Husband doesn’t want me working part time even though we can afford it

@MumWifeOther don’t pretend to be “happy for me” after making insulting presumptions about working mums and their children being burdens , which you still haven’t explained further or commented on.

I can believe that

So let me get this clear you’re comparing adult human female nurturing to a rat nurturing
sample size?
Qualitative or quantitative data
Tell Me how are you interviewing the rats & bats?
Look we all get arguing a pov online but you took it too far. Not all mammals are equal or comparable
i will let you gracefully drop your ill thought out point as it’s embarrassing to see you labour on

@MumWifeOther oh I’m sooooo happy for you too. How fake lol

And I’m really happy for you. I’m equally happy to identify as a mother and wife first and foremost, at this time in my life. My children are now all in school but those early years having them all at home, were the happiest days of my life and I’m so grateful I squeezed every thing out of it that I could. ❤️

@MumWifeOther even though you think I think my child is a “burden” at least I have my own life and identity outside of being a mum.

It rings true here 🫶🏽

I imagine I will take up a hobby or who knows.. maybe I’ll get a coveted part time job since they seem all the rage 😅 I’m not worried. I’m sure I’ll be able to fill
my days.

Happy wife, happy life is so asinine
its a catchphrase not an instruction

Yes that’s exactly what I’m saying - women are nurterers by design. We are mammals after all.

@MumWifeOther
if you are even pining around missing your kids when they are at school now , how will you be when they fly the nest ? I’m too busy during the day to be having these thoughts and then I relish my time off and weekends with my dc. Its great.

I don’t owe it to you to answer questions. I can’t say what working mothers feel. I can only talk about my life and my opinions, and I would hate my kids to see my juggle their care and feel a burden.

Are you seriously making a like for like comparison human adult female nurturing compared to generic animal kingdom
what’s your sample size? Who are the participants

He’s not happy, but there are plenty of men who would be with this set up - my husband was. Happy wife, happy life!

You didn’t answer my question about children of working mothers being a burden.

Op has no children, she wants to faff and wants him to pay. Understandably he’s not happy

So in the animal kingdom when the female nurture the offspring that’s societal pressure?!

I haven’t because I don’t want a a career! I want to be with my children and be of service to my family for as long as possible. I have zero interest in working for someone else to benefit them and their life. I would much rather support my husband to become successful and take care of us all.

That’s simply not true. There’s no physiological or neurological difference or design that renders men less able

social pressure drive such statements - that’s ideology not design

@MumWifeOther I eat dinner with my family every evening, my child is not a burden at all. what makes you think that women who work and pay for childcare think of their children as burdens ? And not all jobs are stressful.

It doesn’t really sound like you’ve had a steady career or much experience to know this.

I believe it’s the other way round and society is brain washing us to down play our natural instincts 🤷🏽‍♀️

this is what society brainwashes women to think. Lots of women are not nurturing and plenty of men are.

That’s your opinion and you are entitled to it. But I would never agree that children are better off at a crèche or a nursery, than home with a parent and there are many studies that support this.

I think it’s important for children to see a healthy family dynamic, a stress free home as much as possible, to eat dinner together and have a parent collect them from school. I would hate to have to juggle or stress about childcare in the holidays or for my children to feel like a burden.

and honestly, my days are so full with them at school. I blink and it’s 3pm! I do as much as I can in the day so that when they come home I can be as present as possible as I miss them so much when they’re at school. I also really value having the quiet time without having to talk to anyone unless I choose to see someone! I also get my walks in and time for myself which means I never resent the weekends being totally child-centred.

This is what I believe to optimal and I am grateful for every that we get to live this way 🙏🏽

Predominantly on mn not in real life there’s an ideology of trad wife and martyr who gives up things (career, financial autonomy) to prove how committed and devoted she is to being a housewife. Married to a titan of corporate world who earns £six figures but cannot keep on top of mundane admin or chores. Step up the trad wife who will list routine tasks as if they’re complex and onerous to justify why she can’t work. Ever

“elfshenanigans · Yesterday 16:56
totally unreasonable in the absence of DC. I can understand why DH wouldn't want to fund this lifestyle choice. You are two adults. there should be plenty of time to take care of cooking and cleaning. How would you think you'd manage with DC. Also, have you considered the long term impact on career, pensions etc?”

This with bells on.