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Husband doesn’t want me working part time even though we can afford it

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ThatFunRubyHelper · 26/12/2024 16:42

DH and I don’t have children yet. He makes a good salary working full time, and it’s possible for us to live from his salary but I work full time and contribute too.

I would really like to work part time as I want more time to properly clean the house, and spend time making healthy meals for us from scratch. On the weekends I don’t feel like I have enough time to properly rest too. I get tired quite easily and I’m honestly so exhausted from my work, on top of a few hours commute everyday. My DH is pretty energetic so doesn’t have this issue.

I’ve spoken about this to DH and he’s told me that he wants to send me abroad to a country where people work 11 hours a day 6 days a week to see what tired really looks like(then later claims he was joking). So I don’t have much understanding from him!

Am I being unreasonable to want to work part time?

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poemsandwine · 26/12/2024 16:47

YABVU. That's just taking the piss.

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 26/12/2024 16:47

How much life and home admin/work does dh do?

If the answer is less than 50% then you have a dh problem not a work life balance problem.

What happens if you go part time and then dh feels he needs to do the same? Can you afford for you both to do it?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 26/12/2024 16:46

Hmmm.

Berga · 26/12/2024 16:46

If you can work part time and still proportionally contribute, then why not, but it doesn't sound like you can do this. If your DH was all for it/you had children/ you were happy to be in a financially vulnerable position should he leave etc. then maybe it would be ok. Your DH doesn't sound best impressed though.

Maybe get your health checked out as being this tired is probably a cause for concern.

Runningoutofthyme · 26/12/2024 16:46

LOL

KimberleyClark · 26/12/2024 16:46

YANBU to want to, but your DH is not unreasonable to not want you to either.

TwinklyAmberOrca · 26/12/2024 16:46

Yabu to want to work part time.

Make sure chores are split 50/50 and get a cleaner.

Hoardasurass · 26/12/2024 16:45

Why don't you let him work part time so he can look after the house whilst you work full-time to fund it

biscuitsandbooks · 26/12/2024 16:44

You're taking the piss, yes?

Pumpkintopf · 26/12/2024 16:44

Does he do 50% of the cleaning and cooking, as you're both working full time?

If not, there's your issue and the reason you're tired.

Why would you want to drop to part time reducing your salary and future pension, to cook and clean for him if he doesn't pull his weight?

VodkaCola · 26/12/2024 16:44

What a horrible man.

Please think carefully about having children with him.