Husband doesn’t want me working part time even though we can afford it

Yet you say no man can ever be as good a parent as a woman?

Really? You're aware that there are neglectful mothers, yes? Look at this website and read all the posts by women who were abused, beaten, ignored or just treated badly by their own mothers. Yet all those are automatically better than any father? What a load of shite!

You do realise I was brought up in the same
society as your daughter with a working parent and still grew up to become “entirely dependent” on another adult? Don’t be so sure your daughter won’t follow suit. If she does, I hope she’s as happy as I am 😄

That is my belief yes.

I saw my friends mum having to ask her dad for money every time she wanted to buy something in the 90s .
i just thought gosh I’d hate that lifestyle, I want a care like my own mum. Both my parents had careers when I was a child and I was proud of them. I still am and I never felt like a burden growing up.

I saw my mum going out to work and believe me when I say, it very much cemented how much I didn’t want that lifestyle for myself. My daughter is free to choose whatever she wants.

Yes I’m telling you my opinion, that’s all. To me I suppose nature is as factual as it gets. You don’t have to agree.

And so instead you’ve got a lifestyle that is entirely dependent on another adult. I am truly thankful that you are in the minority in your not only ignorant but also very narrow minded beliefs and that your views are not reflective of the society my daughter is growing up in.

I saw my mum going out to work and believe me when I say, it very much cemented how much I didn’t want that lifestyle for myself. My daughter is free to choose whatever she wants.

@MumWifeOther you’re presenting your opinion as fact. Belief presented as evidence. You’ve got a few ill thought out quips. You said you don’t care for empirical data or methodology . You have this opinion and no factual interruption will change your mind

If you are truly exhausted by a normal work schedule and ordinary chores around the house, I would recommend contacting your GP. You may have a medical issue. Otherwise it seems very odd to want to work part time just to cope with adult life.

Yet you say no man can ever be as good a parent as a woman?

Which would all be split in the divorce, and unless you have millions you’ll still need a job to support yourself and your children.

I just think there’s a lot more to it than you make it out to be, and children with working mums grow up knowing women can work too. It’s important for children to see their parents going out to work, especially if you have daughters, women can do ANYTHING, far more than just giving birth.

Im sure they can be amazing parents. They still need the woman to have a baby.

Who said I haven’t accumalated assets in the 13 years I’ve been married?

You do realise homosexual male couples also have children, are amazing parents?

Do you ever do any book reading?

I don’t care about sample size or anything else.

I am literally telling you I believe women are nurturers by design. I think that’s why we have a womb, we have a menstrual cycle, we are able to conceive, give birth and breast feed. Mothers are in tune with their newborns and children, more than a father could ever be. This doesn’t suddenly stop when they reach school age.

You can fight nature if you want. I just don’t want to.

And just out of curiosity, what about if your husband changed his mind and wanted out of your marriage tomorrow? You’ve got no independence, you’re entirely reliant on a man who tomorrow could decide he’s in love with the lady at the coffee shop and never wants to see you or your kids again, you’re not particularly employable after years out of work, no recent work experience or qualifications, no contacts. It’s harsh but you only have to look on here any given day and see multiple threads where divorce has come as a complete and total shock in what the wife believed was a total happy marriage to last forever. Protecting yourself is so so important, not just for you but for the children because the jobs you’d have to take when it’s urgent and you need the money are not the most child-friendly ones, and the pension those jobs give you to retire on aren’t going to go anywhere close to funding the lifestyle you may want, but that ex husband will continue to thrive with no career breaks.

I don’t care about sample size or anything else.

I am literally telling you I believe women are nurturers by design. I think that’s why we have a womb, we have a menstrual cycle, we are able to conceive, give birth and breast feed. Mothers are in tune with their newborns and children, more than a father could ever be. This doesn’t suddenly stop when they reach school age.

You can fight nature if you want. I just don’t want to.

I don’t owe it to you to answer questions. I can’t say what working mothers feel. I can only talk about my life and my opinions, and I would hate my kids to see my juggle their care and feel a burden.

@MumWifeOther don’t pretend to be “happy for me” after making insulting presumptions about working mums and their children being burdens , which you still haven’t explained further or commented on.

So let me get this clear you’re comparing adult human female nurturing to a rat nurturing
sample size?
Qualitative or quantitative data
Tell Me how are you interviewing the rats & bats?
Look we all get arguing a pov online but you took it too far. Not all mammals are equal or comparable
i will let you gracefully drop your ill thought out point as it’s embarrassing to see you labour on

Yes that’s exactly what I’m saying - women are nurterers by design. We are mammals after all.