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Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

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pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:51

We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries.

We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day.

He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

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Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2024 14:01

How long was he at the gym?

I would be absolutely fine with this assuming he wasn't gone 5 hours.

3rdCoffeeThisMorning · 27/12/2024 14:00

Gotta love MN with the affair stuff😂

3rdCoffeeThisMorning · 27/12/2024 14:00

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:59

I should have elaborated more but it’s our first Christmas just us, we’re used to bigger family Christmases. And I just didn’t want to be on my own.

For one day I thought he could miss it. He goes pretty much every day (depending on work).

Did you make thos clear?

GetyourheadoutoftheovenIris · 27/12/2024 13:59

My gym was unmanned but open on Christmas Day. I was working but did 30 minutes before my shift. The only people (three of us) in there were all people that I know from the hospital.

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pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:59

I should have elaborated more but it’s our first Christmas just us, we’re used to bigger family Christmases. And I just didn’t want to be on my own.

For one day I thought he could miss it. He goes pretty much every day (depending on work).

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winterwarmer8274 · 27/12/2024 13:58

the gym near me was open, and I think it’s fine he went to the gym after you’d done all the other stuff.

I had a quiet Christmas with just my partner and spent a 2 hours of the day online shopping while he played an online game with his friends. We both had fun and spent the rest of the day together

What did have planned to do instead?

InSpainTheRain · 27/12/2024 13:58

I would be fine with this. You spent time together and he did something for himself too, but he wasn't gone all day.

Luddite26 · 27/12/2024 13:58

My first husband used to fuck off to the pub Xmas Day and we had kids so popping to the gym wouldn't bother me. But if it does you could have talked about your expectations before the big day. So YRBU.

Namechange1345677 · 27/12/2024 13:57

I went to the gym on Christmas day...what's the problem?

Elasticatedtrousers · 27/12/2024 13:57

Fair enough if it was indeed open. I'd be p'sed off though.

Anywherebuthere · 27/12/2024 13:57

How long does he spend there? If it's just an hour or two what's wrong with that?(If he was actually at the gym )

You don't have to be glued to the hip for the whole day.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 27/12/2024 13:56

I saw a few people out jogging and cycling on Christmas Day. Good on them, I thought.

Globules · 27/12/2024 13:56

Our council run gym was open 10am-4pm on Christmas Day.

I went for a 90 mins run Christmas morning.

You're right to be annoyed OP if you had other things planned for that time. If the alternative was vegging on the sofa, why would you be upset he did something he wanted to do with his Christmas?

And for all those insinuating he went somewhere that wasn't the gym, why on earth would you jump to "he's having an affair" because he went to the gym on Christmas day?!

Strikeoutnow · 27/12/2024 13:56

Someone will be along soon to tell you they did an Ironman in the morning & a triathlon after dinner. Gym is just part of their routine.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 27/12/2024 13:56

If it was definitely open maybe he was bored being stuck at home.

Icanttakethisanymore · 27/12/2024 13:55

I went for a run on Christmas Day which took about an hour. My DP went out on his bike for about 90 mins. I don’t think going to the gym is unreasonable unless he’s there for hours on end.

ForeverPombear · 27/12/2024 13:55

I think the PureGym near me were open Christmas day. OP I'd be checking to see if the gym he uses was open.

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pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:55

It was definitely open.

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Bewareofthisonetoo · 27/12/2024 13:55

Gyms are open!

TwinklyAmberOrca · 27/12/2024 13:55

Well you don't need to be by each others sides the entire day so sounds like a good idea!

Hope you enjoyed your free couple of hours to relax!

GCAcademic · 27/12/2024 13:54

Which gym opens on Christmas day? Because none that I know of does.

Sarahconnor1 · 27/12/2024 13:54

Some gyms were definitely open Xmas day, mine was

devildeepbluesea · 27/12/2024 13:54

Anytime Fitness gyms are open 24/7, so I can well believe it’s true. Also it doesn’t sound like he missed much?

TwinkleLights24 · 27/12/2024 13:54

I’d be checking their Christmas opening hours.

Hercisback1 · 27/12/2024 13:53

"gym" aye..

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