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To not help my mum?

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stackesontop · 26/12/2024 22:44

I’ve gone back home from Christmas Eve and leaving on Saturday. My mum is hosting a second Christmas Day tomorrow for my other siblings and their children. She didn’t host Christmas.

I love her but she’s extremely lazy. She’s been a housewife for 40 years. Shes now doing a mad tidy up session because her house is brimming with junk. Asking me today to take boxes into the attic and into the garage.

I’ve done the minimum but ultimately she’s had all the time in the world to do this. I have my own house, a stressful job that I’m off this week and just want to chill and eat tbh. I don’t want to clean another and tidy another (capable) adults house because they’ve not bothered.

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BlondieDH · 26/12/2024 22:49

IAmInTheBath · 26/12/2024 22:48

Well maybe she's lazy but you sound lazy too.

You said you love her, but you won't help her when she's asking for help?!

Because her mums lazy and had loads of time to sort the house? Rtt??

PicturePlace · 26/12/2024 22:49

Just help your Mum. FGS.

Busywithsomething · 26/12/2024 22:49

If you think she would learn from it, you could leave her to it.. But it sounds like you've already done some of it so why not slow down, take it easy and try and enjoy the gathering.. people can overlook a bit of messiness for the sake of a get- together. Worse things to worry about.

IAmInTheBath · 26/12/2024 22:48

Well maybe she's lazy but you sound lazy too.

You said you love her, but you won't help her when she's asking for help?!