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Unreasonable on dog walk

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Hatexmasdinner · 27/12/2024 21:13

Myself, DH, DD (10) and DDog were out for a dog walk this morning. DDog tried to lay down to say hi to another dog. She was on a slip lead and my DH then popped said lead and sent her literally flying. My reaction was "oh my god" as I got a fright and DD said that it was a bit harsh. He then thrust the lead at me and stormed off. Didn't walk with us for the remaining 40 mins of walk. We got back to house and he came into the room and had a go at me for undermining him. At this point I lost it as I thought his behaviour was completely out of order, both the treatment of DDog and in front of DD. AIBU as he's now giving me silent treatment all day?

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EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 27/12/2024 22:07

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 27/12/2024 22:04

So he yanked what is effectively a noose around your dog's neck hard enough to drag her over the ground towards him?

He sounds like an absolute cunt tbh.

And then got angry and took off when OP reacted to the sudden move. Exclaiming oh my god was hardly having a go at him and doesn't warrant any of his behaviour. He's been a complete dick head through all of this.

Eta: if I'd accidentally done this to my dog I'd behave like an adult, Id be worried about my dog, apologise and check they were OK and Id be feeling bad for hurting it. I would.NOT be getting pissed off about DP reaction

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 27/12/2024 22:04

So he yanked what is effectively a noose around your dog's neck hard enough to drag her over the ground towards him?

He sounds like an absolute cunt tbh.

HermoinePotter · 27/12/2024 22:02

He wouldn’t be near the dog again if that’s how he treats it. Utterly disgusting behaviour and get rid of the slip lead. I agree with @mrsm43s slips leads are not a training method and cause pain in the wrong hands.

mrsm43s · 27/12/2024 22:00

Why are you using a slip lead?

If you're jointly choosing the method of causing pain to the dogs as a "training" method, you are accepting that dog getting hurt is the consequence of dog doing something owner doesn't like/want, no?

Perhaps use a non pain giving lead and harness and train your dog without pain.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 27/12/2024 21:58

If your dog was laying down he was in friendly mode and your man over reacted.

Maybe he knows that and felt embarrassed- can he take negative comments? My guess is he can't.

AllAboardTootToot · 27/12/2024 21:52

Mellow dramatic bullshit on both parts I would say!

greengreyblue · 27/12/2024 21:49

You embarrassed him but he needs to get over it.

stargazerlil · 27/12/2024 21:32

Poor dog not allowed to say hello. That’s what dogs go out for. Was it a training walk or a fun walk? Is he the one who trains the dog? if not he shouldn’t be using a training lead. Sounds like he should be banned.

cryinglaughing · 27/12/2024 21:26

Hmm, we had our gundogs to a gundog trainer who used this method. It worked a treat and we didn't need to do it very often or for long.

Why did he do it if the dog was lying down?

Is he one of these who has to be boss of the dog? Alpha male shit?

CaptainBeanThief · 27/12/2024 21:24

Yeah but the dog only wanted to say hello to another dog and interact,
Unless it was an XL bully off lead bounding up to the dog was there a need to "pop the lead to send the dog flying"

BilboBlaggin · 27/12/2024 21:24

Firstly he pulled the dog way too hard and secondly, if she was lying down she was being submissive, so didn't really warrant the tug.

I too would have exclaimed if someone yanked my dog like that. He knows he's the unreasonable one, which is probably why he's acting out - he can't admit he was in the wrong.

Slimshady44 · 27/12/2024 21:23

He may not have meant to have been so abrupt. It may have been a knee jerk reaction.

If it is a one off I would have waited til I got home to address it.

It is hard to judge. The silent treatment isn’t good either.

I never used a pop lead they sound a bit harsh in the wrong hands though!

Hatexmasdinner · 27/12/2024 21:21

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 27/12/2024 21:18

I think "popped it" is a breakdancing term. My understanding is the DH started dancing in the park.

From Google:

A "popped slip lead" refers to a quick, sharp tug on a slip leash, creating a brief moment of pressure on the dog's neck to get their attention and redirect their behavior, typically used as a training tool to correct unwanted pulling or distractions while walking; it's considered a subtle correction when done correctly, with the pressure immediately released after the "pop"

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Balloonhearts · 27/12/2024 21:21

cryinglaughing · 27/12/2024 21:15

What do you mean by popped her lead?
How did he send her flying? Did he kick her?

Popping the lead is a training term its a sharp sudden tug usually used to interrupt bad behaviour. You do it with horses too. The DH didn't use it correctly here and did it way too hard if he pulled her over.

CaptainBeanThief · 27/12/2024 21:20

What a fucking arsehole.
Is your husband one of those dog walkers who can't let their dogs interact with peasant dogs?
Abusive prick

Hatexmasdinner · 27/12/2024 21:18

Sorry it's this style of lead https://www.petsathome.com/product/3-peaks-ascent-slip-dog-lead-ecru/P71506

She stopped and lay down while he pulled the lead so effectively pulled her to his side and sent her flying. Sorry not articulating it well am I

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neverknowinglyunreasonable · 27/12/2024 21:18

I think "popped it" is a breakdancing term. My understanding is the DH started dancing in the park.

MasterBeth · 27/12/2024 21:16

What's a slip lead? What do you mean "popped it"? Explain better.

cryinglaughing · 27/12/2024 21:15

What do you mean by popped her lead?
How did he send her flying? Did he kick her?