To not look after my niece and nephew as it means dealing with a horrible SiL?

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howfartospar · 27/12/2024 15:08

My SiL can be very opinionated, bossy and falls out with lots of people.
She has been horrible to me previously and now I keep her at arms length for the sake of family peace.
My brother is quite hen pecked and I'm unable to just deal with him.
She's recently asked me to start babysitting my niece and nephew overnight. My issue is this would mean dealing with the SiL again and I want to say no. AIBU to do this and if not, how do I say no without it causing more arguments.

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Hankunamatata · 27/12/2024 15:19

To stay at your house? I'd offer to pick up and drop off home to minimise interaction

Someonelookedatmypostinghistorysoichanged · 27/12/2024 15:19

Regularly ? Or just once?
I wouldn’t do it regularly.. she’ll probably be a PITA about how you meet her standards.

Newname71 · 27/12/2024 15:18

Life’s too bloody short to put up with people who bring nothing good to the party! Tell her no and leave it at that!

GabriellaMontez · 27/12/2024 15:17

Regularly or a one off?

Harkinonnowhear · 27/12/2024 15:16

howfartospar · 27/12/2024 15:12

I'd love to look after the children, but not at the expense of dealing with my SiL I'm afraid.

It is a question of which you want more. If you don’t want to interact with your SIL more and she will be the one you have to interact with to make this happen then say “sorry that wot work for me.” Give her nothing more to work with, no explanation or argument. She won’t like it, but who cares, she doesn’t rule the world. You wot have a great relationship with your niece and nephew though, that will likely be the cost.

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howfartospar · 27/12/2024 15:12

I'd love to look after the children, but not at the expense of dealing with my SiL I'm afraid.

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StuffedFullOfFromage · 27/12/2024 15:10

Do you actively want to have the kids?

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