Pregnant after two months - keep it?

Well you have both been utter fools!

He has a 5yr old in Nigeria?

So which child should he choose?

Or should he bring his wife & child over to you so that he can be with both of his kids?

What a mess!

After only two months although it feels like a special connection it’s really too soon to tell - it has only been 8 short weeks and
he may leave anyway
however, if you have been wanting a child and it sounds as if you do then here is your chance- it may not happen again
be honest with yourself and make your decision based on that

You’ve known him a minute. Do not count on him sticking around if you keep the baby or not. Can’t warn you any clearer.

That's without the risk of Hepatitis and HIV. Hepatitis B is still rampant throughout Nigeria.

Keep! Congratulations. As someone said above, do not have a termination just to keep your BF.

"We have spoken about babies and marriage already, but he wanted to start a career here first which is understandable."

Well you might not be able to get pregnant again, because you will be nearly 40. How old is he? I, knowing a lot of Nigerians would say he's future faking. If he wanted marriage, he'd be married. He's wanted to stay single. It's good that he's telling you to abort because he isn't just after a visa. Most Nigerians want to get to the States. The UK isn't what it was. As said, don't abort to keep him. I doubt that you will. Unless he is from a wealthy background understand what it's taken him to get to were her is. He isn't going to be telling you the full truth. He will tell you what you want to hear, though.

Getting pregnant on purpose with a man you don't know.
AKA ''Forced fatherhood''.

He was very foolish not to use condoms, especially as he had a child in his home country {probably a wife as well}

It would have been far more sensible to have gone to a legitimate sperm donor place, where the donors are screened for health and potential genetic conditions.

Not sure I would have taken the risk of a STI tho!

I wouldn’t, I wouldn’t want to risk being tied to someone forever if things go wrong, what if he is abusive, controlling, what if you just aren’t compatible?
I wouldn’t want to bring a child into the world knowing them may have to be raised inbetween homes from day one or have a father who isn’t present at all. The emotional implications that has on a child can be huge, the feeling of abandonment and rejection.
There’s so much to consider. It is your body and your choice at the end of the day but try to think of it from every angle.

Keep the baby, he will either stick around or he won't.. you can't change that.
Be prepared to do it on your own if need be

Not neccessarily, given that he's not a UK national.and already has a child (?family) in his home country. He could quite easily walk away tomorrow forever, with zero repercussions (not suggesting that is ok, but it's the truth).

Keep it. Just explain to him why and that if he wants to leave he can.

He’s probably married in Nigeria .

OP this man is not the one.

But keep the baby if you want it.

I would keep the baby, but accept the reality that you will more than likely be raising the child without the father’s help. I don’t agree in these circumstances that you will be permanently tied to him, as it’s likely he will return to his home country. Do what’s right for you OP, don’t be influenced into making a decision to please someone else. Good luck.

Keep the baby, u will be fine no matter what x

I don’t think you having the baby or not will be the make or break of the relationship. If he has a DC already, currently in a different country, I would be actively encouraging him to go back and parent said child. Not abandon them completely to start a new life with you.

It’s been 2 months. As big and heart filled as your eyes may be, this isn’t the one. I think setting those ambitions aside and focusing on your pregnancy is the way forward. Fuck anyone’s judgements, you’re already pregnant now. It’s happened. They can think what they like. People will likely judge for your choice to keep or terminate, it’s not their business and there’s no changing that whatsoever done is done. Do as you wish and keep the baby.

How would you feel if I offered my congratulations?

where he is from is incredibly important.
YOu say he wants a visa, well baby is a door to one i would think?
how does he pay for his studies?

If he's got a child already, he's almost certainly married.
Rushing in like this is very unwise.
Would have been better to have used a sperm donor , rather than got pregnant so desperately soon after meeting this man.

You can't possibly know what he's like after eight or so weeks!

Keep the baby if you want, but don’t bank on the man sticking around. I would say plan to raise the baby alone and if the man sticks around it’s a bonus. Sorry to be blunt.

I'm pro choice. If I was 36, child less, wanted children, and was pregnant I'd be keeping it. As it is I had two babies in my late 30s so I was lucky. Good luck.

Please remember you will have to deal with this man for the rest of your life and you do not really know him after 2 months

If I was without kids, desperate to be a mum, and 36, considering going it alone anyway, I would continue with the pregnancy. You can hope that the relationship continues, but long term, how many relationships actually work out? Not many. But what are the chances that no matter what happens, if you have this baby, you’ll love it like nothing before? That’s a 100% chance.
(and you save yourself the cost and pain of doing it via a donor)
I think you have to be fully accepting that the relationship may well end and you won’t see your boyfriend for dust.

Where's he from, OP?