Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

Well, I guess that's just down to the variety of people you know. Gym bunnies are ten a penny, to me, it's utterly normal to be super into exercise. The gym is not usually my thing but if it was I'd probably think Xmas Day was a good time as it'd be quieter than normal. Leaping to "affair" about a bog standard activity (and then actually telling the OP this?!) just seems like a nasty, suspicious mind at work.

I did a 2 hour run christmas eve and DH 2 hour bike ride on Xmas day. My kids are now teenagers, so don't need entertaining and we are making the most of it since we spent years doing kids stuff. Also if you are into sports it is making the most of your days off work.

I don’t see the problem OP, if it’s just the 2 of you. It would be different if you had kids or family visiting, and he left you to do all the hosting, cooking etc on your own, while he buggered off to the gym. But if you’d had a nice chilled out day, just the 2 of you, I honestly can’t see what’s wrong with him going to the gym. When I was with my ex, pre kids, I would also go for a run on Christmas Day. It made me feel better after a sluggish day. I’d have been pretty pissed off if my partner had sulked about it.

Tell me about it!

Going to the gym on Christmas day , especially as it's just the two if you I wouldn't be annoyed but as others said I'd check the Christmas opening times for ths gym he goes to first...

Neither can I but the OP seems to have a problem with it.

That’s quite mean

I can't see the problem. Did you expect to be glued to each other's sides the whole day?
Would you have been upset if he'd just gone for a walk? Or taken an hour+ long bath? Or just had a nap?
Obviously assuming he was out for under 2 hours, I think you are being massively unreasonable. If you didn't want to be apart, maybe you should've gone with him

He enjoys it and it makes him feel good so why not. Some people get anxious if they don’t go to the gym, they feel sluggish and restless. I don’t see the issue. But if you didn’t want him to and told him that I can see why you feel it’s selfish to ignore your feelings, regardless of what it’s about it.

My dad used to use various reasons for having to leave the house on Christmas day so he could phone his affair partner(s).

@gannett I would have jumped to ‘affair’ too as I don’t know anyone who goes to a gym that often unless they’re very competitive and into bodybuilding or similar, and especially not on Christmas Day.

Seems a weird thing to want to do instead of spending the day together, that’s all. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why do you think it is wrong?

You spent most of the day together. Perfectly fine for him to spend an hour at the gym.

Does the full day have to mean 24/7, morning to night, without even a two-hour spell apart? I would have described my Xmas Day as being fully spent with DP even if I did have a 90-minute run and shower in the morning. Also did some hoovering in a separate room from him at one point. Also went to the loo on my own a few times.

I'm not sure we've ever spent a full day together by your standards!

I went for a run and to the hotel gym (we are away) on Christmas Day 🤪 ideal time for me as I'm usually at work and it's challenging to fit a work out in.

Lots of child free adults I know still go to the gym on Christmas day. Lots of 24 hour gyms are open on 25th

This is the kind of batshit response which I used to come on MN to laugh at but now I just think is pathetic.

Someone exercising on Xmas Day is really so unusual for you that you assume they're actually having an affair? I go for a run most years on Xmas Day (it sets me up very well for the feasting) and every year the parks and roads seem to be busier with fellow runners.

And get out of here with that fake "sorry" - given how quickly and mindlessly you came through with the "AFFAIR!" response I think you must enjoy putting needless doubt in posters' minds.

My parents often play tennis Christmas morning

If you did presents, watched a film, cooked and ate dinner then I'd be fine with it. I mean it's no different to walking the dog for an hour or so.

But then you drip-fed something about your first Christmas so I suppose YANBU (but I voted YABU with the information you gave in your OP).

It sounds claustrophobic!

Lots of 24/7 gyms were open on the 25th, same as ones in hotels etc.

Ha, you'd be surprised.

Not saying OP is needy, but I definitely know people who can't bear to be apart from their partners on "special occasions" - not even for an hour.

I could understand it but I think it’s a bit extreme and also were they even open?

This. I went for a run Christmas day. If I don't exercise then my mental health suffers. Yes even at Christmas. I left him at home in bed watching the news and returned just over an hour later. He didn't get annoyed at me and we still had a lovely day. You probably cast shade over the day with your expectations of spending the whole day together and being disgruntled when he didn't

I would have went to the gym as well if it was open. You could have gone with him. Blow the cobwebs away

If it was only the two of you why on earth are you pissed off he went to the gym? I started Christmas Day with a run - it was great and set me up for the day. My DS goes to the gym almost every day and he'd have probably gone on Christmas Day if it was open, but it wasn't.