Pregnant after two months - keep it?

What on earth are you on about?! No im going off the nhs website and general knowledge that everyone knows! https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/infertility/diagnosis/#:~:text=You%20should%20see%20a%20GP,when%20reaching%20your%20mid%2D30s The chances of getting pregnant within one year when 24 is 86 cent but chances of getting pregnant at between 35-39 within a year is 52 percent.

No it’s not - that link says that over 80% of under 40s will conceive within a year.

https://uk.clearblue.com/fertility/getting-pregnant-over-35

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20240313-the-fertility-myth-most-advice-says-womens-fertility-declines-after-35-the-truth-is-more-complicated

It’s bloody scaremongering. Women have been having babies after 35 forever.

I was 34 when I had my first baby and pretty much the youngest in my NCT Cohort, who all went on to have second children with little issue. I appreciate anecdote isn’t data but even when having my 2nd at 39 no one even blinked at my age during my appointments.

What on earth are you on about?! No im going off the nhs website and general knowledge that everyone knows! https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/infertility/diagnosis/#:~:text=You%20should%20see%20a%20GP,when%20reaching%20your%20mid%2D30s The chances of getting pregnant within one year when 24 is 86 cent but chances of getting pregnant at between 35-39 within a year is 52 percent.

Whatever you do , do not abort the baby to keep the man.

I very much agree with this.

What on earth are you on about?! No im going off the nhs website and general knowledge that everyone knows! https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/infertility/diagnosis/#:~:text=You%20should%20see%20a%20GP,when%20reaching%20your%20mid%2D30s The chances of getting pregnant within one year when 24 is 86 cent but chances of getting pregnant at between 35-39 within a year is 52 percent.

Fertility doesn't drop at 36. You are going off church records in 1700s where the sudden decline was because mothers usually died mid 30s hence the explanation for a drop in live births after that date.

The OP will have long gone. Your comment is ridiculous. Being female isn't a free pass to avoid all criticism from other women.

The OP was acting like a love struck 16 year old. She and the man both behaved irresponsibly.

That is not a ridiculous comment. It is absolutely disappointing and actually quite bizarre that you continue to kick a woman when she’s down, who stated she thinks she is having a miscarriage.

Bore off with your bitter and condescending nonsense.

I was responding to this ridiculous comment.

Sorry about some of the awful judgemental comments you have received. Very disappointing when women shame other women.

As if being female means you should support anything another woman does.

Just being female does not oblige me to support every bad choice made by another woman.

And yes, I have seen the OP's update. I don't retract any of my comments about the OP's and this man's lack of responsibility.

Just being female does not oblige me to support every bad choice made by another woman.

And yes, I have seen the OP's update. I don't retract any of my comments about the OP's and this man's lack of responsibility.

You will regret it for the rest of your life if you don’t manage to have a baby after this, you are 36, your fertility is now dropping. What is more important? A very much wanted babies life or a relationship?

I'm in a sticky situation and I don't know what to do.

Just found out that I'm pregnant, on Christmas Day.

I've been in my current relationship just two months, but it's the best connection I've ever had and see long term potential with this man.

I'm 36, have no other children and all I've ever wanted is to become a mum. Before this relationship I had spoken about going it alone because I didn't think I'd find anyone.

I've told him but he said the timing is all wrong. He's just finishing his Masters (mature student) and I'm in a secure job but don't earn tons. He's also from abroad on a student visa so pressure is on to find a proper job in the New Year so he can stay.

I think I would have help from family if the worst happened but I also don't want to lose this special relationship if he really doesn't want the baby right now.

What would you do?

Just being female does not oblige me to support every bad choice made by another woman.

And yes, I have seen the OP's update. I don't retract any of my comments about the OP's and this man's lack of responsibility.

Just being female does not oblige me to support every bad choice made by another woman.

And yes, I have seen the OP's update. I don't retract any of my comments about the OP's and this man's lack of responsibility.

Just being female does not oblige me to support every bad choice made by another woman.

And yes, I have seen the OP's update. I don't retract any of my comments about the OP's and this man's lack of responsibility.

I hope you’re okay OP. Sorry about some of the awful judgemental comments you have received. Very disappointing when women shame other women.

Take care of yourself.

Thanks for all your advice and comments - from the supportive to the judgements, I appreciate and understand all of it.

Just wanted to update and end the thread here. Tonight I've started cramping and spotting so I'm assuming I'm experiencing a chemical pregnancy. I'll test again in a few days and decide where to go from there, but I won't update again. Probably for the best really.

Thanks for all your advice and comments - from the supportive to the judgements, I appreciate and understand all of it.

Just wanted to update and end the thread here. Tonight I've started cramping and spotting so I'm assuming I'm experiencing a chemical pregnancy. I'll test again in a few days and decide where to go from there, but I won't update again. Probably for the best really.