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Partner not wanting sex while I am pregnant

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Motherof1and2dogs · 27/12/2024 18:36

Just wanted to see what everyone thinks about the above. My husband is fully aware I am writing this by the way, but I am curious to see what others think so we can sit down and read together your replies, either I need to respect his feelings or he needs to respect mine (by the way this is not an argument, we have been joking around about the situation but he is 100% serious) so he refuses to have sex with me as soon as I start to show my bump, he gets really freaked out about the thought of having sex when I am pregnant, I can kind of sympathise as it must be a bit strange, but how can we both go the next 6.5 months without sex 😫 I mean he seems fine with it but I'm not. I am not an addict in anyway, but I think at least 1-2 times a month is healthy for your relationship. I do think it will affect me not being able to do it for such a long time in terms of self esteem as well as the emotional side of it, and then when baby is here it will probably be even longer after that!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I respect how he feels and just deal with it? Should he just build up the courage and have sex with me while pregnant? Sorry for so much information but just interested to see what people say, maybe some comments may help me or him with the situation. Thanks in advance! :)

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OhcantthInkofaname · 27/12/2024 18:46

Something is wrong with him.

fuzzychic · 27/12/2024 18:45

WalterdelaMare · 27/12/2024 18:44

His prerogative, I’m afraid, same as it would be yours.

But it’s going to be hard. I was demented with horniness when pregnant.

It's not hard to sort yourself out though

WalterdelaMare · 27/12/2024 18:44

His prerogative, I’m afraid, same as it would be yours.

But it’s going to be hard. I was demented with horniness when pregnant.

JimHalpertsWife · 27/12/2024 18:44

No one should be having sex when they don't want to.

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 27/12/2024 18:43

Yep, been in this position. Twice. There's nothing I can do, I can't disappear a bump! He's an anxious person so I'm not sure if that plays a role in his behaviour / thoughts? He was fine after birth but it's just hurtful during pregnancy and doesn't make me feel great about myself (even though I know it's not about how I look, it's the fact I'm carrying his baby).

StrawberryCherry · 27/12/2024 18:43

Lots of men find it a turn off I know my ex did

fuzzychic · 27/12/2024 18:42

He has a right to refuse sex for any reason and none

bigageap · 27/12/2024 18:39

Well I think if it was you who didn’t want it and your husband expected you to suck it up and do it anyway you would be told to LTB and it’s completely wrong for him to expect that from you!