread alone, so do a lot of other people. You dont. Clam up.'

Well said. So many people on here just don't get it, and seem determined to carry on not getting it. Parents like the OPs do SUCH a number on your sense of self, your autonomy, your confidence and ability to stand up for yourself. I'm in my mid 40s and I'm still learning all the time how to manage my relationship with mine

I’m not wrong if ur parents are abusive Get rid of them look for peace and deal with life without them!

and definitely don’t tell them what hotel ur in!

@Bubbletrouble2 you can have your opinion, that doesn't mean other people can't tell you exactly how wrong you are, and if they're kind enough, draw it with crayons.

Who given me the right. ? It’s a discussion on the internet and I given my opinion I certainly don’t know who rattled your cage! Now
jog on to bed looks like you need it ! 😂

Oh, it’s the old “One day they’ll be dead and THEN you’ll be sorry” routine? Pathetic, tacky emotional blackmail.

I hate to be the one to tell you, but everybody dies. Everybody, from the loveliest kindest people alive to absolutely evil scum, dies. If “One day I’ll die, so in the meantime put up with any old shit” is the approach we’re taking, absolutely anything and everything is forgivable - because after all, you’ll regret it when they’re gone, right?

If the OP’s parents carry on like this, maybe the Christmas when they’re no longer there WON’T break her heart. Maybe the opposite. And that really would be sad.

But by placing them next door they revealed a) that the OP was staying there and b) in which room they were staying. That is a data breach even if they didn't spell out the numerals.

You obviously can't be bothered to read OP's posts. OP's parents are abusive, particularly her father. They are the problem.

You know, I don't

I had a 'normal' childhood with 'normal' parents

But I've read enough and seen enough to understand what people like the OP have been through and go through

I don't understand why so many fail to understand.

Lack of knowledge? Lack of belief? Lack of imagination? Or just sheer spitefulness?

I recommend the CGE SATS comprehension scheme.

Tell us that you have no idea about how life is with abusive parents etc.

Well let me educate you. An abused child has had this since birth. They know no different. They were raised to walk on eggshells, they were raised to "not make daddy angry" and to "not make mummy cry". That is all they know. As adults they learn better lessons and as parents themselves, they see the horrible treatment they got, but that "dont make daddy angry or mummy cry" is drummed into their DNA and they struggle to fight it.

Its so fucking easy to sit on the internet and say "Well what I would do is...." sitting there safe in the knowledge that you will never have to.

How DARE you sit there all superior that you know best when you know nothing at all? What the hell do you think gives you that right?!

I do know what its like, and sadly judging by this thread alone, so do a lot of other people. You dont. Clam up.

Next year, make your reservation, tell them you have your normal reservation, cancel it, and stay home. Maybe even invite the in-laws over. Better yet, just go visit the ILs.

And I definitely wouldn't go to their house to pick up those Christmas presents for the children.

Because only Bad Daughters walk away from their parents. It takes a lot to get strong enough to cut that tie. I’m pleased for you that you have, or that you haven’t needed to.

My inlaws are the same with their "bickering" and they do not care about creating a bad atmosphere. They have been told numerous times. It's like they suck the fun out of the air.

Thank you exactly my point ! No point coming on here posting a whole load when poster is clearly in regular contact .. what you allow will continue. !

Then why is she telling them what hotel she’s at? She’s clearly in good contact with them to tell them all her plans for Christmas ??? If they are so abusive why are they still in her life she should have put a stop to it. ?? If my parents were abusive my whole life and now I’m an adult I certainly wouldn’t tell them my plans I have with my family and I definitely wouldn’t be in contact with them !

Basically. What else would be the case

but also: why the poster bears this shit and even kept bearing it up to now

Yes yout are being unreasonable. Xmas is a time for family and you are clearly going out of your way every year to avoid them. You are the problem.