22 months being referred to the paediatrician

@Bogginsthe3rd 22 months- almost 2, however still 1

Sounds like me when I was little, I was just painfully shy and had a lot of social anxiety, was diagnosed with ocd very very young as a lot of the obvious ocd things would start coming out more when I was anxious around people

You posted this is a few days ago.

Are you feeling worried? Concerned she is being refered when it isn’t needed?

Don't know if this will be helpful or not but our nursery picked some things up at their 2yrs review (feb) which prompted her 2-2.5yr check to be done earlier followed by her ASQ-SE at an integrated review at nursery in the spring. She was taken to panel and we have just had her first appointment with a paedtrician and speech and language therapist who basically said after a couple hrs of observation and questions that is on the spectrum.

Now when we initially went to the nursery shortly after she turned two I was completely caught off guard, her physical development are fine as is speech, they brought up issues with social and emotional which we had no knowledge about, this was further compounded by the hospital review.

So we are now waiting up to 12months for an early bird parenting course but will be doing our own research and education in the meantime

There are so many things to process but I'm so glad it was picked up on early as getting help at school age can be a nightmare

That doesn’t sound concerning to me. I would say the key thing is you need to start pushing out of the comfort zone you have got into and going to more place, lack of exposure won’t help her develop the skills.

Given she's 2, that's not great news !

Sounds typical but under socialised. Start going to playgroup/ballet/swimming classes, and going to cafes for treats and the playground/softplay. She’ll acclimatise to more noise and bustle if you let her.

How can a two.year old be socially anxious ?
Its,normal for them to be clingy, to their parents at that age its also.normal for them to play alongside other children rather than with them.

Blimey, my 2 year old will only eat Wotsits at the moment. He's going to look like an Oompa-Loompa soon. OP, kindly, do you have anxiety?

Bloody hell, my 2.3 year old has no words and eats alot less than what yours eats and only now are they taking me seriously. Oh and he scored 8 on the mchat. Honestly she sounds completely normal. Stop looking for problems where there aren't any

Seems very odd referral
Diet is fine
But go along with it
Paediatrician will observe and refer on or not fir physio or Ot or SLt

I'd be quite wary of anyone who referred my two year old to a paediatrician because of 'social anxiety'.

Why has she been referred? There must be more to it than this.

There is nothing here that wouldn't have been true of all of my three except the toe walking. And that's not a concern on its own; I've known several children who toe walked and only one had any extra needs at all, and those were mild.

My DD had an autism and learning disability diagnosis at about this age, it's quite unusual to have one so early and it usually means that the differences are very noticeable. She was completely non-verbal, had very obvious stimming behaviours (spinning, holding her hands to cold items, rocking), and she wouldn't chew food so any food had to be in tiny bite-sized pieces. It was the beginning of a 12 month (very smooth) journey towards diagnosis, with an OT referral, speech therapy, learning disability social worker (who co-ordinated everything) and the paeds doctor as well. We then had our final meeting with the paeds doctor to confirm diagnosis and to discuss a care plan moving forwards. Every child is different, and a paeds appointment could identify mobility needs (e.g., for toe walking) without any neurodivergence at all, so just go with it and see what is said.

Most of what you've said isn't a big deal, even the toe walking, plenty of kids and even adults toe walk and it's fixated on as an issue but isn't generally a sign of anything. BUT your child has to socialise so if she's only happy with the 3 of you in the house then it makes sense to have support with that, she's going to be going to preschool and school at some stage so it's worrying if she's not comfortable anywhere else and missing part of her development.

Did the HV do the Social & Emotional Ages & Stages?

Haven't you started several.threads,about this,,?Most of what you have,written seems,quite normal.for a,child of her age
Her diet also.seems very good
Autism.has,a,genetic factor but that doesn't always,mean what people think it mean ,s my son for example!e has,a,rare chromosome disorder thought to.be an underlying reason for autism and other complex disabilities,so there for genetic but it hasn't been inherited and neither me or his,Dad are autistic
There is not one cause for autism and the,spectrum is vast.

Honestly, no one can answer your concerns online. This is such a small snapshot of your daughter at a young age by her mother that it’s pretty impossible to determine anything.
The paediatrician will be objective and more than likely offer support with areas of concern like toe walking - physio and refer back to HV for social
support etc. it would be very inisual
to get a diagnosis at that age. Not unheard of but not likely.
as for familial factors of ND, they could well be there but undiagnosed and unrecognised. Family members may be masking etc. or be known as
slightly Quirky etc. you never know. It’s only much later I can see it in my family and we are all over 40yrs.

She sounds like a typical nearly two year old. I’m not too sure why you’ve been referred.

Didn't you post this a few days ago?

What is the question?

She sounds an entirely typical 1 year old to me

What’s the AIBU?