To ask who pissed you off this Christmas?

Bereavement. It was the first Christmas without my DM. Rest of the family were wonderful, but I missed DM a lot.

My MiL who sat and did not help in any way as I ran around for 3 days feeding, tidying, planning activities etc. to be fair she has some mobility issues so I understand that there were some things she couldn't do, although there were some she could have (peeled veg for example). But what really pissed me off was that she would guilt trip DH into amusing her constantly as she would say she was bored or feeling left out, so that meant I never had DH's help with the domestic chores as he was always having a cup of tea or GnT with his mother while I beavered away in the kitchen like Cinderella.

I don’t think she noticed, it was busy with children’s gifts and playing games etc. I didn’t want to draw attention to it, as any repair would feel false. Unless he actually mislaid mine but it’s been days now and still no mention.

My stepfather and his mum, he was the most miserable, many idiot as always and she had to make everything about her and every conversation about her, even the ones she wasn’t involved in,

Everyone! 😂

Actually seeing your post reminded me we did have a lovely lazy Christmas on Xmas Eve/Day and Boxing Day just me DH and kids. We have hosted some friends yesterday and more due tomorrow

I will report back...

Brother and by default SIL - backstory that I CBA to try and explain as it’s so vague I'm
umsure myself what their problem is. They’ve isolated themselves from many.

DM for the last hour of visit only - talked and talked about someone who all of us have disapproved of but she does not listen. Never asked my kids anything….didn’t seem to notice when my DD became upset over something during that last hour and just kept on and on…..I didn’t say anything in front of kids. Drove home with that lingering and ranted to DH about it who also agreed and has a little rant. I’m waiting to say something about this person at the right time.

That’s awful.

And sorry but it is also awful of your mom to say nothing. Why does he distinguish between you and your sister like that?

Nobody - I had a great Christmas. Sorry!

Step dad, gave my sister a lovely ‘like a daughter’ card with handwritten lovely words inside and I didn’t get anything at all. It’s completely his choice of course but it stung, and made me feel pushed out of their little group with mum. I miss my dad so much.

SIL and her snipey comments, she just can't help herself and it drives me nuts.

He sounds really annoying- but am I right in thinking that your husband is the only family he has, since his mother has died? If that's the case the emphasis on STEP seems harsh.

The 6 months to move out etc is more than generous for a grown man who is behaving this badly, though!

The annoying relitive who started in on me for giving my husbands 24 yesr old STEPson (his decessed wifes kid) 6 months to move out. Hes broken just about every house rule, pays nothing, eats everyones food ( that they saved) and leaves garbage in his room ( so now we have mice. Hes done this multiple times). Hes got a job and no ambition

This is a terrible idea. Please don't do this. Especially the ganging up aspect. Just send something from yourself if you want to. What you have suggested is truly awful. Please reconsider.

In laws , they just take over everything all the time. They are too much for me as an introvert. Also Dh for being a grumpy pain in the ass Christmas night. Also dsis who is a selfish little b**ch , has my dm running round after her. Wanted dm to get her and her bf (who seems to have moved into her bedroom for xmas) vapes and bottles of coke yesterday while dm & I were out at the shops...there are cans upon cans of coke in the house but no - they wanted bottles!!! Also ordering takeaway every night as though they are millionaires. And the two of them smoking cannabis out the window of the bathroom. Can't believe dm allows this.

We have the same MIL!

No one thankfully as i dont suffer fools gladly!

Absolutely no-one.
I’m either very lucky or very tolerant

My stepson. Nearly 24. Ridiculously lazy. Entitled. Possibly ASD. Lives with me, DH and my DD.
Never says thankyou for anything, ever
Works from home four days a week and spend the rest of the time laying on his ass.

Now we need all the juice on this, @murasaki

Middle sis and I have composed a truth bomb message, which I will send on new year's day to youngest sis. Our partners agree and have contributed to it. It's going to be light the blue touch paper and stand well back, but enough is enough. Middle sis's partner pointed out when she had a wobble that this has gone on long enough, and currently lots of people are hurt, and only one will be by the email.

My partner was here for a few days (we don’t live together) and he has man flu. The same ‘girl’ flu I had 3 weeks ago but by god was he hard work!

He went home earlier today and I almost caught his heels as I shut the door behind him (not literally!) 😂 Honestly I couldn’t wait for him to go and whinge to himself at home! 🤪

The whole time was crap! It was our 3rd Xmas together but the first one we had Xmas day together (I am a nurse and worked the last three xmases. We did nothing fun and yes he was poorly but man stop being a grump and attempt some kind of being nice!!

Me! We had a lovely but quiet Christmas with one daughter and grandson, and I was really looking forward to spending yesterday with my other daughter and her family. Instead I spent the whole day in hospital and my daughter and her family missed out on their festive feast. My bloomin heart is playing up again!